I think I'm bi?

[nunofyourbiz]

HAHA Great you'll be jumped in 3...2...1

 

[reach]

Heterosexism at its finest! Maybe some internalized homophobia as well???

 

[ashonfire]

are you sexually attracted to men?

are you sexually attracted to women?

if you answered yes to both questions then, congratulations, you are bisexual.

 

[TheTrish]

I don't really know if I am gay or not. I can tell you i've only been with 1 guy, although, if I were to drop a few pounds, would be a total slut in that department.
Haven't been with any women.

I just can't see myself spending the rest of my life with a man, just don't know why. Just seems o have to picture that entire family package, wife, kids, etc, etc. I am in my late 20's and just seems important.

All and all, my take on things is women are for love and men are for sex.

Is this wrong or am I just in denial

Hi, nyc! I'm sorry you didn't get more helpful comments.

You probably want to know if, when you live as a father and a hsband, will you still have gay impulses? I don't know, I do know a girl who went "straight" for marriage. She hasn't strayed... yet!

T

 

[HeliosZephyr]

Nice attitude......I bet that makes all the guys on here feel so special, lol.

lol That's basically my mindset. I can't see myself falling in love with a guy or spending my life with him, but having sex? No problem. As for women it's the opposite. I can see myself falling in love with them but not having sex with them (at least not actually enjoying it, just pretending).

 

[Piquechampion]

lol That's basically my mindset. I can't see myself falling in love with a guy or spending my life with him, but having sex? No problem. As for women it's the opposite. I can see myself falling in love with them but not having sex with them (at least not actually enjoying it, just pretending).

Wow, totally confussing

 

[rahzael2006]

Hey, I'm bi too. I know I want a wife and kids with the white picket fence, and etc.,etc. There is one thing i know in my good old heart of hearts to is that I cound never give up the cock. Personally I think your are Just getting it where you can get it.

 

[playwithmemonkey]

lol That's basically my mindset. I can't see myself falling in love with a guy or spending my life with him, but having sex? No problem. As for women it's the opposite. I can see myself falling in love with them but not having sex with them (at least not actually enjoying it, just pretending).

Thats exactly how I feel. I am sexually attracted to men, but emotionally attracted to women. Damn I am so screwed up.

 

[Seasoned]

I think you are gay. The coming out process can be a bitch. Be gentle with yourself and ignore comments from those who don't want to remember what it is like to admit that one is different from the majority. Stay open to the process and take good care of yourself. Gays come in all sizes so don't get caught up with comparing. Porn may not help with self esteem issues.

 

[playwithmemonkey]

Hey, if anything while may not be politically correct, could always have the wife and kids and get some dick on the side

Not if you want to grow old with her.

 

[Piquechampion]

Hey, if anything while may not be politically correct, could always have the wife and kids and get some dick on the side

That´s fine as long as she´s able to get some dick on the side too. What you think?

 

[Piquechampion]

Can it be the same

 

[nate78]

Well, I can tell you I used to think EXACTLY THE SAME THING. I'm totally gay though. Was then, am now. It may be that you are being influenced by societal norms and want to embrace your sexuality whilst still being "mainstream". If you are NOT out this is probably what's going on. When you do come out, you will accept yourself as others start to accept you, but don't rely on their opinions to define who you are. Confusing enough? sorry. just speaking from personal experience.

 

[EricCage]

If you are not attracted to women (sex included) then you are gay. I'm attracted to both men and women.

 

[NastyBlkNWhteCouple]

lol That's basically my mindset. I can't see myself falling in love with a guy or spending my life with him, but having sex? No problem. As for women it's the opposite. I can see myself falling in love with them but not having sex with them (at least not actually enjoying it, just pretending).

My opinion-with all due respect is-that sex and love are two seperate things-they can coexist-but sex and love really do not have much to do with eachother-but-again- they can coexist---
Whatever sex one is attracted to tends to define one's sexuality--not who one 'sees' themselves falling in LOVE with in a sort of 'fairytale'-or dream of the future---that's a seperate subject-at least in my opinion--and I do say all of this with respect-
I am gay man-and have felt love for many women in my life-and on different levels-but I did not really-feel any sexual charge with them.....But I did with a man-on an extreme level....
That makes me gay---though I tend to hate labels-I accept that---because I put it on----
I could torture myself into getting married and having kids with a woman that doesnt get me off-and end up paying child support-LOL-forever-or I could just choose to do what I REALLY like--
And I personally choose the latter-
Also-I don't think love sees gender-
Sexuality does----though-sometimes it's even just about energy-not gender-
I mean-if a guy is bi-when he's with a woman-he is gettin off on being with a woman-and when he's with a man-he's getting off on being with a man-
Or maybe these energies can even be admired-and flipped-with the opposite gender than what they are generally associated with---whatever floats their boat-right? lol
Either way-IF I love having sex with men-
But I don't see myself having as hot of sex with a woman-
I would think that I am a gay man---(on the subject of sexuality.)

 

[bastard wing]

BTW, when I tell the guys at the gym to "Get cut, or else, eat a hairy bear butt", they somehow get that extra burst of energy and start pumping like mad men.

What, because it's so much sexier with a guy who shaves/waxes his ass?
Most people have their own "type" that they're attracted to, this is something that everyone knows and accepts, so then why do people insist on reinforcing the idea that there should still exist certain standards of what it's socially acceptable to look like?

 

[conrad]

WESTWOOD BLUES, your post is right on the mark; if one is only after the quick thrill, casual sex may be the way to go. But those of us who have wanted something more find that the path is friendship and love. That takes time and eludes those who are out for the immediate satisfaction of "getting off." Sex in the context of a long term relationship is a wonderful affirmation and reaffirmation of the bonds that have been created between two persons.

 

[NastyBlkNWhteCouple]

My opinion-with all due respect is-that sex and love are two seperate things-they can coexist-but sex and love really do not have much to do with eachother-but-again- they can coexist---
Whatever sex one is attracted to tends to define one's sexuality--not who one 'sees' themselves falling in LOVE with in a sort of 'fairytale'-or dream of the future---that's a seperate subject-at least in my opinion--and I do say all of this with respect-
I am gay man-and have felt love for many women in my life-and on different levels-but I did not really-feel any sexual charge with them.....But I did with a man-on an extreme level....
That makes me gay---though I tend to hate labels-I accept that---because I put it on----
I could torture myself into getting married and having kids with a woman that doesnt get me off-and end up paying child support-LOL-forever-or I could just choose to do what I REALLY like--
And I personally choose the latter-
Also-I don't think love sees gender-
Sexuality does----though-sometimes it's even just about energy-not gender-
I mean-if a guy is bi-when he's with a woman-he is gettin off on being with a woman-and when he's with a man-he's getting off on being with a man-
Or maybe these energies can even be admired-and flipped-with the opposite gender than what they are generally associated with---whatever floats their boat-right? lol
Either way-IF I love having sex with men-
But I don't see myself having as hot of sex with a woman-
I would think that I am a gay man---(on the subject of sexuality.)

Hey westwood blues.....
Just to clarify-Here above-is what I said in full.

And actually I wasnt saying that sex and love did not or could not coexist--But really what I am sayin is that love doesn't always lead to sex and sex doesn't always lead to love---They are two seperate things that can be brought together-which is the best of both worlds-so to speak....
My lover and I are also in a commited relationship---and for 10 years now-and sex and love do go hand in hand with us. But that's more on the subject of relationships-
My post was more in response to a guy who said he is attracted to men sexually-but doesnt see himself fallin in love with a man-but does see himself falling in love with a woman-yet he doesn't see himself ever feeling as sexually attracted to a woman like he is to men.....

I was simply stating that love does not see gender----
And stating that sex and love can obviously be seperated--or brought together.
I was talking more about how it is possible for one to limit oneself based off of gender-when it comes to love and sexuality.
Peace.....

 

[bastard wing]

Who cares about what society reinforces? It's a matter of personal taste. Most of the guys I hang with, including my boyfriend, are into buffed bodies and clean shaved, round, tight asses. Even a swimmer with a slender, muscular build is attractive to me. The bottom line is that an athletic, healthy look is a turn on for me. And there are variations on this look.

Personally, I'm not into the extreme buffed look that many competitive body builders have either. That's just too bulky looking for me. This is what most of my friends and I find attractive. You have a problem with that? Actually if you're really determined to find a scapegoat, why don't you go after the people in the gay porn industry if you really want to target those that largely establish and reinforce standards of male body image in the gay community? Ever see a Kristen Bjorn film?

Why would i have a problem with who or what you find attractive? That's not the point, the point is that you're arguing from a perspective that everyone else shares your views on what is and what isn't attractive.

 

[NastyBlkNWhteCouple]

That's a good point....
I particularly find many different types of men and many different body types attractive....not just the gym-buff types...or the ever overly popular twink types....
It depends on the person...and what my man and I are in the mood for.
(particularly-from a voyeristic point of view-)