I wanna try cock in the worst way

[jt1963]

Well I was in the same boat but after my divorce I tried having sex with a man and I will never go back to women I to started by watching gay movies good luck

 

[cuteguyincali]

I just don't get it. There is a lot of stuff on this site especially in the fetishes section I don't agree with and that I think it's immoral. But guess what? I don't go into those threads and give unsolicited advice or lectures about morality. I just exit those threads and go into threads I do like. Why can't people for this type topic just respect this thread and go elsewhere.

We are ALL adults. We know what's right and wrong and we don't need anyone to remind us otherwise. It is NOT your duty to steer us in the "right" direction.

I was really looking forward to reading more about this but it never fails, someone has to hijack the thread with their morality lectures we DON'T need.

The OP's life is NOT your life.
It doesn't not affect YOUR relationship one bit
You DON'T pay his bills...so mind your own!
And if you can relate because "it happened to you" THIS instance is NOT YOURS.

Let me clarify I do agree with "cheating is wrong" But who am I to lecture?

I come to read these topics because I'm also a married bisexual. And I come to read threads like this because it helps me a lot to deal with my conflicts. It's like therapy. But the morality police that feels the need to chime in isn't doing guys like us any favors by hijacking the threads with their unsolicited nonsense.

The other topic the morality police show up constantly are the "bareback threads" Start one of those and all of a sudden everyone is an AIDS doctor. I never done it, never will but the thought of bare backing and cumming in my hole turns me the hell on and reading the threads is therapeutic for me...EXCEPT when some douche feels the need to chime in about how dangerous it is and ruins the thread.

If you don't like the topic, STAY OUT OF IT! SIMPLE! LET OTHERS BE!!

 

[sixthson]

You would think a man who doesn't care what his wife thinks about his secret life, shouldn't really care what we think.

 

[boydgivenswashere]

Didn't mean to start a huge,war and I didn't say I was going to cheat on my wife either. Just that I wish I had tried it at least once before I married.

 

[diesel]

Basically, I'm allowed to do anything the hell I want. I know right from wrong, and I also know I'm not perfect. I'm aware of my shortcomings, but that's something I have to live with, not you. So, it's my life, and back the F off and mind your own business. I don't need you to condone my behavior or tell me what you think of me. If you really think I'm unfit for this world, then please be the holier than thou person that you think you are and pray for me quietly. Time for me to move on to more interesting threads, since trying to be understanding of someone's feelings and challenges and offer support to someone without being judgmental was completely obliviated by a few a-holes.

 

[ravenstar]

I had a friend once whose husband waited until they were married to start experimenting with men. After 2 children he decided he was gay and walked out, leaving her with 2 small boys.

Whatever decision the OP makes and whatever path he sets himself on, I hope he realises there are other people who'll be effected by his decisions now, and the longer he waits, the more risk there is that small people will one day enter the equation.

 

[medic1]

How unusual, all the angst and anger are coming from married bisexuals doing the deed on the down low.

Offering support/advice is far easier when you to keep such a secret from your wife's.

We have bisexual members who are married and have told their wife's.

The thread title says it all.

I wanna try cock in the worst way

 

[cuteguyincali]

I just dont understand why it bothers people so much when its nome of their business. If he asked if it was wrong feel free to chime in. But no one asked for your negative opinion. Mind your own business and let the op express himself without guilt trips. Its not your life. Its his. We all know the consequences no one needs to be reminded, scolded, or preached to. So many people judging just for being gay. To those people being gay alone is immoral. I bet it would annoy you to have the bible thumpers troll into your thread all the time and remind you youre going to hell every chance they get. Well its the same with you guys in this thread. So sad you have to ruin a good thread.

 

[medic1]

^When you post in an open forum, tis the nature of the beast that there will be differing views aired.

Why make such a post, if only to brag that for the last 20 years he has been sucking dick behind his wife's back

Then to compound that statement by saying she does not need to know.

What about the health concerns?

I have never said he is going to hell. Catch hell if his wife finds out? Yep.

Oh and trust me i have had my fair share of bible thumpers piss me off.

If the OP cannot take any form of criticism for his behaviour, then he should not have made the thread. Simple as.

 

[cuteguyincali]

This thread is obviously not catered to you. Whats it to you? If you dont like the topic, with all due respect, go to a topic to your liking and quit hikacking a thread. Simple.

 

[kallipolis]

Maybe I am a little eccentric...and possibly, non-judgemental..but I'd much rather my partner exchanged bodily fluids with a stranger, and then came home to me as my partner rather than him finding someone else and leaving me for them.

I don't want to know what he gets up to, whether their sexual performance was better, or worse than mine.

I don't need my ego boosting, and I don't need it deflating for, that's far worse. I should imagine that there's a risk of someone 'getting laid for a bit of variety' that then turns into 'falling in love with them and wanting to leave their current partner for them'. I don't know how much of that is a post hoc ergo propter hoc, and most 'affairs' just come to an end with some trust damage with the partnership/marriage prospering, with no-one leaving anyone, for anyone.

It could be argued that I am fatalistic when assuming that there are those whose sexual life requires experimentation to enable them to find out who they are, and what they want before, returning to the daily routine of their original loving relationship that their extra marital experiences have proven, was always the right decision.

I also support the aspiration, that generally in almost all things in life, delaying immediate gratification is usually the best option for everyone....for slavish obedience to ones sexual instincts can be, and often is self destructive...

 

[ravenstar]

I just dont understand why it bothers people so much when its nome of their business. If he asked if it was wrong feel free to chime in. But no one asked for your negative opinion. Mind your own business and let the op express himself without guilt trips. Its not your life. Its his. We all know the consequences no one needs to be reminded, scolded, or preached to. So many people judging just for being gay. To those people being gay alone is immoral. I bet it would annoy you to have the bible thumpers troll into your thread all the time and remind you youre going to hell every chance they get. Well its the same with you guys in this thread. So sad you have to ruin a good thread.

From the minute he said I Do, it became their lives he's playing around with, not just his. If he told his wife and she was aware he'd be experimenting it's one thing, but if he choses to hide from her the fact he's hooking up with men and she finds out the consequences won't just impact his life, it will impact their lives. It's really not a difficult concept to understand. How would the OP feel if he was to find out his wife was screwing around behind his back?

And no one is judging the OP for being gay or bisexual or even bi-curious. They are pointing out that waiting until after he was married to explore this side of his personality was probably not a good idea.

 

[dralockhart]

It's also an inherent admission, by hiding in the shadows, allowing people to assume you're straight, etc that you agree there's something wrong with being involved sexually or romantically with men. How strongly you asserted you want nothing to do with men when it comes to romance suggests just how jumpy you are over the issue in the first place. sixthson is right--it's always people like this who are the champions of "family values" and tearing LGBT people down. The entire "it's not hurtful as long as she doesn't know about it" presumes she'll never find out, which is shaky at best and laughable at worst. They always find out. Also, her health is being jeopardized because she's with a man she doesn't know is having relations. Let's hope he's always safe, but seeing how irresponsible he already seems, I'm not hopeful. I really want to know what was in those vows at the wedding, because chances are there was some claim about fidelity which makes this person a liar. I think these people are pissed off at us because we have the courage and integrity to live authentically and they don't. There'd be nothing wrong with what you're doing if she knew about it and consented.

This is your life: everyone thinks you're a married straight guy but you're hungry for cock, perusing the forums of a gay porn site, and an admitted adulterer who won't stop. Your marriage is a sham, because it would be over if sh knew. Despite your justifications, I think deep down you must know that and feel pretty weird about it.

 

[sixthson]

I just dont understand why it bothers people so much when its nome of their business. If he asked if it was wrong feel free to chime in. But no one asked for your negative opinion. Mind your own business and let the op express himself without guilt trips. Its not your life. Its his. We all know the consequences no one needs to be reminded, scolded, or preached to. So many people judging just for being gay. To those people being gay alone is immoral. I bet it would annoy you to have the bible thumpers troll into your thread all the time and remind you youre going to hell every chance they get. Well its the same with you guys in this thread. So sad you have to ruin a good thread.

Basically, what you want is for only those who agree with you to be allowed to post here. All others can exit left. That is not how it works at JUB.
Oddly enough, you aren't even speaking for the OP. He expressed his desire for cock but didn't say he was going to go through with
it. You are like the cheerleader encouraging others to follow your lead.
Considering how angry you are, I suspect we have touched a nerve.

You seem to forget you are talking to guys here who have lived lives that have taken various degrees of criticism and rejection from churches, family, friends and strangers because we have refused to stay in the closet and lie to others about who we are.
Why can't you see that those who lie about themselves and betray those who love them is repulsive to us? You are perfectly free to live a double life if that is what you want. You are perfectly free to present yourself to the world as a straight man while having random hook ups and one night stands in the gay world. Those of us here who know love and those who one day hope to know love have a hard time understanding why you don't value the love for you wife you are supposed to have. If you did, you would be honest with her and give her the choice to do what you do or to opt out of the relationship. I suspect the reason you don't tell her is because you know which she would choose.

We have guys here in open relationships. I have a difficult time with that kind of thing and have said so, BUT at least they are honest with their partners. They have chosen not to lead secret lives.

 

[cuteguyincali]

I dont think i asked for your moral opinion.

 

[sixthson]

Assuming you had any morals, I would be glad to hear yours, however. You know what they say about the heat in the kitchen, don't you?

 

[tudor24]

This is your life: everyone thinks you're a married straight guy but you're hungry for cock, perusing the forums of a gay porn site, and an admitted adulterer who won't stop. Your marriage is a sham, because it would be over if sh knew. Despite your justifications, I think deep down you must know that and feel pretty weird about it.

This is pretty much true for a lot of men I suppose. Including me. Although I have not committed the physical acts of adultery. I have no romantic interest in men, but am highly sexual and find a well proportioned male body and sex organs highly appealing and have sexual attraction towards it. I am however also married with a child and I would, simply, suffer anything for them both, including never being able to experience certain kinds of sex I know I would enjoy.

This whole thing comes down to one inescapable, yet frustrating truth. If you choose to enter into a certain defined code of social conduct, and by allowing yourself to love, marry and father a child with a woman you entered into one, you have to accept leaving other things undone and unfulfilled.

It does fucking suck though.

 

[dralockhart]

I've always wondered, were it not for heterosexist stigma and how we're socially conditioned to aspire to a heterosexual nuclear family, how many of these men who adore cock but only "love" women would actually be in romantic relationships with men.

 

[medic1]

This thread is obviously not catered to you. Whats it to you? If you dont like the topic, with all due respect, go to a topic to your liking and quit hikacking a thread. Simple.

I had already posted that i was done with this thread.

The only reason i have posted again, is because i thought your posts deserved to be answered, if even for common courtesy.

So for the final time i bow out of this thread.

 

[Cormac135]

Best keeping it as a fantasy, if these feelings continue and begin to top the feelings for your wife, tell her the truth and either come to an arrangement with her or divorce and set off on your quest for cock and arse.