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I went on the straightest date ever, boo hiss and LOL.

Harke the Boeotarch said:
You wanted something from that guy, which you didn't get.
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Nothing is exactly what I wanted from this guy. There was no physical attraction, no emotional attraction, no mental attraction. We did not click on any level, so we went our separate ways. I don't go to (first) dates with a clear goal except to see how well we get on. Then I can decide what I want. And in this case I wanted nothing to do with the guy. And nothing I got.

I really don't understand where you get the impression from that I'm somehow frustrated by this.
 
Harke the Boeotarch said:
Quick but long-winded fuck.

But quick fucks tend to have a better chance of turning into relationships and friendships than going to the movies. The direct approach is almost always the best.
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Friendships maybe but in my experience the reason you're having a quick fuck is because both of you are horny but aren't looking for/don't want a relationship with the guy you're hooking up with. I tend to agree with Treanir on this.
 
treanir said:
I apologise in advance for the lengthy post.

Some backstory: he messaged me on GayRomeo and we chatted.

So I got to the cinema, where he was waiting. . . . . At some point, I mentioned my gayness and he said "well, at some point you have to make a choice", which pissed me off royally.

Now, I should have already left, I know.


Film started again and at some point he got rid of the armrest, 'cause I felt him lean in and then he put his hand on my thigh and kissed me. THAT is when I finally got my stuff and left. Got a text message ten minutes later: "there's a good film, too: Unseen. Horror. Would love it if you'd come." Ignore and oh yes, go fuck yourself.


Thinking back, he treated me like a girl.

Part of me is annoyed, part of me wonders if there are decent bi guys (I have yet to meet the first), but luckily most of me thinks it's hilarious. It's so absurd, it's funny.
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Treanir,
As one who enjoyed your travels in OZ, and also loves OZ, I was suprised at your indecision. I hope you come through this time well, and you are a special man who I hope finds his way, and yes, it sounds like the man for you is a man who knows gay and is comfortable with who is he. I thought you were that kind of man too.

Don't apologize for the story, it is an important lesson for many here, and your willingness to tell it as it is probably serves a wider group of people. And if you can laugh at yourself and the situation after that, then I can laugh with you. I am gay, and if I had been there, we would have gone to see the movie and then gotten to know one another better. Maybe six months from now we would be in bed together. Maybe.

Shep+:kiss::kiss::wave::D
 
treanir said:
Nothing is exactly what I wanted from this guy. There was no physical attraction, no emotional attraction, no mental attraction. We did not click on any level, so we went our separate ways. I don't go to (first) dates with a clear goal except to see how well we get on. Then I can decide what I want. And in this case I wanted nothing to do with the guy. And nothing I got.

I really don't understand where you get the impression from that I'm somehow frustrated by this.
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Really? To me if there is no physical attraction I can't be with someone, whether it's sex or a relationship.
 
Sultan said:
Really? To me if there is no physical attraction I can't be with someone, whether it's sex or a relationship.
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But then there's always the third option: friends. No physical attraction needed there. :)
 
Really? To me if there is no physical attraction I can't be with someone, whether it's sex or a relationship.
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See my comments about narcissism.
 
rareboy said:
See my comments about narcissism.
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It's not narcissism you dolt.

Most people, especially guys not so much women, would agree that without a physical attraction most guys could not be with the man or woman they are with.

I agree with the OP about the friends thing, because that's true but I can't stand queers like you who think you know all there is to know and hate on bi guys.

Even Jasun has a point in this thread. You shouldn't go after a relationship with a bi guy if you know he doesn't want to commit only to guys. It is what it is.
 
Sorry that you had bad luck with that guy Treanir. At least you got a laugh out of it and you learned a lesson.

I don't think all bi's are bad though. But clearly that guy doesn't know what he is. I wouldn't have had the patience for a guy like that to hit on me and then hit on a woman. That's just..so fucked up.

Hopefully the next experience you have will be a good one. Keep us posted :D
 
gdude30 said:
I don't think all bi's are bad though.
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Just for the record: neither do I. I've not had any luck with them in the past, but I try my best not to let that influence my opinion on the rest of 'em. Not until I have more experience. For now: "ERROR: insufficient data"
 
Everyone needs to have some bad dates now and again. It just adds to the experience of life and some interesting stories to tell.
 
The problem is most bi's I know are those around my age who are liek, "Yeah I dig dudes and chicks whatever gets my nut off". Just that stupid airheaded ego attitude is a real turn off. And those are really the only bi's I know of although I know of some other bi's who are pretty cool guys. While I don't understand it i'm sure it's not easy to be bi.

But whatever makes people happy I guess.

Yeah. Maybe I'll get more data on bi guys someday :O

Or maybe you can do the experiments for the both of us ;D
 
gdude30 said:
Or maybe you can do the experiments for the both of us ;D
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I'll let you know the results. :D
Preliminary data suggests that there's nothing to suggest except for oddness, which is a general human trait. I've had the ones that would shag anything on two legs, I've had the ones who are gay but in denial and now I added this one to the mix.
 
Oh also for proof Treanir. Video and pictures are required to make a full analysis and to cum to a result :P

Oh so we got 3 types already. Hmm. Well you keep gathering the data and then send me your findings and I'll look over that thoroughly and get back to you with the results :D
 
I think you had a bad attitude right from the beginning.

First of all, you're trying to find true love with an online hookup, which is theoretically possible but way against the odds.

Second, he already told you he was bisexual, so why are you surprised when he starts talking about his ex-girlfriend?

Third, it doesn't sound like you made much of an effort to even be pleasant to him.

And apparently his biggest sin was that he found you attractive and wanted to get physical with you. Most guys would at least take that as a compliment.

PS: If you want my advice, next time do a more thorough pre-interview before agreeing to go on a date.
 
I disagree.

First of all, while a relationship is definitely a possibility for me, I try not to expect anything for a first date. Instead, I meet up and then see what kind of contact we have. Sometimes it's clear from the start, but most of the time it's a complete guess until I've spent some time with the person. That's why I never promise anything up front.

Second, I don't mind that he started talking about his girlfriend. Comes with the territory. But to lay out your troubles with her within a few minutes of meeting me is a bit much. And since when he (might've missed this bit, so I'll repeat it) also started to flirt with the girls who worked at the cinema, it started to annoy me. As much as if he would've started hitting on the guys.

Third, initially I was as pleasant as I am with everybody I meet for the first time, but when he started flirting, I couldn't care any more. Would you have stayed pleasant?

It was a compliment, but that didn't mean I had to reciprocate. Also, I think I was quite clear when I pulled down the armrest. Short of telling him "hands off", I couldn't have done more, I think.

PS: agreed. This one was far too quick.
 
gdude30 said:
Oh also for proof Treanir. Video and pictures are required to make a full analysis and to cum to a result :P

Oh so we got 3 types already. Hmm. Well you keep gathering the data and then send me your findings and I'll look over that thoroughly and get back to you with the results :D
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Of course. Pics or it didn't happen. :D
 
This guy you dated sounds like a jerk regardless of sexual orientation who starts flirting with other ppl on a date. As a bi guy I always feel dumb talking about women with gay guys I feel like it makes them uncomfortable so, I always try to be conscience of what I say and would not bring up talking about an ex girlfriend.Or in general who wants to hear about someones ex on a first date?
 
Sometimes I think it would be a hell of a lot easier to be straight.

There. I said it.
 
^Perhaps next time (if there is a next time) you should find out how far this guy leans on the Kinsey scale.

I mean, a guy who is a 1 or a 2 is probably not looking to marry a dude; the "attraction" he feels is largely just physical. Personally, I think he thought he was getting into your pants which is why he went on the date in the first place - probably figured that a dude is more likely to put out on the first night.

Still sucks, though - sorry for you. But really, we're not all like that. Really, we aren't!

-d-
 
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