If being gay was a choice, would you be?

[MoufOfKhaos]

Though the inanity is apparent, i'm going to not get upset and instead, say "yes".

Anything to piss off idiots.

 

[vampsrock1992]

I love being who i am so yes. i would still choose to be who i am.

 

[TheFireGod]

Considering this is speculation that technology would be very advanced, or magic to exist for this to happen..... I'd rather choose to not be attracted at all to anyone, not physically or emotionally.

 

[FanofFiction]

Eith years ago or so I would have chosen to be straight, certainly. But I'm much happier with who I am now. I'm happy being gay.

 

[72-Jay]

If it was a choice I'd pick no to being gay,
and if 'non-sexual' or would the term be 'asexual' ?? was a choice I'd choose that...I guess basically what TheFireGod said...

 

[FanofFiction]

Why is that FireGod and 72-Jay?

 

[TheFireGod]

^ I am comfortable being gay BTW, I would never regret it for the world as it has somewhat defined me.

But if the world came to that point where gays can choose to change, and I'm still alive, I have these options:

1. Become straight.
2. Suicide.
3. Become a terrorist against the now very homophobic society, but that's kind of a bad thing in most people's eyes, even in this forum.
4. #2 to achieve #3 like Palestinean Terrorists.
5. "To hell with being human and attraction, if science have really sunk this low and created something to change people's sexuality instead of changing people's outdated opinions, I'd rather be a true Vulcan."

 

[SonOfSlobone]

No, I'm perfectly comfortable with my gayness. Sexually it suits me just fine. Socially, I'm actually more comfortable with straight people, but that isn't what you asked.

The only thing I kind of regret is never having had children, which is a lot easier when you're straight. But I wouldn't have wanted to give up gay sex for that.

 

[Ram]

Gay. Seriously, butt sex and man sweat and penis are fun.

 

[72-Jay]

Why is that FireGod and 72-Jay?

alittle background:
* I consider myself bi (but more towards the gay end of it)
* I used to hate the fact that I had 'gay' feelings/thoughts (I even tried at one point to erase those thoughts/feelings from my mind) at that time I woulda chosen either 'make me straight' or again the no-attraction/asexual thing.
* That dislike of has faded (particularly in the past year) so I wouldn't pick 'straight' anymore.

Now one big reason for for what I picked would be...
I've never had a boyfriend (or girlfriend) and don't see that changing .. If the choice was there I'd just prefer get rid of all feelings of attraction

 

[refujiunderground]

no, i wouldn't. i got these cards and i'm going to deal with them even if at times, it scares the shit out of me.

 

[gmoney]

Apparently, Cynthia Nixon thinks it is a choice. All I know is I fought it for years, but when I finally accepted myself as a gay man, I was happier than I had ever been.

 

[Saybrooke]

Apparently, Cynthia Nixon thinks it is a choice. All I know is I fought it for years, but when I finally accepted myself as a gay man, I was happier than I had ever been.

I saw that the other day on Young Turks, I was like huh? Lolz

I feel like that's kinda hard for me to answer...

Both have advantages and disadvantages.

But as Gay guy, I think if I had the choice, I would choose bisexuality, just so I have every option available to me.

 

[Kyanimal]

I sincerely tried going with 'Forcing' the Str8 route! It was what was 'Expected' of me!

And, though I had more than my 'Fair' Luck, and Intimate encounters with Chicks (Nearly married 5, or 6, of them!), I always "Knew" I was Gay!

It wasn't, ever, a "Choice"!

Butt, had it been a Choice? Then, Yeah!, I would Still choose Guys!!

They're SO much easier to seduce, no 'Strings' necessarily attached, and more defined, and Athletically endowed!

I do not regret the Choice, or rather the Non-Choice, of being a Gay Guy!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[Soilwork]

Gay men are cooler, more fun, more fun-loving, better looking and don't have parents bugging them to procreate.

So gay for me.

I'd rather die than be a straight man.

 

[tonyboy]

The title says it all...answer the question. I'm just curious. I feel like if it was a choice, I'd still be a bisexual.

Nope, not at all.. I'd rather be straight... have a marraige and family... and not have to hide so much from everyone I know... that's my thoughts on the matter.. I"m sure most of you will disagree with me..

 

[Soilwork]

Nope, not at all.. I'd rather be straight... have a marraige and family... and not have to hide so much from everyone I know... that's my thoughts on the matter.. I"m sure most of you will disagree with me..

You don't have to.*

You choose to.*

Your prison cells are of your own making. Don't blame your friends or family.*

 

[JayQueer]

Gay men.... don't have parents bugging them to procreate.

I think this view doesn't take into consideration how it feels for parents when their sons "come out" as gay..

I think that most parents, regardless of their ethnic or cultural background, have a desire to see their sons get married to a women (to someone of the opposite sex), and have children of their own. Most parents would like to like to have grandchildren some day.

Would their world end if their children don't get married, or don't procreate? No, but it crushes part of the dreams they had hoped for their children..

A lot of parents go through a period of "mourning" when they realize that their gay son will most likely not have a traditional wedding and biologically produce children of his own..

I'm reminded by a clip from Dr. Laura's radio show, when a young gay man "Sebastian" calls in --

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z17H947qYBU[/ame]

In her words --

Look as much as your mother can love you to pieces, and want everything for you, moms want their sons to marry girls and have babies, and etc etc. So no matter how wonderful you are and how embracing she is of you, there is going to be that disappointment. And you have to be as understanding of that, as you want her to be as understanding of you. It has to go both ways.

 

[JayQueer]

Nope, not at all.. I'd rather be straight... have a marraige and family... and not have to hide so much from everyone I know... that's my thoughts on the matter.. I"m sure most of you will disagree with me..

I unfortunately agree with you..

It's psychologically tough to be openly gay in a society where you are reminded every day that you are not straight. Where you are bullied, suffer job discrimination and hope that you would be gay bashed because you seem a little too "gay". Where everyone from politicians to average Joes make all kinds of jokes & offensive comments about homosexuality and gay people. Your rights are put up for voters to decide. Churches and religious groups single out people like us for discrimination while they overlook their own "sins" which they commit over and over again..

 

[altlover85]

GregK, can you explain how this whole idea of choice would affect the world as a whole? Are we talking about some sort of alternate reality where being gay or straight has always ben a choice? If so, do the people born in this reality have an an innate sexuality or is it just a blank slate that you get to choose at some point in time?

If you could clarify your question a bit, I could better answer it.

I think this view doesn't take into consideration how it feels for parents when their sons "come out" as gay..

I think that most parents, regardless of their ethnic or cultural background, have a desire to see their sons get married to a women (to someone of the opposite sex), and have children of their own. Most parents would like to like to have grandchildren some day.

Would their world end if their children don't get married, or don't procreate? No, but it crushes part of the dreams they had hoped for their children..

A lot of parents go through a period of "mourning" when they realize that their gay son will most likely not have a traditional wedding and biologically produce children of his own..

I'm reminded by a clip from Dr. Laura's radio show, when a young gay man "Sebastian" calls in --

JQ, it's funny that that's the part of the call that you decided to quote and not the part where she tells him to be honest with her and the rest of his family and not live his life around her emotional reactions.