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If being gay was a choice, would you be?

i think if a genie appeared and offered to change my sexuality if i wanted him to, i'd still choose to be gay. like other people here have said, i'm perfectly comfortable with my sexuality at this point, and after finally coming to terms with it, i'm definitely happier than i've ever been. my choice wouldn't have anything to do with that, though. i'd just be too uncertain of whether or not being straight would change some aspect of my personality.

i guess if the genie offered not only to make me straight or bi but to also keep my personality completely intact... eh, i'd probably still choose to be gay. i think i have better luck with guys than i ever could with women. if i wanted women, i probably wouldn't have gotten laid for YEARS.
 
I love who & what I am and the man that ive been with for the past 7 year, so yes !!
 
I wish I could say otherwise, but no, I'd choose to be straight. I suffered too much being gay.
 
What I always shake my head about with this question is: what makes you think being straight would be any better?

If you're so miserable and unable to be happy as away man, what makes you think you'd be any less miserable as a straight man?
 
I can't imagine not being attracted to men, so, I don't feel as though I have the option to "choose".
 
I have had sex with women and I have been fucked by guys. With everything remaining as they are, I'll choose gay.
 
Gay. I'd drive into a bridge abutment if I somehow found myself to be a breeder.
 
Sexual orientation is an inherit part of the highly complex and multiple factors that come together to form who and what we are, what we call our personality. In a sense it is part of your soul if you will. We tend to separate it out and treat it like it is some unique factor completely distinct from the rest but it isn't. Changing one of those factors impacts the whole and changes the entire dynamic.

So if you were offered some magic pill that would change your orientation, you are not talking about just waking up tomorrow and liking Susan instead of Bill and everything else being the same. You would wake up tomorrow an entirely different person and probably a pretty messed up one in desperate need of therapy as you essentially would have to go through the entire process that you spent years doing as a child of discovering who you are all over from scratch before you could effectively function again.

Bottom line is you would no longer be you but an entirely new person.
 
Well I wish the question was a little clearer, but I\ll answer it from my understanding of the question, and that is:

In an alternate reality, where gay WAS a choice (but homophobia etc. is still intact), would you have ever made the decision to be gay?

My answer is no. I've come to terms with my sexuality, it doesn't bother me, and I have a great life right now with a great boyfriend, and I'm happy.

But if it was a choice I would never have chosen to pin that target on my back for society. I would have been straight so I could "blend in" and "fly under the radar". I would desire to be normal, and as such would not voluntarily make myself a target for religious groups, hate groups, republicans, homophobes, etc. I have the same desire to be normal now, the only difference is that because gay isn't a choice, I had it thrust upon me and had to deal with it in order to realize it didn't impede my normal-tude. If it WAS a choice, I would have never came to that realization.
 
If given the choice, I'd be Heterosexual all day long!

But not because I "hate myself" as some militant cunt might claim.
Being gay is a fucking hassle. Dealing with other gay men is the most aggravating part of it all.
The none stop bitchassness, narcissism, vapidness and self hatred seems to be something only destined for homosexuals. I can deal with homophobic str8 jackasses in society, but trying to constantly find qualities to love about gay men has become daunting and emotionally draining.

Other than easy, meaningless sex, there really aren't any advantages to being gay.
 
As it stands, I know my feelings towards most men will never change. Generally I accept being gay. However if homosexuality was really a "choice" I will choose to be a asexual. I respect women, but can never be sexually interested in them and if I lack natural attraction towards men than I rather love neither.
 
Knowing what I know now, yes; I would choose to be gay, but ask me a few years ago when I was 16 and I would have said hell no.
 
I mean, I'd probably choose to be bi so I could have the option of going wherever I wanted to.

Of course this also raises the question: if you can choose to be gay/straight, can you also choose who you're attracted to individually? If so, that'd be suuuuper convenient. Just find someone who likes you, flip on the switch, BAM. Soulmates.
 
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