Glad I found this post.
Through this, I hope to get some feelings off my chest... and hope I can finally put it all behind me.
With my first partner, there was no violence at all... not even any cross words between us. But I lost him after a rail accident.
My 2nd was a little mouthy at times, and did hit me once. Dazed, I asked him politely to leave... which he did after a string of expletives.
3rd partner was a total tyrant. Watching a film together one afternoon (he had been in a bad mood all day) he suddenly, and without warning, launched a vicious attack on me. I was beaten and left to die. The only thing I remember was my Mom coming home, screaming and getting on the phone for an ambulance.
after nearly 6 months, I came round in hospital... and just screamed. So much of my life wasted. The case went to court, and I remember quite clearly now that he looked at me as he was sentenced to inprisonment. He looked so angry at me... I thought he was going to break away from the guard and get me.
He even had the cheek to send a visiting order to me. That was burnt in a bonfire along with other memories. I needed a complete new life.
4th partner... (current.. now ex)
Started off alright... and after our first year together, he tried to hit me. I panicked, started to pack, but he talked me out of it (he sobbed his eyes out).
He dissapears from home (he owns the house) regularly... once, he left me for 8 weeks! Left for dead again. I reported him as a missing person to the Police and they found him a coupla days later... alive and well. He was sleeping in his car in a carpark. In BRIGHTON!!! (I was also told he had another man with him, and they were clearly upto something... I just put it down to the Police being too suspicious at the time).
Now I have found out my partner had cheated on me yesterday.
Forgive the long post.. but had to write this. My advice to others living in a violent relationship? Get the heck outta there (if you dont own the place) or if you do own the place.. kick him out. If you cant do it alone... get help before it's too late.
