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Im Bi, and a senior in Highschool, but Nobody knows im Bi
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Unfortunately there is no easy way.
If you hang out with the gay guys you are running the risk of others assuming you are gay or just giving you grief about it. I know it is not right but that is high school.
I was always to chicken to make the first move but was lucky that I had a friend - a real stud with the ladies - but a horny bastard who when there was no pussy around....
What you did with your friend is your best bet if you want to keep it quiet - just be careful that you don't make a move on anyone that will tell since you want to stay in the closet at this time.
Good Luck!
If you hang out with the gay guys you are running the risk of others assuming you are gay or just giving you grief about it. I know it is not right but that is high school.
I was always to chicken to make the first move but was lucky that I had a friend - a real stud with the ladies - but a horny bastard who when there was no pussy around....
What you did with your friend is your best bet if you want to keep it quiet - just be careful that you don't make a move on anyone that will tell since you want to stay in the closet at this time.
Good Luck!
The only options I can think of would be a hook-up website or something.
I will say, though, you'd be surprised how being gay isn't a big deal to most people.
How are the out-gays in your school treated?
I will say, though, you'd be surprised how being gay isn't a big deal to most people.
How are the out-gays in your school treated?
I wouldnt recommend a high school kid go on manhunt or craigslist for sex. Especially craigslist is extremely dangerous.
I think the best advice would be to wait until u finish high school and you'll prolly be in college or have more freedom and options to explore you sexuality. It's really not that long to wait.
I think the best advice would be to wait until u finish high school and you'll prolly be in college or have more freedom and options to explore you sexuality. It's really not that long to wait.
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I don't have much to add here, but do want to ask if your bud has stopped playing around. Some guys can't handle the straight forward approach and want it to "just happen." If he continues to play around, just play back.
Too bad there's not another to discover other guys at school who struggle the same way. Be sure to play with 18+ only.
Good luck and best wishes. I'm glad you found JUB.
Too bad there's not another to discover other guys at school who struggle the same way. Be sure to play with 18+ only.
Good luck and best wishes. I'm glad you found JUB.
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There's plenty of gay people in your high school. You won't find out about most of them until the day after graduation.
You might want to start with some gay friends- http://www.mkelgbt.org/index.asp?p=20
You might want to start with some gay friends- http://www.mkelgbt.org/index.asp?p=20
paatreides
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I'd recommend against an internet hook-up site... If you do that, please be very careful... Anyone who agrees to meet with you, make sure you do it in a very public, crowded place and you have a clear exit strategy planned.
You might see if there is a LGBT center where you live. The folks there will certainly understand your predicament and won't blab. The Center here has special early evening hours for gay and bi teens where they can be comfortable in meeting and socializing. No fear of reprisal or outing.
You might see if there is a LGBT center where you live. The folks there will certainly understand your predicament and won't blab. The Center here has special early evening hours for gay and bi teens where they can be comfortable in meeting and socializing. No fear of reprisal or outing.
Hope this will not be a problem for you !Comtemplation
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Just out of curiosity, is your fear of prosecution because you've seen it happen at your school, or just ordinary fear of it?
Take a look around, ask around, see who's gay, and see how they're being treated. Analyse your environment, don't make too many assumptions, and go from there.
Take a look around, ask around, see who's gay, and see how they're being treated. Analyse your environment, don't make too many assumptions, and go from there.
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Maybe not the day after - but very true.
And the worst will be the ones you thought were hot and you find out years later were gay!
When you are talking about real life, please note, wise folks do not shop around for partners in sex. Such partnerships arise out of something much more basic; plain old garden variety friendship.
I am an old guy and looking back on my life I find that i had few sexual partners, three males and two females before I married, and I loved each one of them before we ever had sex. There were other friends whom I loved also with whom sex just never happened. These friends were snd are still precious to me because they are my friends.
Beginning with my friendship with the new guy in town when he and I were fifteen it always followed somewhat the same pattern for me. I meet someone, I bond in friendship with that person, the friendship becomes much more than just friendship and one day the sex just happened because each of them and I were needing and wanting to express our affection up close and intimately---yes, in sex.
The sex was fantastic because it confirmed the bond that already existed between us. And that led to more of the same and much more. These persons are all still alive; the sex between us ended long ago, but the love that prompted the sex remains to this day.
Friend, You may find someone who will provide you with the momentary pleasure and thrill of sexual intercourse. but why not go for the gold of the sweet communion of sex in a loving relationship?
You might call it getting it right the first time.
I am an old guy and looking back on my life I find that i had few sexual partners, three males and two females before I married, and I loved each one of them before we ever had sex. There were other friends whom I loved also with whom sex just never happened. These friends were snd are still precious to me because they are my friends.
Beginning with my friendship with the new guy in town when he and I were fifteen it always followed somewhat the same pattern for me. I meet someone, I bond in friendship with that person, the friendship becomes much more than just friendship and one day the sex just happened because each of them and I were needing and wanting to express our affection up close and intimately---yes, in sex.
The sex was fantastic because it confirmed the bond that already existed between us. And that led to more of the same and much more. These persons are all still alive; the sex between us ended long ago, but the love that prompted the sex remains to this day.
Friend, You may find someone who will provide you with the momentary pleasure and thrill of sexual intercourse. but why not go for the gold of the sweet communion of sex in a loving relationship?
You might call it getting it right the first time.
one thing i learned when i left high school was that many of the people i thought were gay, were gay. a few liked me too.
i would say avoid hooking up with strangers because it may not be the first time experience that you want, not the safest thing. try fine-tuning your gaydar. if you get the vibe from a guy, look into it and figure a way to approach it.
i would say avoid hooking up with strangers because it may not be the first time experience that you want, not the safest thing. try fine-tuning your gaydar. if you get the vibe from a guy, look into it and figure a way to approach it.
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I now exactly where your coming from. I live in a small town south of detroit where everyone knows everyone else's business in terms of highschool. what i did was go visit some friends I had who were in college. believe if you can't find a decent amount of gay guys on a college campus it must be a bible school lol. but in all seriousness don't rush into anything just because you really want sex because that could end badly. just jerk off a lot and try to getout and meet guys from outside your high school.
First, let me say that you are one sexy guy and any gay or bi-guy would have to be blind not to see that. Coming out in high school is extremely frightening. Almost unheard of when I was your age. I would bet there are more gays and bi-men at your school than you even think. I doubt many your age that are brave enough to hook up online have the desire or compassion to be discrete, so I would not suggest that.
Checking out the local LGBT would be a better bet. You might also check out JUB's sister site www.emptyclosets.com You might see how many others your age deal with the same as you there.
Checking out the local LGBT would be a better bet. You might also check out JUB's sister site www.emptyclosets.com You might see how many others your age deal with the same as you there.
I came out in high school and it sucked. But I had to do it for my own reasons (courage, dignity). But I want to point something out. This myth that there are other gay guys in your school and that they magically came out after you graduate? I don't know. Maybe I should start a separate thread on this, but I came out in 2004 or so and graduated in 2007. Between 10th grade and the end of 12th grade no other guys came out (I came out at the end of 10th grade). I've been out of high school for almost 4 years. I have not heard of a single person in my class or the classes below me that came out as gay after graduating. It's baffling. It's like I am literally the only homo out of like 300 guys.
Anyways, to the OP. How close are you to the nearest big city or big college campus? There's your answer. If you're close to a city, bring a friend and go hit up a club (if they let 18+ up in, if not get a fake id) and get some numbers and start to chat and date. Or go home with someone if you're confident enough and it feels right. If there is a big college campus near, try and find the gay organization and maybe go to their meetings or events. You could join groups on facebook and stuff like that, but that would require coming out.
Anyways, to the OP. How close are you to the nearest big city or big college campus? There's your answer. If you're close to a city, bring a friend and go hit up a club (if they let 18+ up in, if not get a fake id) and get some numbers and start to chat and date. Or go home with someone if you're confident enough and it feels right. If there is a big college campus near, try and find the gay organization and maybe go to their meetings or events. You could join groups on facebook and stuff like that, but that would require coming out.