I'm freaking out - Hemorrhoids

[yeeeaaahhh]

So, I think that I have hemorrhoids. At first I wasn't worried about it because I talked to someone and they basically said that it happens to a lot of people, that they would just go away in like a week or so, and that things would be just fine.

Well, it has been over a week. So I started reading up about them online. Apparently they never go away? WHAT?!

I am 22. I am a bottom. I cannot have an ass that looks all disgusting and purple for the rest of my life. This seriously won't ever get better?

I am honestly devastated. I don't know what I am going to tell my boyfriend... we can never have sex again because my hole looks awful and getting fucked will probably just make it worse.

Does anyone know more about these things? Is there anything that I can do? Should do?

 

[Seasoned]

Most of the time they shrink until they get irritated. Use a product made for them. Do you have a bunch? You need to cleanse well after every bm. A hot as you can stand it bath or shower with water aimed at the hole. Sitting too long on the toilet and straining on the toilet can bring them out. If they don't improve on their own you need to see a doc.

Have you ruled out anal warts, which continue to grow and can start looking like cauliflower?

 

[yeeeaaahhh]

Have you ruled out anal warts, which continue to grow and can start looking like cauliflower?

I don't think they are. I am pretty safe when it comes to sex. But I was a little concerned about that. I don't think it looks like anal warts though. I looked at many pictures online and what I have is purple and lumpy, just like hemorrhoids are.

Maybe I should just go to the doctor? I just don't have health insurance so that becomes really difficult.

UGH! I will try some of these home remedies and soak in the tub. Hopefully they shrink back up.

I guess my concern though is will I still be able to have sex? Will having sex make them come back?

 

[kevin23]

It may take two - three weeks for a bad flare up to heal, so use the over the counter Prepration H 2-3 times per day. Keep the area clean. A very old but effective exercise for them is doing pull ups or swinging on "monkey bars". It really works if you do them often and on a regular schedule. And at 22 your life is not over, you will heal and look the same as before. So find you some monkey bars and get busy.

 

[yeeeaaahhh]

Yeah I went to the store tonight and talked to the pharmacist. He said that eating lots of fiber is important, so I picked up some high in fiber cereal and snack bars and some soy nuts to snack on.
He also said that taking 15 or so minute soaks in the tub would help, especially with epson salts or baking soda.
Last he said to get some Preparation H and use that too.

So I will start using those and hopefully in a couple weeks see some change.

 

[future_retro]

Just relax, de-stress, eat a good diet and use a hemorrhoid treatment for a few weeks (suppositories are better than creams or lotions) and they'll go away. You may have flare-ups from time-to-time but if so, repeat the above. Really nothing to be worried about.

 

[seven2go]

So, I think that I have hemorrhoids. At first I wasn't worried about it because I talked to someone and they basically said that it happens to a lot of people, that they would just go away in like a week or so, and that things would be just fine.
Well, it has been over a week. So I started reading up about them online. Apparently they never go away? WHAT?!
I am 22. I am a bottom. I cannot have an ass that looks all disgusting and purple for the rest of my life. This seriously won't ever get better?
Does anyone know more about these things? Is there anything that I can do? Should do?

You say your hole looks awful.......I can only guess that means the outside which suggests an external (thrombosed) hemorrhoid which appears as a small sack of blood on, or near, the anus. If this is what you have the removal process is very simple.
You could even do it yourself if you had the nerve. A doctor, or maybe a clinician, will have you drop your shorts and lie on your side, spread your cheeks, probably poke that area with a TINY syringe of of anesthetic. Once numb, which is almost instantaneous, the sack will simply receive a tiny slice through which the blood can pass and that is that. There is only minor discomfort for a day or two.
Internal hemorrhoids are an entirely matter.

 

[breathe]

This is a question for Kara Bulut,...

Does using Prep H every once in awhile, if you don't have hemorrhoids, a good way to tighten up the area or RPEVENT hemorrhoids? As a gay man, maybe some extra prevention can't hurt? Or would this make the cream lose effectiveness for you over time?

 

[KaraBulut]

This is a question for Kara Bulut,...

Does using Prep H every once in awhile, if you don't have hemorrhoids, a good way to tighten up the area or RPEVENT hemorrhoids? As a gay man, maybe some extra prevention can't hurt? Or would this make the cream lose effectiveness for you over time?

One of the things that is confusing about Preparation H is that it has several different formulations.

There are soothing ingredients like petroleum jelly (aka vaseline) and witch hazel (which is an astringent)- these are pretty innocuous and harmless.

But there are some medicinal ingredients like a decongestant, hydrocortisone and a topical anesthetic. These are drugs you probably should only use when you need them.

To understand what a hemorrhoid is- the best analogy is a busted lip. If you've ever gotten punched in the lip, you know it turns purple, swells up and gets very tender. Those symptoms are because of inflammation and the congestion of blood in the lip as a result of the bruise.

A hemorrhoid is like a busted lip on your asshole. Just like you wouldn't put creams or ice or a local anesthetic on your lip to prevent a busted lip, the same is true of a hemorrhoid- you can only treat it when it's inflamed and swollen.

If you have a problem with hemorrhoids, you want to prevent it from getting "bumped" in the same way that you would want to prevent a busted lip by making sure that you didn't bump or irritate your lip. The way to prevent "bumping" a hemorrhoid is to keep you stools soft by eating plenty of fiber and drinking lots of water and you want to avoid rough anal play by using plenty of lube and taking your time when getting penetrated.

 

[mikeyjon]

My ex had to go to the doctor and have them drained, after he healed we had sex with no problem.

 

[MeDarrin]

Chill. Get some Preparation H and you'll be fine.

With Preparation H, I use the type that is a CREME. Make sure you see the word CREME on the box. If you use the other kind it's oily and smells like rotten fish.

I'd also not use the suppositories, the Preparation H that you insert. That shit is oily and it will stain your underwear and pants and even seep through to a chair you're sitting on.

Again: Get the Preparation H that says CREME.

I take off the applicator top and throw it away because I just squeeze some on a tissue and wipe and insert that way.

I'd get a lotion to use with it for cleaning first. I take toilet paper and with the lotion go on around and in the ass to clean very good. Then I take the Preparation H and squeeze it onto toilet paper and rub it in, inserting my finger about an inch or two, putting a glob of the creme in there and around the outside of the anus.

Do that two or three times a day and they clear up!

I get them a few times a year. When they occur you can tell because the shape of your stool will not look round. The roid is swelling the opening so when stool comes out half of it doesn't make it and gets caught. That's why when having roids, going to the bathroom can be messy.

Fiber is good, but you need the Preparation H for the swelling. It will all go away.

No, it's not going to ruin your sex life.

 

[palemale]

I had my first (and only) bout of hemorrhoids a little over a year ago. It was the most painful experience of my life. I looked at my ass in the mirror and thought, "my ass is deformed for life." I recommend, first of all, that you do not use enemas before bottoming, or at all unless you are so severely constipated you have no choice. Overuse of enemas can cause hemorrhoids. Eat lots of fruit and vegetables. Eat plenty of yogurt, especially Activia, which will keep you regular. Keep your hole clean (I use baby wipes after every bm).

If you still have hemorrhoids when you read this, use witch hazel wipes to alleviate the pain. They are like a magic potion. Forget suppositories and other over the counter meds. My proctologist told me they do not work, so save your money.

Good luck.

 

[yeeeaaahhh]

So how's the ass doing?

I had my first (and only) bout of hemorrhoids a little over a year ago. It was the most painful experience of my life. I looked at my ass in the mirror and thought, "my ass is deformed for life." I recommend, first of all, that you do not use enemas before bottoming, or at all unless you are so severely constipated you have no choice. Overuse of enemas can cause hemorrhoids. Eat lots of fruit and vegetables. Eat plenty of yogurt, especially Activia, which will keep you regular. Keep your hole clean (I use baby wipes after every bm).

If you still have hemorrhoids when you read this, use witch hazel wipes to alleviate the pain. They are like a magic potion. Forget suppositories and other over the counter meds. My proctologist told me they do not work, so save your money.

Good luck.

I still have them, unfortunately. I might grab some wipes in order to keep my hole clean. I have just been using conventional toilet paper. But I have been eating a lot of fiber which has kept my regular and my stool soft, which is good. But I still have the damn hemorrhoids!
I also use Preparation H two or three times a day.
I am not really sure what else to do. I just really want them to go away. I miss having sex a lot. This just honestly sucks.

 

[KaraBulut]

Has there been any improvement?

 

[Burberry]

Again: Get the Preparation H that says CREME.

I second that.

I suffer from hemorrhoids, too. My weeks used to be constant sex for four days, pain and hemorrhoids for the last three. Rinse and repeat. But I've taken more proactive measures and my hemorrhoids have not inflamed in the past few weeks. Sex is great!

I apply hemorrhoid cream after every time that I have sex. I've also increased my fiber intake to about 30-40 grams a day. There are gnu fiber bars that provide 12g per bar and then these wafers that have 5g per serving. Many say that fruit helps, but they don't help for me. Within 12 hours or so, I will have the most flushing (not diarrhea) experience ever. I eat a bar or two and several wafers the day before and the day of my boyfriend and me have sex.

My boyfriend and me causally plan the nights we have sex. We talked about our personal and joint plans for Monday and Tuesday night. If we don't find a free slot, then we continue working down the week. Not only is it something to look forward to, but it gives both of us a chance to try to control our diet and digestive patterns a day or two in advance. (My favorite is when we are so busy that we have can't have it until 4-5 days later, but then we wind up doing it spontaneously every day and then don't bother the planned night, but that's just a funny side story, no relevance to the thread.)

Get some cream, fiber up, and maybe plan for a bit.

Oh, a tip for the internal applicator: It really is helpful, so keep it. (It also feels good when I stick it in, but then again, anything I shove up my ass feels AMAZING.) I stop the sink and then load it up with very hot water. Then I dip the applicator in and out, squeeze out the top, and then put the applicator under the rushing hot water. It burns the finger, but it gets the applicator very clean. Without the hot water, I find it absolutely impossible to clean it.

 

[Rooster]

The number 1 cause of hemorrhoids is sitting on the toilet too long. Hemorrhoids are virtually nonexistent in countries that lack toilets except when it comes to pregnant women. A bowel movement should take under 5 minutes. If you are sitting long enough to read the Sports section then get out, drink more water, and eat more fiber.

If you have a chronic flame up, which are noticeable hemorrhoids lasting longer than a week, then consult a doctor. Hemorrhoids should shrink or even go away after a certain amount of time and if they are sticking around then that means you are continually irritating them or they have become thrombosed. After you get hemorroids it is much easier to have a reoccurrance but they should shrink.

 

[hotatlboi]

I still have them, unfortunately. I might grab some wipes in order to keep my hole clean. I have just been using conventional toilet paper. But I have been eating a lot of fiber which has kept my regular and my stool soft, which is good. But I still have the damn hemorrhoids!
I also use Preparation H two or three times a day.
I am not really sure what else to do. I just really want them to go away. I miss having sex a lot. This just honestly sucks.

You might need to go to the doctor and have them removed.

 

[yeeeaaahhh]

I've been eating fiber, I've been using creme, I've been taking baths and I still have them.

It's been three fucking weeks.

I am just going to see a doctor :/

 

[KaraBulut]

I am just going to see a doctor :/

That's the best option when self-treatment isn't working.

Let us know how it goes.

 

[Croynan]

a thought - you are seeing a doctor - make sure you tell him everything, including you engage in anal sex. let him know whether you use condoms or not.

good luck. a happy and healthy new year to you and your bf.

eM