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I'm gay but I want to spend the rest of my life with a woman.

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silosybin said:
bro i went through a very similar thing before i finally realized i was gay.

i would feel like i went thru "modes" where for months at a time i would only like guys and then all of a sudden i'd feel like i wanted a girl too. this went on for years. it led to a lot of social anxiety and i never really had much success bringing myself to flirt with girls comfortably. i thought i was love-shy but now i know better. when i went into "straight mode" i also seemed to have different preferences in women from my friends... i never really got off on the model-type girls that most comfortably straight guys seem to be into.

whether or not you're going thru the same thing i did, i don't know, only you can tell. but you need to be honest with yourself. people here are being very nice and giving you honest adivce, but you seem to think they are "being mean". they really aren't.

if you want to chat id be happy to, just pm me your aim.
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Thanks man, but I'm telling you dude, if I feel what I'm feeling right now, I'm still into girls it shifted the other day and I'm still going.
I see no reason to choose the gay lifestyle over this, when I'm like this women are so damn hot to me.

I think you had both choices to choose from and chose gay, it's alright your choice but I'm not going to make that choice, I'm sorry.
 
From what you described, your situation appears to be far from unique. Many of us have been there and done that. Maybe we have it wrong, maybe not. What I can assure you is that people are not being mean in conveying their experiences and opinions. I think you are being disrespectful to the people who are only trying to help you. You protest too much, which usually means something is hitting a little too close to home. Think about that. Please bookmark this thread and re-read it in a few years. I bet you will see things differently at that time. I wish you the best of luck on your journey and hope you find the happiness you want.
 
well, i really didn't choose it, i promise. i chose to embrace being gay, and that's what finally made me realize i was for sure.

i think the problem is that you are approaching your gay side from the sense of "i hope im not gay". this isn't the way to go because your mind will then subconsciously try to trick you into thinking you aren't. at least this is what happened for me.

your idea of "i'm bisexual but i want a woman" just doesn't sound like it comes from a person who is secure in their sexuality. if you were truly bisexual, you would not care whether you ended up with a man or woman, you would be equally happy with either.

i think what you really need to do is let go of the idea that you "want to be straight". you need to open your mind, and think "if i'm straight, great, if i'm gay, that's also great". it's not an easy thing to do, i know from years of experience in suppressing myself. maybe it will turn out that you're bi, but you will never know for sure if you don't approach your sexuality with the right mindset.

the last thing to remember is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with what you're going through... many many people have problems with their sexuality, you absolutely aren't alone or abnormal in any way. you are just facing challenges that some people are lucky enough to have never had to deal with.

again if you want to chat about it on aim id be more than happy :)
 
I just set up a fake AIM just for this man
JackP1337 lol

if you want, AIM me on that I'll leave my pidgin on
I feel uncomfortable discussing this on my main aim account
 
backpacker said:
From what you described, your situation appears to be far from unique. Many of us have been there and done that. Maybe we have it wrong, maybe not. What I can assure you is that people are not being mean in conveying their experiences and opinions. I think you are being disrespectful to the people who are only trying to help you. You protest too much, which usually means something is hitting a little too close to home. Think about that. Please bookmark this thread and re-read it in a few years. I bet you will see things differently at that time. I wish you the best of luck on your journey and hope you find the happiness you want.
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I'm telling you right now, if it does turn out that I'm gay
I'm killing myself

that's it, period.

However if it turns out that I am indeed gay but can have sex with women then I'd tell my woman I'm gay, but I love her and she does turn me on too and if she is cool with that we'll go from there.

But if I'm forced to live the gay life, I'm out.
that's it
 
However if it turns out that I am indeed gay but can have sex with women then I'd tell my woman I'm gay, but I love her and she does turn me on too and if she is cool with that we'll go from there.
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There are not many women out there who will stick around for your confusion. If there are, they are hard to come by tbh...

We are here trying to help you, being you asked for feedback, and because it's not something you want to hear you freak out.

I hope and pray you don't take your life because your scared about possibly being gay. If your worried about society then you need to get over that real fast cause whether your str8 or gay there are people in this world who will find a reason to hate you for something.

Call a friend, continue to talk to us on here before you make any decisions you will regret.

Here is a of hotline for LGBT individuals:
http://www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org/index2.html


CONTACT INFO:
Toll-free 1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564)

I just think everyone needs a person they can talk to to vent. Your more than welcome to PM me.
 
well i talked to him on aim for a while...

i tried my hardest but in the end he just thanked me for trying.

jack even if you ignore everything else i said, at least listen to this: please, please, please do not hurt yourself under any circumstances. no matter how shitty your situation is, never ever lose hope that things will work out. it may take a long time, but you WILL figure things out, i promise.

if you ever change your mind and want to talk again, im not going anywhere! although you may be better off calling the number above as those people are more qualified than me .
 
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