I'm getting fucked by this hot dude. He has 3 kids. Should I feel like a whore???

[xyboyms]

Okay I hope you guys leave as many comments as possible on my situation because I have no idea what to do with this. I love you JUBBERS please help me out!

Okay, I met this guy at the club last week. This man is incredibly gorgeous! He's way taller than me (I'm 5'10"), has a goatee, very well toned body yum yum! So throughout the night he offers to buy me some drinks (duh! of course!) and towards the end of the night he asks for my number (again, duh! of course!).

We text & chat on the phone for a few days. I learn he just turned 31 in February (he doesn't look like it at all, plus I'm 22 so I don't think the age is a big deal.....) and he works for our local hockey team (I didn't even know Wichita had a hockey team LOL but for some reason this makes me want him even more (???)). We talk in detail about our sexual pasts and whatnot. He tells me he's actually bi. I thought he was just a masculine acting gay dude so I immediately ask him if he has a gf which he says he just broke up with some chick.

So last Saturday I go over his house and it's completely empty. (This fact is important for later.....). He takes me to his room and (sorry to be so in detail but....) he fucks the shit out of me and it's amazing! Best sex I've ever had. We make out for what seems like hours (he has a tongue ring OMG hot!) we give each other head (again-he has a tongue ring OMG hot hot!) and wow the night goes by in a flash and I'm completely out of breath. Best. Sex. Ever.

So on Monday we planned on what time for me to come over for round two of our sex-apalooza fuck fest and he tells me since it's a Monday I'd better stop by sometime after 9pm. I go, ok why??? He tells me that's usually when his kids are asleep.

**********xyboyms's jaw drops to the FUCKING floor*****************

He never told me on the phone that first time. The thought had never crossed his mind???

I go, really?? I had no idea. You never told me. He says he never really thought about it. They're from his ex-wife whom he divorced about 5 years ago. He has three (oldest girl, another girl, and the boy). They alternate every week on who gets them during the week and then the weekend.

I guess the night I came over she had them because, like I said, the house was dark and empty. Trust me if I'd have seen a toy or a bottle lying around I would be going what the fuck dude?? do you have kids or something??

Apparently, he says I shouldn't care what day I want to come over. If they're home he says I should have no bother about stopping by (!!!) He says I'll only come by when they're asleep and upstairs (two story house; he lives downstairs).

So I made up some excuse why I couldn't stop by on Tuesday and all this week we've just been texting each other. I feel weird. I feel weird and icky. He's not married. No girlfriend. Just kids. He says they'll be asleep whenever I'm there, but still..........what if they knock on daddy's door or something??? What if I bump into one of them on my way to the door after getting fucked hardcore by their daddy??

Again, guys, the sex was fucking amazing and I want some more. The guy is gorgeous and the sex is amazing. I want to see him again and the sex is amazing. I just don't want the extra baggage (that sounds horrible but whatev).

Thoughts??????

 

[miaplacidus]

Just go for it... what's wrong with a guy having kids, if he likes men and is not married/engaged?

 

[cozmik]

I don't see anything wrong with him having kids and a boyfriend. I guess the bigger question is, do you like kids, and do you want to have relations with someone who has kids?

 

[xyboyms]

Of course I love kids I have 4 nieces & 4 nephews but I just feel icky having his kids right there while we're going at it. Granted they're upstairs (I said it's a two story but it isn't a big house) but still......

 

[cozmik]

If you're uncomfortable with doing it with them their, just tell him. There's nothing wrong with it.

 

[xyboyms]

But the sex is amazing! I can't not have sex with the dude LOL.

I'm only 22. I've never had to deal with being with a guy and worrying about his kids upstairs. This is all terribly new for me.

 

[DoctorGiggles25]

I can see why you'd be a lil freaked out by the whole ''bi dude with kids'' thing, but they are just kids and I'm pretty sure your not the first gay guy they've seen strolling around the house in the middle of the night. They are not your responsibility and therefore you shouldn't fake yourself out by their presence. Besides, its the middle of the night and they're asleep....

Do yo thang and get yours gurl. How often does a man of that caliber cross your path? Riddle me that my good friend.

 

[cantthink949]

just go over when the kids arent there...
i've been fucking a guy when his kid called and said he was on his way home from school...imagine my surprise

 

[luminum]

He's not married to his kids. I don't see the problem other than you being shy around other people being around the general vacinity that you're getting boinked to death.

 

[xyboyms]

Thanks Doctor Giggles!

just go over when the kids arent there...
i've been fucking a guy when his kid called and said he was on his way home from school...imagine my surprise

^^^^^^See, I SO could not deal with that! I'd freak out! This is all so new to me....

 

[3nipples]

My thoughts? Grow up!

What does his having kids have to do with anything?

 

[twardmo]

ummmm, i went with this guy that had 3 boys, and the middle child (7), actully walked in on us while his dad had his hand down my pants
anyway, this sounds kind of unfeeling but the kids are probably used to it.

 

[woaini]

I like andy too~~~

 

[QuidditchStud]

Are you put off by the kids themselves being there when you are there, or the fact that maybe by having kids is an undeniable link to the fact he has had sex with women and is indeed bi sexual ? You know, not believing it until you see the physical evidence as it were ?
In any case, he is his own man before he attatched father and parent in front of his name and, given how great the sex is by your description, has had sex with dudes before you came along and entered the picture. And since the age gape is not big at all by any means ( I consider your age gap quite small as you are still close enough in age to have things in common ) then there is no real excuse for NOT keeping on seeing this guy and perhaps lead on to something a bit more perminent.

 

[xyboyms]

Oh this has nothing to do with him having sex with a woman before. That I could care less about.

Sorry I just 1) never had sex with a guy much older than me & and 2) figured that he'd have kids in the house.

Just a new learning experience I guess.

 

[Kulindahr]

I'm going to go back to basics -- the root principle of all civilized behavior:

You own yourself.​

What matters here is the corollary, and also the flip side: he owns himself, and you don't own him, or anything that's his.

He owns his relationship to his kids. If he says it's okay for you to be there while they are, then it's okay. If there was a law against it, that would be something you'd have to take into consideration, of course, but in no way does the way he's raising his kids impact the relationship you have with him if he says it doesn't -- unless you decide to take it on yourself to decide it does... but in reality, that's invading his territory.

I can understand the creepiness aspect; some people feel that way about some things. Their ages would matter, of course; if there's a teenager, I would certainly expect that a teen would understand that Dad has his own life, and isn't immune to sexual urges -- and that Dad is into guys, not just gals. For myself, if a teen kid walked in while his (or her) dad and I were going at it, it would make me nervous, but how to react I would leave up to the dad (unless the kid tried to join in!).

Tell him it makes you nervous. Ask him what he'd do if one of them walked in -- he may have rules about that, anyway; some people have that much good sense.

Obviously if you're leaving, and little Susie asks what you were doing there, you're not going to say, "Blowing your daddy and swallowing his load". But if he has rules for the kids, and they know they're not supposed to intrude on Dad unless it's an emergency, I say learn to laugh at yourself some, stretch your comfort zone, and enjoy him!

 

[JASON0980]

to be honest, i would think of a guy having kids as a plus. i love kids and i have a lot of respect for father's who are real dads. if you really like the guy, you will get used to it. i know it is really different, because dads usually have a different way of llking at things. but you shouldn't feel like a whore. he is a man, and has to have sex at some point too.

 

[Ninja108]

I don't see anything wrong with it. As long as the kids are in their beds, go for it. You like him, he likes you and he's not married. Don't hold yourself back

 

[Joshua_me]

My thoughts? Grow up!

What does his having kids have to do with anything?

You *must* be kidding, 3nips....

It has *everything* to do with everything.

I'm preaching to the choir here, I know...But when guys want to 'bust one',
they'll do what ever it takes to do so.

Mmmk, I have to tell a story of a similar thing that happened to me:
(Gather 'round, boys)

I met this guy online once, I was horny and he was hot and well, before I knew it I was at his apartment...at 4am one Sat night. God, he was everything I wanted in a man...toned, hairy chested but with that 'boyish' look that always drives me wild.

This went on for a couple of weeks until I noticed some odd things about his place....It didn't look like anyone lived there...it looked like a furnished apt. that had never been lived in....a couch, two chairs and a coffee table.

No food in the kitchen, no mail, no TV, nothing that you would expect to see.

Well, it slowly dawned on me thru my hormone filled haze that this was just a 'fuck place', a 'love shack' if you will that he had rented with the expressed purpose of bringing 'home' guys like me, and then sending them on their cum-covered way.

I was torn. The sex was earth-shattering, but ya know how after you cum suddenly things don't seem all that great ? That was the vibe I was getting.

I told him I needed a couple of weeks off to think things over, and during that time...lo and behold, I tune on the local news and THERE he is, being profiled as the championship winner of the girls soccer team. See, his two daughters were on the team, and his wife was SO proud of him, and he was 'Joe Hetero', coach of the year, and every one's hero.

Well, that was quite the wake up call for me.

Here was this guy that was being celebrated for having his perfect wife and daughters and his white picket fence and dog...while meanwhile he had his 'homo love nest' set up across town

I decided right then and there that I didn't want any part of it, and never saw him again.

The point of all this is that you *deserve* someone that can give themselves to you completely, and not just when they need to 'bust one'.

There are plenty of guys out there that fill that bill perfectly, and it's my opinion that deep down you know this.

Don't sell yourself short...And spare yourself the heartache.

 

[xyboyms]

Surge- I love you to death you know that BUT..........my Blakey is all mine! No matter who's fucking me & giving me amazing head with his tongue ring (oh wow LOL) my Blakey is all mine! I just posted, like, 20 pics of him in the Male Celebrity thread AND I totally had a dream of him last night no joke LOL!

Joshua-me, thanks for the advice. Fortunately for me the guy's divorced. Me fucking around with a married man??? No no for me!