Hi, I posted this on another forum, but I will post it here as well, I need all the advice I can get.
This is a long post but I'll be so happy if anyone answers/reads it. If you want you can skip the background story and go to the last 3-4 paragraphs, but I feel the understanding the proper context is necessary.
First, let me begin by saying I’m eighteen years old, have been with only a 1 or 2 girls in my life and 1 or 2 guys that no one knows about. Basically, everyone thinks I’m straight, but I’m bisexual with a lean towards guys
. Anyway, let me begin my question of whether or not my friend is into me or not, and whether or not we have something going. For anonymity sake, I will call my friend “Adam.”
Adam and I met in the beginning of Freshmen year of college which was in September of this year. We’ve chilled, partied, etc. , but one thing I noticed was that Adam would go OUT OF his way not to hook up with girls. Girls would be all over him, yet he would distance himself every time they got closer. One of my other friends at the university who went to the same high school as Adam(they’re close friends) claimed that Adam had never hooked up with a girl ever. This shocked me as Adam is both attractive and charming. It was funny at the same time because I would act in the same manner so perhaps he noticed.
Anyway the year went by, and my friendship with Adam strengthened. We lived in separate dorms, hanged out with the same group of friends, but every morning he would text message me and see if I wanted to eat with him. He was closer to others in our circle of friends at this time, but still would most of the time contact me. This struck me as odd, but I didn’t care because I was starting to have a crush on him. Towards the end of the school year things changed even more, I noticed that after a few drinks he would always put his arm around me. Now I know this is common, but it would be for a slightly longer time than just a pat on the back. Naturally, I returned the favor and we would have our arms around eachother for a few minutes. From an outside observer I guess it just looked like a “bunch of bros enjoying the night.” And it was.
The school year was coming to a close, and I would not see Adam for a while, or so I thought. Adam had gotten a job over the summer at the university which was high paying. He said I should look into getting a job, and if I did we should be roommates. I was excited about this idea, and I got the job; Adam and I were going to be roommates all summer! This is where things start to get interesting, as I think I’m in love.
There have been some signs that Adam may be interested, but I may be looking to deep into it .Since we spend a lot of time together we do a lot of talking and one thing I notice is we always look each other in the eye longer than usual, I don’t know how to explain it but its sort of a connection, whenever were around each other we’re always smiling etc. He’s always kind of playfully teasing me, and we always kind of “play fight.” I know this is a sign of friendship, but I feel like he acts differently around me and things keep adding up. We have a couch in our room and, and somehow we always end up with our arms kind of touching or leaning against eachother; we never move them away. Now I don’t know, again if this is me, but I would assume it would be natural to move them away.
K now here comes the reason I have come to the forum making this post. A week or two ago I noticed shaking underneath my bed in the midst of the night. ( we have bunk beds, I sleep on the top). It could only be one thing, he was obviously jerking off. As you could imagine I was happy about this and my naughty self pretended I was still asleep, even though I was listening with a hard on the whole time. A few days later again, I am awoken by the creaking sound of the bed, and the jerking sound of Adam beneath me. So, I did something unexpected, I returned the creaking sound by kind of shifting my body on the bed so he could hear it, and he did. He went silent for about 2-3 minutes and went at it again. The signs were too much and when I heard it again I made noise on my bed by shifting and kind of moving my body on the bed; he didn’t stop and kept going. That was it for that night, I didn’t want to push my luck.
Yesterday night it’s the same thing, this time I purposely wake him up by jerking on top of my bed so it makes noise. He wakes up and I hear him shifting and then I hear the jerking noise. We both start shifting a lot and I think he was jerking it too((air conditioner makes it hard to tell). It was apparent that we were both awake, and that we were both moving in our beds. What made me think he was jerking it too was that there was a bout of shaking underneath my bed(with what sounded like a moan) and then silence, and we all know what that means.
However the only thing is, when its morning time, he acts like nothing happened! And I act the same way. I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship with the small chance that I was wrong about what had happened. And even if I confronted him, I feel like he would deny it right now( he’s very conservative, believes lots of stereotypes, and generally doesn’t do a lot of thinking). I feel like he’s one of those repressed closet cases, its actually kind of sad. Anyway, if you’ve read this whole post I applaud you, its good to get this out of my system even if only one person who reads it. I come to you asking advice, what should be my next move? Am I blinded by love? Are these signs of interest or just friendship. Any tips would be appreciated. Thanks!
This is a long post but I'll be so happy if anyone answers/reads it. If you want you can skip the background story and go to the last 3-4 paragraphs, but I feel the understanding the proper context is necessary.
First, let me begin by saying I’m eighteen years old, have been with only a 1 or 2 girls in my life and 1 or 2 guys that no one knows about. Basically, everyone thinks I’m straight, but I’m bisexual with a lean towards guys
. Anyway, let me begin my question of whether or not my friend is into me or not, and whether or not we have something going. For anonymity sake, I will call my friend “Adam.”Adam and I met in the beginning of Freshmen year of college which was in September of this year. We’ve chilled, partied, etc. , but one thing I noticed was that Adam would go OUT OF his way not to hook up with girls. Girls would be all over him, yet he would distance himself every time they got closer. One of my other friends at the university who went to the same high school as Adam(they’re close friends) claimed that Adam had never hooked up with a girl ever. This shocked me as Adam is both attractive and charming. It was funny at the same time because I would act in the same manner so perhaps he noticed.
Anyway the year went by, and my friendship with Adam strengthened. We lived in separate dorms, hanged out with the same group of friends, but every morning he would text message me and see if I wanted to eat with him. He was closer to others in our circle of friends at this time, but still would most of the time contact me. This struck me as odd, but I didn’t care because I was starting to have a crush on him
. Towards the end of the school year things changed even more, I noticed that after a few drinks he would always put his arm around me. Now I know this is common, but it would be for a slightly longer time than just a pat on the back. Naturally, I returned the favor and we would have our arms around eachother for a few minutes. From an outside observer I guess it just looked like a “bunch of bros enjoying the night.” And it was.The school year was coming to a close, and I would not see Adam for a while, or so I thought. Adam had gotten a job over the summer at the university which was high paying. He said I should look into getting a job, and if I did we should be roommates. I was excited about this idea, and I got the job; Adam and I were going to be roommates all summer! This is where things start to get interesting, as I think I’m in love.
There have been some signs that Adam may be interested, but I may be looking to deep into it .Since we spend a lot of time together we do a lot of talking and one thing I notice is we always look each other in the eye longer than usual, I don’t know how to explain it but its sort of a connection, whenever were around each other we’re always smiling etc. He’s always kind of playfully teasing me, and we always kind of “play fight.” I know this is a sign of friendship, but I feel like he acts differently around me and things keep adding up. We have a couch in our room and, and somehow we always end up with our arms kind of touching or leaning against eachother; we never move them away. Now I don’t know, again if this is me, but I would assume it would be natural to move them away.
K now here comes the reason I have come to the forum making this post. A week or two ago I noticed shaking underneath my bed in the midst of the night. ( we have bunk beds, I sleep on the top). It could only be one thing
, he was obviously jerking off. As you could imagine I was happy about this and my naughty self pretended I was still asleep, even though I was listening with a hard on the whole time. A few days later again, I am awoken by the creaking sound of the bed, and the jerking sound of Adam beneath me. So, I did something unexpected, I returned the creaking sound by kind of shifting my body on the bed so he could hear it, and he did. He went silent for about 2-3 minutes and went at it again. The signs were too much and when I heard it again I made noise on my bed by shifting and kind of moving my body on the bed; he didn’t stop and kept going. That was it for that night, I didn’t want to push my luck.Yesterday night it’s the same thing, this time I purposely wake him up by jerking on top of my bed so it makes noise. He wakes up and I hear him shifting and then I hear the jerking noise. We both start shifting a lot and I think he was jerking it too((air conditioner makes it hard to tell). It was apparent that we were both awake, and that we were both moving in our beds. What made me think he was jerking it too was that there was a bout of shaking underneath my bed(with what sounded like a moan) and then silence, and we all know what that means.
However the only thing is, when its morning time, he acts like nothing happened! And I act the same way. I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship with the small chance that I was wrong about what had happened. And even if I confronted him, I feel like he would deny it right now( he’s very conservative, believes lots of stereotypes, and generally doesn’t do a lot of thinking). I feel like he’s one of those repressed closet cases, its actually kind of sad. Anyway, if you’ve read this whole post I applaud you, its good to get this out of my system even if only one person who reads it. I come to you asking advice, what should be my next move? Am I blinded by love? Are these signs of interest or just friendship. Any tips would be appreciated. Thanks!
