Is being a loner okay?

[nickscotti]

I only have a few close friends, I don't really have aquaintences. Is there anything wrong with being slightly anti-social? I just prefer my own company usually, haha.

 

[Treborf]

What do you need our approval for?

 

[PreTTy PeTe]

nothing is wrong with it

if you're happy........ it be cool

 

[valis23]

I think the only right answer is in your own mind. If you're comfortable in your own skin, then so be it. Most folks don't do well without someone around. It's never bothered me much to be alone.

 

[jarcom]

Just be who you honestly are......you have to be honest with yourself...am I a loner because I am afraid and I am hiding or am I a loner because it is REALLY who I am........I enjoy my own company, live alone, and many of my friends are the same way and when we get together we have great times together, then we go home to our respective homes, we like it that way........just know that you need people in your life and life is beter with people in it that you love and they love you...being a loner does not mean you have to be alone.....

 

[AaronG]

Man, if it floats your boat, cool. I see far more threads on how to avoid being a loner, so you're lucky to be content. Echo Yummers, though - make sure you're covered in event of emotional emergencies. But no one says you have to be the social butterfly.

 

[DiaryOfAMadman]

No there's nothing wrong with that. In fact its better that your recognize it at such a young age then to let it drag into your 30's and 40's before you realize that. Me personally I have some really great friends however I don't really enjoy romantic companionship. Like dates and sex are fine but I really don't like the thought about having someone else sleep in my bed every night, and I don't like the thought about being around the same person every day of my life. However I can assume that "maybe I just haven't meet the right person yet". Maybe that's the case, but if not I feel that I am fine with it.

I love spending time with my friends but there comes a point where we can also spend too much time with each other. In all cases it doesn't actually mean that your "anti-social". I am very social and a pleasure to work and hang out with, but there are times in which I choose that I'd rather not be around certain people and either be alone or with a selected friend or two.

My father is in his 60's and is married and has two kids, however he tells me that no matter what you do in your life that when the end comes your all alone. However he's a very cold person. In most ways including this one, I'm not like him at all.

Hey all my friends go out to clubs and bars on most weekends. I personally dislike the bar/club scene and don't find anything wrong with not attending. The only person you have to get approval on being a "loner" from is yourself.

 

[nsguy2]

I have very few friends but they're the best a guy could ever ask for.

So, yes. At least in my case

 

[Comrad]

If your happy with that then what else matters. You will at times hear people say something about you missing out on what ever with people. Let me tell you this first hand, people are disappointing. The moment you think you really meet a cool person, BAM they show you a side of them you thought they never had. However, if you ever do find a person that is truly spacial (friend or other wise) NEVER let them go, ive made this mistake in the past and boy do i regret it. But hey man I say do what ever you feel man.

 

[Horschallen]

It is ok.

 

[morgaes]

As long as you feel comfortable with yourself, don't worry too much about your surroundings. I am the type that has a few close friends, and many aquaintences... the people at school/work/in the neighbourhood, I don't let them get too close, but the people I hang around with on a day-to-day basis... especially the ones I know are not prejudice and accept people the way they are, they are the ones I let close into my life.

... I shouldn't really be saying this.. but there's a person sitting beside me right now (unaware that I'm typing about her), who I got to know through my best friend, and even though that person is still my best friend, the person beside me is the one I would be the most comfortable in confiding in... that's weird. Gee, sorryr for hijacking your thread with that last comment. Anyways, the bottom line is, as long as *you* feel comfortable with your state, don't question it, there is no right or wrong way to live your own live - just remember to treat people as you'd want the to treat you.

 

[Joshua_me]

People move away, die, get into new relationships and life can get very lonely unless you keep making friends and get a support group of them and family. It is better in my oppinion to make yourself reach out to others or to be in a relationship before there is no one there for you.

^That's^ excellent advice !


"When I was younger, so much younger than today,
I never needed any body's help in any way.
But now those days are gone, I'm not so self-assured,
And now I find I've changed my mind, I've opened up the door.

Help me if you can, I'm feeling down.
And I do appreciate you being 'round.
Help me get my feet back on the ground,
Won't you please, please help me..."


Just some food for thought.

 

[timnmostud]

There are WAY less rules in life than most people think! Of course it is okay to be a loner if you are a happy loner. happiness is hard enough to find without trying to fit anyone else's rules. Be yourself and be happy and you have acheived a lot!

 

[G-Lexington]

I used to work the overnight shift. Sometimes I'd go a week without talking to another human being, other than the occasional "a number three meal, Diet Coke". I didn't feel lonely, though. I thought my company kicked ass. Still do, in fact.

As for what the others are talking about, let me put it this way.

Something horrible happened to you.
You desperately need to talk to someone. Now.
How many people can you call?
If the answer is at least "three", I'd say you're cool.

Lex

 

[jhmphx]

It's the people that need constant companionship and attention that need the real help. It's healthy to be able to be alone. My two cents...

 

[rareboy]

I think the fact that you are asking may indicate you're a little lonely and unhappy about the situation.

Often the most intelligent and understanding companionship you'll ever know is when you are dining alone and there is no better skill than knowing how to enjoy your own company, but don't just shut yourself off from making contact and casual aquaintances as well.

You can bring something to their lives and they to yours. Don't let technology shut you off from everyone.

...and get a couple of cats and dogs.

 

[gabriel1]

I only have a few close friends, I don't really have aquaintences. Is there anything wrong with being slightly anti-social? I just prefer my own company usually, haha.

Remember this: Just because one is alone, does NOT make one lonely. I am the same way you are.

 

[Shepherd 2]

I used to work the overnight shift. Sometimes I'd go a week without talking to another human being, other than the occasional "a number three meal, Diet Coke". I didn't feel lonely, though. I thought my company kicked ass. Still do, in fact.

As for what the others are talking about, let me put it this way.

Something horrible happened to you.
You desperately need to talk to someone. Now.
How many people can you call?
If the answer is at least "three", I'd say you're cool.

Lex

I suppose no one will be surprised to see my AMEN to this. It is excellent. I would suggest the three be no further away in distance than fifty miles. Solitude is not a bad place to be. Lonely can be a bitch and a problem. Alone is not lonely, especially is you are at all introverted and at least 45% are introverted.

 

[Nonimus]

Yeah sure - as long as you got somewhere to stash the bodies - why not?

 

[ross_1986]

I used to ask myself that ALL the time, because I used to think it was not okay. I really don't have any close friends and it used to bother me, but now I just say "What the Fuck. I like myself" lol.