>>>Debatable. Practically everyone in this thread is telling this guy to compromise, because it's not "worth it." Yes, you do have to compromise, or face a life of misery and loneliness being untouched.
OP wasn't asking if he should "compromise his beliefs". He'd been a virgin for many years, and since that was his choice, that was all good. But now he'd met a guy, and he clicked with him, and he wondered if he should go ahead and take the plunge. And that's something we all run into at some point. Because somebody's gotta be the first, and there's no big sign pointing out "the one". You check for compatibility, you check to see if you're ready, you check to see if you feel the guy will "keep you in good hands", as it were. This would-be cherry-taker was three for three, so I said "go for it". And, as I thought, it ended up being a positive experience. If the OP had said "I don't want to have sex yet, but this guy is sort of pressuring me to", I would've told him to tell the guy to fuck off. But that wasn't the case.
Some guys prefer to keep their sex within boyfriend-type relationships. And that's totally cool. If the OP had said "I really don't want to have sex with someone I don't really feel I love", I would've told him to hold off. But he didn't.
>>>I'll decide that for myself.
Your choice. But so long as you choose to believe you're in shackles, you'll never feel free to move around.
>>>That's the whole point. I don't need a damn introduction to anything. I'm not some 12 year old wanting to get my rocks off. You seem to think that sex equates with some sort of emotional fulfillment or satisfaction, and it simply does not. Anybody can fuck and run, and that's really what this entire thread is about. All of these gay men are cynical and only want what they can get, with as little fuss as possible.
I can't really speak for Lube here, but when he said "You need to explore more", I don't think he meant "You need to sleep around." He means you need to just open yourself up to other ways of thinking. As I've said previously, I'm totally cool with people who keep their sexual experiences within monogamous relationships. I'm like that myself. It's what's comfortable for me, and it's worked out just fine. But others don't feel the need for that. They either have casual encounters, or they have open relationships. And at first, I felt they were "doing it wrong". But it finally dawned on me (as you've seen, I can be kinda slow) that they weren't doing it wrong - they were just doing it different. That's what works for THEM.
A common issue I run into - not just about this topic, not just here - is the "as for me, so for all" belief. That because I feel a certain way, then everyone should or must. I love cheesecake, so then EVERYBODY must love cheesecake. So if somebody says they don't like cheesecake, people don't shrug and say "more for me, then". They say "What's WRONG with you? How can you not like cheesecake?" There's this inability to accept a viewpoint outside of one's own.
Since coming out, and since meeting more people in the gay community, and even since joining JUB, I've met all sorts of different types. Guys in monogamous relationships, guys in open relationships, daddy/sons pairings, master/slave relationships, S&M, furries, you name it. And accepting their stances as valid FOR THEM has been a real boon, I think. It doesn't mean I feel every relationship should be open, or it ain't love until the whips come out, or everybody should buy a fursuit. It just means that other people find different ways of doing things, and if it works for them, then that's all good.
It may seem as though sex dominates every aspect of our being here, and that's an easy assumption to make. But remember two things. First, we're on a porn forum. Secondly, 99.9% of us are gay. As such, gay-themed talk will dominate the conversation, specifically the things we feel we can't talk about (easily) with our straight friends. And more often than not, that's gonna involve the sexual things that may (or may not) weird out our straight brethren.
Lex
You feel much better after sex. Your body is driven to be that way (even if gays don't generally reproduce).