Is porn considered cheating?

[Ephemeral]

A friend of mine got really upset when she found out her boyfriend watched porn. She considered it cheating and she threatened to break up with him. I just nodded because she's very overdramatic and overemotional, so she was likely to snap on me too. LOL

I've never considered porn as cheating. You're satisfying your fantasies mentally. It isn't like you're actually having sex or seek sex outside of the relationship.

 

[operafan]

Sounds like he would be lucky if she dumped him. Sounds like a lifetime of misery.

 

[TomahawkEagle]

Think it's a matter of opinion. Some of my mates watch porn together with their girlfriends.

 

[braex27]

Not cheating in any sense of the word.

 

[miguelfukt]

i think it is cheating, but if i have a bf and he watched porn i wouldnt be mad because i watched porn when i did have a bf.

 

[BostonPirate]

It is an individual choice that each couple needs to work out.

For me, it is not and I never ask the guys I date to stop watching porn or jacking off... I don't stop either.

It is so NOT a big deal. I place it in the beer and wine category. You have to be old enough and if you are it's your choice.

 

[freefall]

Your friend's GF should be cast on a porn with gang bang synopsis.

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

Only if you think it is.

The rules of every relationship are made by the participants, not by a vote taken by the general public. Just like I don't tell straight couples what kind of sex to have, who should take out the garbage or who gets the last word on whether to buy a new car or not.

If the parameters of THAT relationship are "thinking about sex with someone other than me is cheating" then it's cheating.

If the parameters are "you can get your dick sucked but no kissing" then that's what's cheating in THAT relationship.






but your friend needs to find a new girlfriend because she's an uptight, controlling bitch. women like that are the kind who are going to try to rule every second of their men's lives.

She needs to get some cats and learn macrame and leave relationships to people mature enough to handle them.

 

[CumAlong]

Nope, not cheating. Watching porn and fantasizing about other unobtainable women (or men) is very healthy for a relationship.

 

[runner]

Watching porn is definitely not cheating.

 

[MyReply]

I had a friend once whose boyfriend considered it cheating when he watched porn. He wanted to be the whole of his sexual gratification, and didn't like the idea of him getting any kind of sexual pleasure w/o him. Sounds silly to me, but I guess some people are just touchy like that.

 

[racer2438]

We dont think it's cheating, in fact we use it to get many new ideas that help make our sex life better.

It's fun to explore and experiment.

But when one cheats with another person.

You have now crossed the line...

 

[josher]

While I wouldn't think many gay men would consider it cheating (because they're men), most married women get very angry about it.

Almost every week there's a letter in the newspaper advice columns written by a wife who "discovered" her husband was watching porn, and the columnists (who are all women) support them and say it's wrong.

I think I read somewhere that over 90% of men with internet access have admitted to watching porn at some time or other. So there's a big discrepancy between what men and women think about the issue.

 

[Sam Blum]

It doesn't really matter whether any of us think it's cheating: The only opinions that matter in this question are those of your friend and her boyfriend. If she feels betrayed by his turning to porn to get off, then that's how she feels, and it's a really valid response.

If he doesn't honestly feel that he wants his chosen lover to feel betrayed by something that he can choose to do without, then he knows to stay away from porn or choose to stay away from this lover. It seems odd to choose to continue wanking over a pic. or vid. when he can have actual intimate sexual relations, don't you think. Or maybe her boyfriend doesn't really care for his 'girlfriend,' and is simply using her for whatever reason/s?

We all make our own choices, and we all must live with the consequences. Right?

 

[G-Lexington]

Cheating isn't the action.
Cheating is the attitude taken toward the action.

If you sneak behind your partner's back to do something, and hope s/he doesn't find out what you're doing, you're cheating.

If your partner knows that you do it, even if you don't tell him/her all the details, and is cool with it, then you're not cheating.

If you sneak downstairs to watch some porn while your partner is asleep, and pray you don't get caught...you're cheating.

If you go hook up with a guy, and have unprotected anal sex with him and his friends...if your partner knows about it, it isn't cheating.

Lex

 

[gingentleman]

I was on the sidelines (with popcorn!) for this very issue a while back. I had het friends that were married and she told me she found out he had been getting off to online porn and she was livid. What I came to find out was that she was emotionally unstable and immature, with serious control issues. She also had some unreasonable-sounding sexual demands. They eventually separated and she instantly started sleeping with a large number of men, scouting out her next 'victim'. A divorce ensued and I no longer have any contact with her. I am friends with him, though, and feel he is extremely fortunate to have gotten out of the relationship when he did. It was toxic and would have damaged him in innumerable ways had he attempted to stay in it.

 

[rareboy]

So does this gitrl think that all solitary masturbation is cheating?

Same diff.

 

[Lefty]

Of course it is cheating.

It is cheating reality

So, its cheating and pay back too.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

For me, porn is not cheating. Otherwise, I'd sound like this 'you're not allowed to think anyone else is hot but me' and that just screams insecurity.

If someone were to agree with their partner about watching porn but they do behind their partner's back, then I would consider that break of trust. Cheating is a big word and I still wouldn't call porn cheating...Oh you're cheating on me with your computer screen. That just sounds silly.

 

[Shepherd 2]

Cheating is about the ageement you have with another person. Many here have open relationships by agreement. By agreement I have a relationship based on monogamy. My relationship then sets the content by mutual agreement. And for us, both of us, porn is not cheating.

Shep+