Is porn considered cheating?

[Lefty]

Shep is cheating on me

that testosterone ridden old bitch

cheating on me in front of me and his boyfriend both.

 

[MarkTheStud]

A man's sexual drive can be fulfilled in two ways: sex or masturbation. If she doesn't like him watching porn and masturbating, then the only other option is for him to have sex.

So then it comes down to who he has sex with: his girlfriend, or another girl. Obviously, sex with another woman would be cheating. So unless she is willing to submit to his sexual desires at his command, which is highly unlikely, then she just isn't being fair. She's basically saying, "You can only fulfill your sexual urges with me, but only when I'm in the mood too."

You might say that porn isn't necessary to masturbate, but c'mon... be realistic.

 

[Jayden]

How silly to think its cheating. Does that make your hand your lover then?

 

[Lefty]

It isn't adultery unless you are doing it for free or paying to have it done.

 

[bankside]

Only if you think it is.

The rules of every relationship are made by the participants, not by a vote taken by the general public. Just like I don't tell straight couples what kind of sex to have, who should take out the garbage or who gets the last word on whether to buy a new car or not.

If the parameters of THAT relationship are "thinking about sex with someone other than me is cheating" then it's cheating.

If the parameters are "you can get your dick sucked but no kissing" then that's what's cheating in THAT relationship.

As you imply in the rest of your answer, some rules are more realistic than others.

Human curiosity about the erotic aspects of people all around them is:
a) natural
b) inevitable
c) healthy
d) praiseworthy
e) generally harmless

What are you going to do?!?

• Does accidentally noticing an attractive stranger count as cheating?
• What if you make a point of crossing the street to get a closer look?
• What if the stranger has a facebook profile and you happen across it?
• What if you went looking for it?
• What if the judge issues a restraining order, but you just know in your heart that the government was making her testify against you, and you could tell from the coded things she said that only you were meant to hear that she still loves you? They're holding her captive! She's your soul mate! The sick fucking bastards! They'll pay!!
  
  Ummm. Wait. Never mind that part.
• What if you accidentally click on porn and shut the window?
• What if you accidentally click on porn and it reminds you of what your one true love looks like, and so you watch it, and see something erotic and good, and then you try it with your one true love and she absolutely loves it.
• What if you watch someone who looks completely different and you learn something?
• What if it just gives a bit of variety and that spices things up?

Ultimately, why not?

I have absolutely no problem with my husband's interest in porn - it shows he is alive and curious about the world, and those are two key preconditions to us having a good sex life.

 

[seven_sins]

If he pledged to her that he wouldn't watch porn, then it is cheating.

 

[Ephemeral]

If he pledged to her that he wouldn't watch porn, then it is cheating.

In her defense, she did tell him that she didn't want him watching porn beforehand but his parents actually gave him some porn to watch. She had also been the one to always initiate sex, but he was never horny enough to even get hard.

They eventually "broke up", but they still cuddle, follow each other around, and argue every 10 seconds like they used to. He says he still loves her and she doesn't know of her feelings for him.

 

[bankside]

Mkay. When your parents give you porn, you obviously come from a family with much more open approach to things, and very different values from someone who is raised in a family where pornwatching = F7 on the Enhanced Fujita Tantrum Scale.

She should have picked up on that, and probably he should have noticed too, before they were ever together.

And then they got together and had bad sex.


Am I missing something here?

 

[Knucklehead]

Hell no it's not cheating.Your freind sounds like she would be better off if she left him..

 

[neruda]

Wonder if straight women think differently from gay men...

 

[Kester]

If it is, then I am the biggest cheater in the world.

 

[thisisinteresting]

That girl is probably cheating on her bf. Serious insecurity.

 

[star-warrior]

I would think that it depends on her own self confidence. If she thinks looking at porn is cheating, it says something about her feeling undervalued that her bf is getting off looking at other women naked. This is an issue she has to work out, and if her bf feels that it is a thing he can't give up, then they're best off separate. It will be a bone of contention whenever some problem arises in their relationship together.

 

[Telstra]

Every time you watch women/men lustfully and want to taste it you are cheating.
But if your partner know and don't mind, you are not cheating.


Cheating is like stealing. If you don't hide, you are not stealing anymore.

 

[Nomenclature]

Guys don't consider porn cheating; we're logical that way.

 

[xtacee1990]

My first cmmt ==: I think it is cheating, not because of the fact that u masturbate, but because u have sexual thoughts about another person, aka porn actors (n actresses, ). Its not comparable to checking out somebody else n thinking their hot, because usually u just stop there, thinking that their hot (it doesnt really make sense i know =="), while when ur watching porn, u actually think about fking the porn actors/actresses...
thats just my opinion. Doesnt mean that im gonna not do it when im with someone . yeah, im that much of a hypocrite =="

 

[Under-taken]

If porn is cheating i'm an adulterous little mynx

 

[Sam Blum]

I wrote something, and then went back to skim the whole thread, only to find that Ephemeral had added something else that sounded really strange and which has changed my mind about this thread entirely - so I've deleted everything I wrote...

 

[Ephemeral]

Hmm, well now I'm confused!

Few questions...

What kind of porn, exactly, did his parents give him? Are we talking instructional-video type things, or something more along the lines of Ass Worship 7: Assphyxiation?

Why is the girlfriend concerned about the porn when the (obviously) larger problem is his inability to get it up with her?

How long ago did they break up?

I don't what type of porn it was, but by the way my friend was describing it, it sounded like average, run-of-the-mill porn. She said that he never masterbated to the porn but who just watches porn? She was concerned about his inability to get it up too, but the porn was the icing on the cake. She mentioned about being insecure a lot but I don't know why since she is quite pretty. They "broke up" back in November. I thought they were serious but they aren't. They constantly argue and she's verbally (and sometimes physically) abusive towards him.

 

[CudDULL]

No just tell your friend she's an insecure over controlling bitch.