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Is race the most important thing to you?

Race?

  • Doesn't matter.

    Votes: 13 65.0%
  • Depends on his shape

    Votes: 4 20.0%
  • I'm attracted to face more

    Votes: 1 5.0%
  • I don't care what he looks like as long he's white :mrgreen:

    Votes: 1 5.0%
  • I'm into what inside

    Votes: 1 5.0%

  • Total voters
    20
I'm definitely not racist ^^

I have type in all kinds of ethnicity and that including the 4 major races in USA.
All fair and just O:)

When I think again, I think I'm more attracted to "shape" than the race itself. If he's in the shape I like, I'm into him no matter his race is.

How about you? ^^

I think that we base what we do on our past experiences in life. If I were seeking a guying I would go white/ Hispanic.
I find Asians very attractive but have been fucked (and not in a good way) by everyone I ever worked with.
With blacks I must admit I would steer clear because of all of the bitching that hear about white privilege, I just don't like to be around victims.
 
Unfortunately, 'preference' is often misinterpreted here as 'racism'. People develop preferences from a very young age, and that applies to virtually everything. Mainly, they develop through experience. I hate onions, and I much prefer not to eat them than to eat them. However, had I been brought up in England where onions are a big part of the diet, then my preferences would probably be reversed.

It's the same with sexual preferences. You gain them through experience, but if you don't encounter any other races or cultures during your 'growing phase', your preferences develop through what you know. Preferring one person over another is not necessarily racism, although people with preferences are all-too-often labelled 'racist', and that does nothing more than place them on the same level as people who truly are.

As I said earlier, I've been labelled 'racist' here because of preferences, and that puts me in league with the KKK, the Aryans, and Donald Trump, and I certainly do not share their views.

Still, being called racist seems to be most common in places where racism is allowed and encouraged.
 
I'm trying to think if I have racial preferences...but I can't come up with any. If the guy or girl is attractive to me, it isn't because of their skin color.
 
Not at all. I don't give a fuck about that shit. I have no preferences. Not saying that I will like every guy I come across but I'm saying that in terms of who I'm attracted to and who I choose to date, I'm selective based on the individual for who they are. A guy and me might not be into the same things, have different views, styles, tastes, different and etc but I could still love him because love isn't about basically all about common interest. It's a feeling. You have to be willing to work with someone because shit ain't gonna click or magically glue together.

I've learned that what you think you want doesn't necessarily mean that you'll fall in love or that they are right for you. You can't force love. There are people that think love is based off of someone being what THEY want or matching a checklist. That's an easy way to get yourself hurt. That's not love. That's being in love with yourself if you ask me because unless you can create that person, then you have to roll with what's out there and be willing to follow your heart. A guy may not be exactly what you want but if you have feelings for him and he aint hurting you, get with him. Those that make excuses or form the ass being overly picky over shit shouldn't really matter end uo alone and blaming everyone except themselves. All these guys complaining and shit.


I will admit that due to the society and the world that I am living in, I am forced to have to accept that race does matter in a lot of aspects of life even though it shouldn't. I am aware that many people live around that shit too. It's sad
 
Nope, most likely nature's influence, your obscenities aside.

To have common genetic traits is the very definition of race. Unfortunately, that's been obscured in the recent past by a lot of circumlocution. There is in fact such a thing as genetic race.

Eyes, noses, hair, body types, fingernails, feet, hands, pigmentaion, eye color, ear shapes, and all sorts of phenotypic traits predominate. Does every single member of the race have the same traits to the same degree? Nope. But as a population, they are there in common by definition.

So, if almond-shaped or round eyes are unattractive to you, they are in fact unattractive to you. If you've never met or heard of a race, you may still find those people attractive or not.

What you always seem to cite are gay dating apps, which, by definition, are disproportionately peopled by a subgroup of gay men who objectify sex and relationships in terms reminiscent of car shopping. "I want a sports car." "I want leather seats."

Yet, as I remember, straight friends had no such shopping list when they were finding partners. They began dating and went out with the gals they found funny, cute, interesting, challenging, smart, athletic, or whatever. I never once heard one say, "I'd never date a brunette," nor did I hear one say, "Latinas need not apply." They didn't see dating that way. They weren't shopping for meat.

The dating apps DO NOT represent gay men, only a mercenary subset. Their race preferences are no more or less offensive than Cormac's "no fats, no fems, etc."

Grindr may be your reality, but it's a very limited one.

Spoken like someone that doesn't know shit about race and a bigot. Maybe you should read a book or two instead of speaking on what you think you know.

The problem with what you say is quite simple. What you're saying basically leads to... "I'm not attracted to these group of people so why should I deal with them, respect, see them in a positive light and etc". I've often associate that with a prejudicial attitude that goes beyond not being attracted to somebody.
 
Nope. I value people, not their skin color, religious and/or political belief, social status, etc. If the one is a human among other human beings, that's all that counts.
 
Although race is important, it is difficult to say if it is the most important or not. I normally don't look at black men or some Indians, etc, but I don't hate them. I have more recently begun to sometimes take a second look at some of them and reconsider my first thought. Fat or feminine generally turns me off. Body language or charisma or something does attract me to people, sometimes its hard to put my finger on what it is.
 
It is possible not to want to go to bed with someone and not be racists. However, it doesn't seem to be that way, especially in this JUB community. If I said that I wouldn't sleep with Kanye West or Will Smith, I'd be branded. It doesn't mean that I hate black men or that I think I'm better than them. It''s just that I hate Kanye and Will and don't find them at all sexually attractive.

Now, Douglas McIntosh is another matter entirely, but that doesn't matter, because I still would be racist for not wanting to share a bed with Kanye or Will.

For me, Douglas oozes personality. Kanye and Will ooze all the wrong kinds.

I completely agree with this. I find Sterling "Steelo" Brim co-host of MTV's Ridiculousness extremely sexy and attractive. It's all in his personality. I find Kanye to be an ass, and that's so unattractive. But just like you I'll be called a racist for saying that, and the fact that I like Steelo will be dismissed as an attempt to not look like a racist.
 
What you always seem to cite are gay dating apps, which, by definition, are disproportionately peopled by a subgroup of gay men who objectify sex and relationships in terms reminiscent of car shopping. "I want a sports car." "I want leather seats."

Yet, as I remember, straight friends had no such shopping list when they were finding partners. They began dating and went out with the gals they found funny, cute, interesting, challenging, smart, athletic, or whatever. I never once heard one say, "I'd never date a brunette," nor did I hear one say, "Latinas need not apply." They didn't see dating that way. They weren't shopping for meat.

The dating apps DO NOT represent gay men, only a mercenary subset. Their race preferences are no more or less offensive than Cormac's "no fats, no fems, etc."

When you say "no fats, no fems", you refer to a human's physique. It's like what you wrote. I want a sports car. I want leather seats. But when you see "No Blacks, no Asians", the person dismisses an ENTIRE race which to me is Racism. If he indicates his preferences "Not into Blacks with big dicks" or "Not into Asians with small dicks", that I understand. OK, they're stereotypes but at least the person doesn't reject an entire race.

If the person wrote "No Jews" (and let's say you're Jewish), would you accuse him of being anti-Semitic? Or would you think it's just his "preference"?

I bet you're white (and I might be wrong) because you dismissively think "their race preferences are no more or less offensive than Cormac's "no fats, no fems, etc." which is comparing orange with apple. A person who hasn't experienced racism would not write something like that. You might think there is nothing essentially wrong with the line "No Blacks, No Asians" but to Blacks and Asians, it's quite offensive. And racist. Some gay men think it's OK to use it and hide their racist views behind the "Oh it's just a preference. I have Black and Asian friends" blanket. It's like saying, Yeah I have minorities in my team but I only promote Caucasians.

And Yes, the dating apps DO represent gay men in a way, including you.
 
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Except there is only ONE major race on the whole planet. That would be the human race. So if you're asking if race is important as far as sexual intercourse, then yes. Anyone I take into my bed, or take on the dining room table (etc, etc), WILL be human. No exceptions. If that makes me racist oh well.

You can say that...
if you're a visitor from Uranus. Unfortunately, that's not how we describe/distinguish ourselves on planet earth :(
 
It doesn't matter how the gift is wrapped, it's the gift itself that's important. If you're a decent, caring, supportive, empathetic person, that's pretty much the end of it.

Yes!Yes! I knew those qualities are buried deep inside me..
buried from all of my prahblems :mrgreen:

For me..it is about his "vibe" and the chemistry we have..sexual chemistry or any other kind of chemistry....even for casual sex.

No no no, you already right when you described your first timer attraction as "vibe", chemistry is..chemistry is like when you already get to know him for months, more than a few dates. :mrgreen:
I have different "types" of guys I generally like...but even if I think the guy looks sexy..his vibe is the only deciding factor. Looks alone do not really sway me much....

Race is not even a factor. Any race can have the vibe I like......

...and I have sampled all of them...quite a few times ..|

Well, for me..I sampled all of them too but not quite a few times because sometimes good vibe also clash with sexual ideal :(

one time sample only ^^
 
I have some physical preferences but of course race doesn't count, I'd love to have a brazilian guy, just like an indian or japanese one etcetera. Let's say that given my tastes, my type of man is found a little easier in some ethnicities rather than others, for example I think I've never seen a very hairy chubby chinese guy..
life proof :lol: http://asian-beef.tumblr.com/post/95415724531/alwaysbeenstocky-stocky-asian-guys
I think it's because of demographic- they're definitely not concentrated in your area (Italy?)
But you right about your type could be abundant in one or some ethnicities but not the other..even in their homeland, not many asian guys could become that large/stocky and even gay altogether..
There are many other non-aesthetic things, character related, that soon set my mind at ease, or make me feel very distant, which make up the priorities...
But you can trust me or not..if he's very far from your ideal range- the chemistry will end at some level. ^^
 
No no no, you already right when you described your first timer attraction as "vibe", chemistry is..chemistry is like when you already get to know him for months, more than a few dates. :mrgreen:

I am only referring to sexual chemistry...that is important for me. More than once when I realized it wasn't gonna happen I told them upfront it wasn't gonna work so lets not waste any more of our time...politely of course:lol:


Well, for me..I sampled all of them too but not quite a few times because sometimes good vibe also clash with sexual ideal :(

one time sample only ^^

I could never walk into a candy shop and only sample one...I need a lot of samples....

If I picked my Top 20 great fucks...it would look like the United Nations..|
 
I knew you're as pro as those guys from vintage fisting movies --sorry you giving me that vibe lol :lol:
 
I knew you're as pro as those guys from vintage fisting movies --sorry you giving me that vibe lol :lol:

LOL..well..fisting only made an appearance maybe 10-15 times...but I do like hard core fucking....top or bottom....

Christopher Rage's Sleaze had the kind of sex vibe I like....
 
I think that we base what we do on our past experiences in life. If I were seeking a guying I would go white/ Hispanic.
I find Asians very attractive but have been fucked (and not in a good way) by everyone I ever worked with.

I'm sorry in behalf of all asians but you know right? :( There always be cunts in every race?
With blacks I must admit I would steer clear because of all of the bitching that hear about white privilege, I just don't like to be around victims.
understandable. We don't want to be around with folks who carry thunderstorm around them..all the freaking time
 
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