Is this racism? - Let's discuss

[youngnihilist]

Just an interesting note, this also extends for heterosexual asian men regarding white girls. i was visiting a straight forum and one of the main threads is about "do asian guys have a chance with white girls"

its a cultural phenomenon and its pretty silly. if asian men become alpha males they'd have a much better chance.

 

[GreatZeus]

To answer your strangely phrased question:

If someone freely mixes with people of all colors and ethnic backgrounds, but only sleeps with one particular ethnic type, no he or she isn't racist. That's his/her preference.

Some people are only attracted to blondes or brunettes.

Some people are only attracted to people of a a particular height.

The roots of this may be in childhood experiences which could have been colored by racial or ethnic stereotyping, but the person's preference is just his/her preference.

To this insightful remark, I would add: And if the person did have sex with a black or Asian or whatever, it would be rather like he consumed some food that he doesn't particularly like. I don't like fish. But if some turns up in a salad. I don't freak out. I may simply eat it and move on. There is not liking something and there is freaking out if it happens. If the guy doesn't freak out if he should have sex with someone outside of his color preference, then he is just fine. I have a preference for tall people. But there would be no hysteria on my part if I were to have sex with a short person.

 

[The_Reaper]

I wouldn't say it's racism...

Would you say it's sexism that a gay guy will date a man but not a woman? I didn't think so.

Matters of the heart, in particular, who we're attracted too can't be classified in such terms as far as I'm concerned.


I am however, interested in wondering what creates this type of attraction in people though.

It crosses into racism however, if the reasons the man has for not dating certain ethnicities are incorrect or racist.

For example, AND these are JUST EXAMPLES and not my own personal beliefs:

If he won't date Asian guys because of the old "legend" about them having smaller cocks, that's racist.

If he won't date African American guys because he thinks they're all gang members, that's racist.

So, if his reason is honestly just not being attracted to them...I don't think there's a problem.

If his reason involves stereotyping and incorrect assumptions, then it can be considered racism.

Everyone get that?

 

[pizzaprof]

Everyone get that?

Yawn...

1. Do you understand that's it's possible to not know the origins of your sexual preferences? However, it's unlikely that any of them "just happen". You think people are born being attracted to guys who wear glasses or smooth chests?

2. Just because "racist" and "sexist" are similar terms doesn't mean that there similar concepts. Sex is a concrete, biological phenomenon. Races are socially fabricated. There's no such thing as a racial sexual orientation.

 

[The Reviewer]

I don't think it's racism. However, I call it cultural bias; which comes from familiarity, identification and comfortability with what/who a person knows. Having a particular attraction or desire for any race, place or thing is not a natually occuring human condition. These traits are shaped by our upbringing, media and life experiences all together. Later in life, we attain the ability to express our attractions whether it be verbally or through our interactions. I do believe that over time, prejudice is a result of cultural underexposure and some people aren't even aware of how they come off to others in this way. Some people knowingly treat others differently because of their ethnic/cultural background and could care less. However, we can't blame physical attraction or romantic acquisitions on racism, because that's not where it is always rooted. Various attractions drives our desires, yet often times what some people desire is complicated. When you're a minority within the gay community, it is even more difficult because if you sexually desire someone of another race, it is not readily accepted or even commonly represented.

I see an often touted argument about sexism as it used to draw similarities on these topics of physical attraction. Sexual orientation is a natually occuring condition. Sexism is not a natually occuring human condition, as it is learned form of gender bias which, if you apply the definition correctly, has nothing to do with the gender(s) you have physical/romantic desire for.

 

[gabriel1]

I personally think his post makes no sense.

 

[Claudio63]

Depending on your motivation for not going to bed with blacks (or asians, latinos, etc.) you may or not be racist. If you don't find them appealing or attractive in the way some people can't go to bed with a chub or a hairy guy, then NO you're not racist.

Races are socially fabricated.

No biological reason for skin color then?

 

[pizzaprof]

No biological reason for skin color then?

Yep, but skin color doesn't equal race.

 

[sheep]

I personally think his post makes no sense.

OK guys. The handwriting is on the wall. All the whites now have to go to bed with a black, latino, and oriental or risk loosing their gay card and having BIGOT branded on there forehead.

I'm sorry, but there will be no exceptions. This also applies to latinos blacks and orientals.

WTF?

 

[Claudio63]

Yep, but skin color doesn't equal race.

Well that practically ends the discusion: if you don't like a particular skin color then you're NOT racist, because skin color doesn't equal race.

The point is very few people will have sex with anyone that comes along. Many of us (most?) discriminate when it comes to who we find sexually attractive. Beauty is completely subjective and based on physical traits such as tallness, girth, eyecolor, cock size, butt, age, hirsuteness, etc. You can't expect skin color not to be one of those traits we might or might not discriminate on. Just open any Jake Cruise lay out on the main page and read the commentaries full of Jake's too old, too ugly, too fat, too hairy. Not that he can't have sex, but he should stick to his own kind and leave the "beautiful" to the "beautiful". It's absurd and dumb: they should have sex with Jake first and then see if he's sexy or not. Whoever started this thread should have sex with a black man and then decide if they're to his liking or not. But sexual attraction doesn't work that way. And I think we (and i even include the Jake Cruise haters) have the right to find certain types of people attractive based on their sex, size, age or skin color.

Maybe you look beyond shallow physical traits and only see a person's soul or something like that. Congratulations. I don't. A person's personality never gave me an erection, but the hair on their arms or their smile did, or the bulge in their pants.

 

[Claudio63]

All the whites now have to go to bed with a black, latino, and oriental or risk loosing their gay card and having BIGOT branded on there forehead.
WTF?

I don't have to worry about that. I've been chubby all my life so I was never even GIVEN a gay card.

 

[2243]

[F]Say there's this white guy , this alleged white guy exclusively dates only other white guys, he doesn't date [STRIKE]black guys[/STRIKE], [STRIKE]asian guys[/STRIKE], [STRIKE]hispanic guys[/STRIKE], etc. But at the same time, this white guy is not avoiding guys of other color, he hangs around with them like they are not HIV postive, infact two of his closest friends are asians. He's just not attracted to them sexually. It doesn't matter how hot an asian guy, or a black guy is, because his feelings towards them is [STRIKE]non-existent[/STRIKE]. Does this make him a racist or is it completely normal? [/FONT]

Your post is so cryptic. I suppose your friend could be racist, but you really can't conclude to that with the information you've provided. As has been mentioned before, there are many shades of racism, but I view what your friend is doing as an aesthetics preference and not really racism.

I have a cousin who always says she can't see her-self dating white or asian guys because (in her opinion) they ar not masculine enough for her. Well, in my opinion she will be missing out.

 

[nitish]

Oh wow. This seems like an earnest dumb question, but the more you consider it, the more it becomes puzzling.

a) no, he's not kkk racist
b) yes, he prefers one race over the other, sexuality
c) you're free to call that racism, if you want
d) there is nothing wrong with that

I never understood why people get offended by what other people like, sexually. Do you think they have a choice in what they like? it's primal urge. No one picks who they like rationally, so stop criticizing people for what they like. I am black and i am attracted to white, Latin, black, and Asian. YES, in that order. Sue me.

 

[GoodbyeSobriety]

=Does this make him a racist or is it completely normal?

As I've said in 1,547,452 posts before, there are hot guys from all ethnic backgrounds, and in my opinion, negating a relationship solely based on race is retarded and ignorant.

Maybe the non-white people who "this guy" hangs out with isn't his type, but does that mean disregard the entire race?

No, not racist, but he's definitely bias. Why doesn't he just look at each individual without the labels and colors?

 

[naturist]

Anyone who says it is definitely not racist is definitely racist. People who let the color of one's skin dictate who they have sex with is racist. I'm talking KKK/Neo Nazi racist. There are good lookers in every ethnic background and if you limit yourself like so many of you so obviously do, something's broken.

 

[Hard4cumshots]

I dont think it's racist i think it's preference.

And like it or not Black gays (you're only African American if your an immigrant FROM an African country...Africa isn't one country it's a continent and if you dont know what country you're from then you're JUST an American!") anyway Black gays statistically have the highest rates of HIV than other gay men.

It's true and it sounds bad, but I dont care if your black white day-glo orange i'm not having sex without a condom and proof that you've been tested (the do send you the results!)

 

[Hard4cumshots]

well I do b/c I sleep mainly with white guys, but then i also bring condoms.

Are you refering to JUST gay black men? b/c now that I think about it I think the one that I read was ALL black men regardless of sexual preference because of the stigma in the black community about being gay there are more "down low" cases. "straight" black men have sex with other men as well as women and don't use protection.

 

[LatinoSTAR]

I think its just that guys preference, like i have a preferene toward latino and asian guys, besides white guys are not a different race from black guys, we are all (latinos, asians, blacks, whites)part of the same race, the human race!,

 

[gameboy 11]

I wouldn't necessarily say it's normal, maybe it is, but it isn't racist in my eyes.

 

[latinoguy19]

As a multiracial boy who has experienced racism firsthand (stopped by cops because of my color, accused of theft) that is hardly racism, if at all.

That is preferential treatment. I , as I said before, am multiracial, but have my preferences when it comes to those I am attracted to. There is a huge difference.