I've been Banned!

[gmoney]

...from smoking inside the house.

Now I know all you non-smokers are going to say something along the lines of 'hallelujah'!

I know all about the negatives of smoking...been doing it a long time.

My nearly 80 year old father lives with me. He's always maintained that he would never become one of those 'obnoxious' ex-smokers, and let it be known that it was okay to smoke around him.

In the past year, his health has declined, including certain respiratory ailments.

After a visit to the doctor today, he was informed that his home (and mine) need to be smoke-free.

I have no issue with accommodating my father's needs and adjusting my habits, but I have to admit, this "going outside" to smoke thing sucks!


End of rant.

 

[kevbo]

I have no issue with accommodating my father's needs and adjusting my habits, but I have to admit, this "going outside" to smoke thing sucks!

I don't want to hear you whine until you've had a cigarette in subzero temperatures.

 

[puka-pride]

at least your house will smell a little better?

 

[gmoney]

If you smoked in my house you would be kicked out and the door would be locked on your polluting ass.

I find smoking in public places to be the most disrespectful thing anyone can do, thank god it is banned and fineable in Britain. You cant even smoke in pubs or restaurants anymore.

Oh, guns are illegal here too. No smoke and no guns makes me happy .

Yes, you still have equal rights. You have the right to quit smoking and be healthier, and to learn martial arts for self defense.

Thank goodness, I'll never have this scenario to deal with!

Your intolerance of anyone that doesn't have your exact mindset kind of makes me sad. I see you leading a lonely life into a ripe old age.

 

[wirega56]

Firstly this should not be a rant. I'm a smoker and always respect those around me. I grew up in the age of smokers, I try to do my best to look after others who prefer not to smell tobacco and they respect me for that. I have had two friends die from smoking and it is not just from the lungs, one was a serial pot smoker and he got mouth cancer at 40, the other was a long term tobacco smoker and he died from lung disease at 67. I think you should do as required and put up with the effort it'll be good for you and him in your relationship and hopefully he will live a bit longer and so will you upon reflection you may be able to cut back on your smoking.I hope your fathers last days are the best for you , please speak with him and say your good byes in the the best friendship, I didnt because I procrastinated

 

[ozguy]

Why not use the 'ban' as an incentive to give up altogether? You'll feel so much better for it in the long run and think of all the money you'll save, too.

Giving up the cigs was one of the hardest things I've ever done (I was a packet-a-day man), but I did it with determination and willpower (plus a helping hand from nicotine gum) and I've been ciggie free for nearly eight years now. No more phlegmy coughing, stained fingers and smelly clothes .... yay!!!

Believe me, mate, if I can do it, anyone can!

 

[Lukeee]

Give up......

 

[Spiff]

hallelujah!

 

[Scrub]

G-Mo

I can understand how you feel. Yes I also have this nasty habit. I smoke outside all day since I can't smoke where I work and my one pleasure is coming home and being able to light up.

I know you will do what has to be done for your fathers health.

 

[TriBi]

I agree with Ozguy - it sounds like a great opportunity to think about quitting.

...and why is it that so many gay guys embrace smoking? Especially knowing what it does to your health and life expectancy...there really isn't anything very sexy about ashtray breath, smelly clothes or terminal illnesses.

 

[RationalLunacy]

Now you can set your lawn on fire instead of your living room.

 

[BlueD]

Now you can set your lawn on fire instead of your living room.

Fried wildebeast anyone?


@Gmoney: I'm sorry to hear about your father. But I do agree with others about taking this as an opportunity to quit smoking. It's just better for your health, your close ones' health; a bit of financial benefit; no more unpleasant odor on clothes, in the house; and finally, more sex appeal to others.

 

[unloadonme]

Smoking is banned inside all buildings in the UK. If you smoked inside any building, you would be thrown out.

Smoking can only be done outdoors here.

Actually, it's all public buildings. One can still smoke inside one's own home. Why anyone would want to is another matter altogether.

The best advice is Lukeee's. Give up. It's disgusting!

 

[Elwood]

I smoke outside all the time, ever since the kids were born we stopped smoking in the house. I actually prefer it now and I would never smoke cigarettes inside. Do you at least have a balcony or somewhere close just to step out and have a smoke? I go on my back balcony. Like Ravenstar mentioned you don't smoke as much which is a good thing

In a couple of weeks I think you will notice a big difference from not smoking inside and will most likely enjoy it.

 

[TygreBryte]

I have friends who smoke cigarettes and cigars.We put a powerful window fan in a spare room,where I allow everyone to smoke.It becomes quite the little social circle,and keeps the rest of the house smoke free....

Best wishes with your Dad...gmo...

I think that's a really cool idea, if you can find a fan that's powerful enough to really get it all out.

There's something about tobacco smoke that is immediately and extremely physically irritating to me. I'm pretty sure that "allergy" is part of that, but it seems to me to go beyond that. I don't know if it's some of the additives involved, but the way I kind of characterize it is, it feels like there's something about smoking tobacco products that's like it's not only putting noxious stuff into the atmosphere, it's also actually sucking some of the oxygen OUT.

This reaction has gotten more pronounced as I get older. About two years ago, the city council in my town banned smoking in all restaurants and bars. Idealogically, I was actually kind of against it, but in terms of my own well-being/social enjoyment, I was like , because I actually could go to some places I liked, again. There have been a few times over the last several years where I've forced myself to stay in a club for a show or sit at one of my fave bars with friends way past the point where I was comfortable, and then ended up seriously ill with a two-week sinus infection.

This really extends to being in the cars or homes of smokers, where they smoke inside. Even if they're not smoking at the moment, it just clings to everything. My eyes begin to water, my nose starts to run. Bleah. I just can't stay in those spots.

I used to have a lot more animus for smoking and smokers than I do now. I have great respect for nicotine as an addictive substance (i'm pretty sure that the only other drug that moves your nervous system to an addictive withdrawal-avoidance AS FAST as nicotine does is heroin). I've watched tons of friends and loved ones try to quit, and never quite make it. (One of my ex-smoker friends has been a nicorrette addict for 6-10 years and now he's trying to kick THAT. I'm not sure why). It always makes me sad when I see a young person take it up. "You know you're signing up for a lifetime of slavery, right?" "Yeah, sure. Gotta light?"

G$, I hope the change goes well for you and hats off for doing something like that for your dad. I hope his health stays good.

 

[dynk]

Just try and quit ASAP, the sooner the better. I waited too long and have emphysema now. Good luck, i will not repeat this again

 

[spooger]

even when i was a regular smoker, i quit smoking in my house....

i don't like the lingering smell....and when i would clean my windows and mirrors, i could SEE the brown tar from all the cig smoke, so i resolved to do it only outside...

i rather enjoyed sitting on the porch to enjoy a smoke....even when rainy or cold

good luck....and i'm sure Dad thanks you, too

and BLESS you for caring for your dad.....i did the same for my elderly parents as their health declined.....it was tough, but i as SO happy i did it.....good luck, gmoney!!

 

[WYSIWYG]

Smoking to me in public and inside is distasteful and disrespectful to others who don't smoke. And smoking in general is not healthy for you nor is second hand smoke. If someone wants to risk their health that is okay with me, but respect others who don't want smokers in the same room or area.

I think that smoking is the same as having to listen to others in the stores, buses, etc., talk incessantly and loudly on their fucking cell phones in meaningless conversations. (The only health issue with this is it is annoying!)

 

[spooger]

Smoking *clip* in public and inside is distasteful and disrespectful to others who don't smoke. *clip*

and exactly where else is left for one to exercise this LEGAL activity if he so chooses?

 

[Shepherd 2]

gmoney,
A man has got to do what a man has got to do.
In the words of the Nike ad, JUST DO IT!

Love to you,
Shep+