James Marsden is 37. Is This Considered "Over the Hill"?

[Dduder]

Yeah, if you're over 21, forget it.

I am 22.

 

[TheFireGod]

Certainly not!

He's hotter now than when he was just starting out... there was this kids movie where he's the older brother, who really hated strawberry.

 

[birddog7]

You're one of the most pessimistic people I've ever witnessed on here. Life is what you make of it and frankly, you don't seem to be making too much of yours. Age isn't the problem but a bad attitude.

I agree with you.

Self doubt, and poor attitudes are not easy to change.

 

[Willie Boy]

Sometimes I wonder if dying young isn't better than suffering through old age. Opinions on this will vary.



Good point, but that's really not what I meant. Who ever said "life begins at 40", must have not lived beyond 25. I'm no more content at 49, than I was at 18. I still feel basically the same mentally. I just know that time is running out, and I'm more likely, with every passing day, to die lonely, and sad, without ever having loved anyone. That thought is what bothers me most. Old age sucks for me. I just hope I die quickly when the time comes.

Your problem is that you don't stop to smell the proverbial roses. You don't consider if the glass is half full or half empty, you knock it over and complain that its empty.

You will never find anyone focusing on the negatives in life. You need to talk to a therapist. Call and set up an appointment... NOW!!!!

And while you are waiting for your appointment you need to, every morning when you wake up, start the day off with a positive thought. And every time you see your reflection think of at least one good thing about yourself and speak loud enough that you can actually hear it. Then every night, as you are getting ready for bed find at least two positive accomplishments (even if its just that you made it through the day, and that you are healthy). The object of these things is to get you thinking positive. With a positive attitude, you'll be more attractive to others. Negativity and depression will continue to isolate you.

 

[Sam Blum]

When I was 21 and beginning my major and final (thank goodness) teaching practicum, I was sitting in the staff room when an 18yo girl walked in to ask another teacher something. This teacher was sitting at my table. Once the student had asked her question of him, she turned to me and asked off the cuff how old I was. When I said 21, she said, "Oh, I thought you were a new student but you're over the hill!" Perspective of the young is rather limited and although the younger people can be beautiful to look at, they are often also lacking in the vast experience that adds depth of character to a person and makes them a much more satisfying individual - whether as a friend, performer, artist, colleague, whatever. If you have something to offer that goes beyond prettiness, youth, romantic ideologies and ignorance/naivete, you're probably not a baby any longer. Those lines we see on people's faces really are character lines, the show the depths and dimensions of a soul that come from living, and these aspects of a person's life are far more alluring and intoxicating in all ways than simple youth. Even when I was a kid I believed this. To see a man who looks after himself at an age not too distant from my own is usually what I find most attractive. This opinion will change, now that I've written it down, no doubt.

 

[gsdx]

Those lines we see on people's faces really are character lines, the show the depths and dimensions of a soul that come from living, and these aspects of a person's life are far more alluring and intoxicating in all ways than simple youth.

Sadly, a lot of people these days go to great lengths and greater expense to erase those line.

 

[Sam Blum]

You're one of the most pessimistic people I've ever witnessed on here. Life is what you make of it and frankly, you don't seem to be making too much of yours. Age isn't the problem but a bad attitude.

Mmm, I think that it's not quite so simple as saying to a person, "You need to change your attitude." I just imagined a Joan Crawford image of a woman shaking another woman violently by the shoulders! "C H A N G E Y O U R A T T I T U D E !!!" I knowDr. Phil has a 100% success rate with this mantra, but what Birddog7 is speaking to is an unfulfilled odyssey, and this isn't something that a simply more positive perspective will resolve. The longing that can develop in the heart if left unexpressed & unexperienced can cause a person such a pain as not broken bones nor depth of cut ever could. When a man is in his 20's and feels this longing it feels very different from when he's in his mid-life, and the sense of urgency becomes vastly increased. One learns and perhaps understands this after studying the various stages of development at high school or at uni, but one feels it increasingly with age.

Empathy speaks to a positive attitude, too!

 

[birddog7]

Mmm, I think that it's not quite so simple as saying to a person, "You need to change your attitude." I just imagined a Joan Crawford image of a woman shaking another woman violently by the shoulders! "C H A N G E Y O U R A T T I T U D E !!!" I knowDr. Phil has a 100% success rate with this mantra, but what Birddog7 is speaking to is an unfulfilled odyssey, and this isn't something that a simply more positive perspective will resolve. The longing that can develop in the heart if left unexpressed & unexperienced can cause a person such a pain as not broken bones nor depth of cut ever could. When a man is in his 20's and feels this longing it feels very different from when he's in his mid-life, and the sense of urgency becomes vastly increased. One learns and perhaps understands this after studying the various stages of development at high school or at uni, but one feels it increasingly with age.

Empathy speaks to a positive attitude, too!

At least somebody does have some understanding of what I feel.

 

[Audio Tech]

At least somebody does have some understanding of what I feel.

I understand you. It can be very difficult at times. Sex is the easy part, loosing your heart and soul into another.... that's the tough one.

But I HAVE to believe that there is someone out there for everyone.
Otherwise, what's the whole point to being born?

 

[birddog7]

But I HAVE to believe that there is someone out there for everyone.
Otherwise, what's the whole point to being born?

I have wondered that for many years, and I still have no idea of the answer...

 

[fetaby]

Otherwise, what's the whole point to being born?

The point is whatever you want the point to be....

And OMG at the clinical depression...

 

[Audio Tech]

I think I'll pass, thanks.

I'd rather have a bland, characterless face if that's the case.

Botox!

 

[Willie Boy]

That's one way of looking at it.

Another is, passing the midpoint in your adulthood.
The first xx years don't count because you're just a child then.

So if you take 18 as the beginning of adulthood and you can expect to live to 80, 49 would be the midpoint.

But as the first xx years of life are a preparation for adult life they should be counted. That is what the whole ejucatakion thang are all about anyway. It is still part of one's life.

 

[connermt]

It depends on who you ask.
If you ask someone that's 17 or 18, that doesn't have a full time job, that sleeps until noon everyday and is more concerned with drinking and clubbing, then yes, it might be "over the hill".
But if you ask someone who knows what's what (IE mature), then likely no, it's not over the hill.

 

[AlmondMilk]

Yes, I think he's old but he's still very attractive. I find young and old guys can be quite attractive. And I will always remember him as cyclops

 

[wooffy]

But I HAVE to believe that there is someone out there for everyone.
Otherwise, what's the whole point to being born?

You are born to live. You can appreciate beauty, you can seek out knowledge, and you can love (in more ways than romantic partnerships).

There are so many experiences available in life that its impossible to live them all, so why focus on just the one?!?

 

[Sam Blum]

He doesn't need empathy. What he needs is a good spanking.

fair enuff!

 

[Sam Blum]

I think I'll pass, thanks.

I'd rather have a bland, characterless face if that's the case.

I understand - I think I probably have a bland, characterless face, myself! But I still find other men with lines around their faces that speak to friendliness and experiences and concern lovable and as I wrote, alluring. Today I found myself staring at a very confident man's face as we chatted and immediately checkinghis hand for signs of commitment... Married... Rats!

 

[bluedragon4]

This post is 77. Is This Considered "Over the Hill?"

I have to say I notice you always TRY to make jokes in all the threads. You aren't funny at all. I don't mind humor in threads but make it at least funny. You are just an eye roll at this point.

 

[Sha-Rok]

Its not the number...its how well you've aged and taken care of yourself that really counts.