backpacker
fka "vetteboi"
Normally I would advise to talk to someone in person, but if Christmas will be the first opportunity to see him in person, I say do it on the phone. Christmas is five months away and it's never a good idea to wait that long to take care of business. It sounds like he has very limited time at home and you don't want being bi to interfere with his visit. He may want to (with other relatives), but it's not a choice you should make for him. Also, you may not have an opportunity for the talk with him when he is home.
I tend to think that it's not really accidental when you find out someone if gay or bi. They either want you to find out or they have gotten to the point where they aren't that worried if people know. I wonder if the email mix up was intentional to test the waters with you. I tend to think the mutual friend is simply helping him come out to you. It sounds like you have been discussing this with the mutual friend and if it were just an email mix up I would hope the friend wouldn't say anything more than what's in the email without your cousin's permission. My guess is that your cousin is wondering why you haven't talked to him about it yet.
Does your mutual friend know that you are bi? If so, there is also a chance that the friend set up the whole thing because he thought it was silly that the two of you have this in common and didn't know it. He may be doing the exact same thing with your cousin.
The bottom line, talk to your cousin now. I would bring up the topic with something like: "An email mix up from X made me realize there is something I should talk to you about. I'm bi. I feel kind of stupid that I didn't talk to you about this before now, because I know you will be cool with it."
Good luck!
I tend to think that it's not really accidental when you find out someone if gay or bi. They either want you to find out or they have gotten to the point where they aren't that worried if people know. I wonder if the email mix up was intentional to test the waters with you. I tend to think the mutual friend is simply helping him come out to you. It sounds like you have been discussing this with the mutual friend and if it were just an email mix up I would hope the friend wouldn't say anything more than what's in the email without your cousin's permission. My guess is that your cousin is wondering why you haven't talked to him about it yet.
Does your mutual friend know that you are bi? If so, there is also a chance that the friend set up the whole thing because he thought it was silly that the two of you have this in common and didn't know it. He may be doing the exact same thing with your cousin.
The bottom line, talk to your cousin now. I would bring up the topic with something like: "An email mix up from X made me realize there is something I should talk to you about. I'm bi. I feel kind of stupid that I didn't talk to you about this before now, because I know you will be cool with it."
Good luck!
And again, thanks. I might use it again to find two of my siblings from my fathers side.
