Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017 / 2018 / 2019

[sixthson]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

Got my urine test results back... no chlamydia, no gonorrhea, no trichomoniasis.

Now for my bloodtest to come back. Didn´t check what syphilis test they use, but I had that already so I´ll probably test positive even if if I don´t have it now.

As for the HIV test....

We'll keep our testicles crossed for you.

 

[G-Lexington]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

Here goes:

I sometimes wonder if I'll ever have a job/career in which I do not dread Sunday evenings/hate Monday mornings. I almost feel like no matter how much I like my job, I'll never "love" one enough to look forward to going to work. Don't get me wrong, I am not lazy and have no problem *working*...but it's the not getting much out of it, tedious nature, lack of autonomy aspect that gets to me sometimes. Maybe I should look into starting my own business at some point...but I know that has its negatives as well.

I feel like there are not enough hours in the day, and the older I get...the more apparent this seems. Endless cycle...work, work out, make dinner, try to spend some time with the hubster, go to bed, wake up and do it all over again. Weekends are more relaxed, of course...but even then, it seems like you barely have time to breathe before Monday is breathing down your neck again.

I (for some odd reason) give more of a shit about what I look like *now* than I did when I was single and actively trying to attract other men. My husband thinks I'm hot shit, but I don't always feel that way. I see other hot guys, and it makes me feel like I need to "step my game up". It's just so odd that I worry so much about this now, when it used to not be a big deal to me at all.

The older I get, the more apparent it is that I am nowhere near as intelligent as what people made me think I was growing up.

I have no real talent, no real life "goals", and I sometimes feel like I'm just floating along doing what adults do because...adulthood.

As I have started to experience more deaths in my family, friends, and acquaintances...I'm starting to think about my own mortality and health more. I'm deathly afraid of what kind of illnesses and horrible things could happen to myself and my loved ones at some point in time. It's a very distressing feeling...

Being an adult is sometimes stressful as fuck (for a number of different reasons). I love it, but it is extremely challenging at times...and I have moments where I just really miss being a kid. My grandmother always told me not to "rush" away my childhood. I get it now.

wow...I forgot how therapeutic it can be to write in this thread.
*take a breath*

At some point early on in life, I asked myself "what do I want?" And I came up with the rather vague answer "I want to be happy". I know it's impossible to be happy 24/7/365, of course, but I didn't think there was anything wrong with maximizing my happiness. I decided a "career" wasn't important to me unless I was happy climbing the ladder, and "not being single" wasn't important to me unless I was happy being with him. Yeah, there are things that cost a fair chunk of change that would make me very happy...but I won't be UNhappy not getting them. I don't mind not traveling a lot, or not owning a really nice car. I'm really happy sitting at home listening to my records and reading books and maybe smooching a guy, none of which costs much of anything. So I looked for jobs I'd "like". That's it. And the money is crap, but I'm happy. Sometimes I'm not crazy about dragging my ass out of bed and going to work, but that's less "I hate work" and more "damn, laying in bed doing nothing feels really awesome". I sometimes worry a bit about the future, but I do have some money squirreled away, so I don't think I'll ever be in any danger.

I'm a bit surprised how much of my childhood I DIDN'T have to leave behind. There's a lot of make-believe and imagination going on. I still buy toys on occasion, and like wearing T-shirts with cartoon characters on them. Yeah, I had to mature in some ways - rent must be paid, have you replaced the filter in the furnace, keep that receipt for tax purposes. But hell, it isn't that different from being a kid. I have more chores, but they're still chores. And the "allowance" is more of a vague concept in my head than the actual coins my mother used to plunk down into my open palm, but I still feel the same way when the laundry's done now that I did when I was ten.

...I have no idea if any of this is helpful at all. It sometimes doesn't really make any sense to me. But, y'know, it's WORKING. So I stick with it.

Lex

 

[tarallucci]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

^ that makes sense very much... and I totally second that. You are a great guy Lex.

I was composing a message for Gentleheart the other day but then I canceled it because I thought I was sounding repetitive. I just want to add that those are common worries about not having enough time (or having too much), no particular aims and fearing for our health and that of the dear ones. We don't all need an important career, sometimes being an average guy is the best thing; less gain but also less responsibility - it's a balance like that. I have noticed that I am always missing something: when I was unemployed I wanted to work, found a job then changed a few other due to the conditions, found better conditions but there are some other issues... and so on. I doubt but maybe you could talk to your boss and see if he can do something about the schedule or changing position or... try to appreciate more what you have. Let's not forget that life is complicated and it's understandable to feel jaded. One day you will retire and spend every bit of time with your partner.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

Fatass the cat poked a hole in the lid of one of the snake tanks despite precautions and snakeling has made a bid for freedom. Now there's six baited bottles around the perimeter with scent tracks to 'em, hope to Christ his perpetually hungry ass finds them and falls for it.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

^ Feed the cat to the snake.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

^ Feed the cat to the snake.

The snake that made a break for it is much too tiny (corn snake) and besides, I'd consider that cruel as they've been socialized to 'ignore' the snakes and keep at a distance. Fatass is dim but I'm hoping he'll pick up the rules eventually. Besides, neither of them are large enough to eat cats, the larger of the snakes isn't an adult yet, though she could probably kill him with little trouble if she panics. Fortunately during her fifteen minutes of out of the tank time I notice she also 'makes sure' the cats are at a safe distance since she wants nothing to do with feline possibilities. She's a decent sort, not particularly skittish but definitely avid about her surroundings. Though I have been mulling over her future boyfriend possibilities.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

Whereas the lil bugger that escaped is vaguely interested in the cats, I've watched him nosing the glass looking for God only knows what while fatass sat an inch to two away on the other side. Didn't last long, moved some furniture, he wasn't supposed to be able to reach the tank for viewing, let alone get to the lid to cave a corner inward. We didn't have this problem when it was just the one cat, her interest drops abruptly if she's closer than four or five feet. She knows a bad idea when she sees it. Hell, she's informed me of several things I've missed. Then again, she's intelligent. Fatass, sweetheart though he is, is well below the average where reasoning processes come into play.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

^ It always surprises me when people claim that animals have no personality. It's so very obvious to anyone who has ever had pets.

 

[gsdx]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

^ Indeed. My two cats (mother and daughter) are as different as night and day. And all the dogs I've had had completely different personalities, too.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

^ It always surprises me when people claim that animals have no personality. It's so very obvious to anyone who has ever had pets.

Mmhm, just like every other animal, humans included, they all have personalities. The corn snake, for instance, is a little too big for the britches he doesn't wear. Seems to have Opinions, he does, and is not afeared to let you know them. Also a bit high strung, always takes him a few minutes to settle down. The high strung still surprises me, rare to find in kept snakes. All I know is Ron hasn't spotted him yet while we're home or she would've said something and Malfoy is too dim to hide himself if he were carrying around a very aggrieved snake. Who would probably bite him on the nose first chance he got. You really get to know an animal's personality after they realize you're unlikely to eat them.

 

[G-Lexington]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

I managed to cut myself with a knife in the kitchen this evening. This wouldn't be all that notable except:

1. I wasn't doing any cooking, and
2. The knife was resting safely in the knife butcher block at the time.

Gargoyle re-earned his klutz merit badge tonight.

Lex

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

^Dont worry, I have bruises and cuts and all that because of my clumsiness. You’d think I was an abused house wife from the looks of things.

 

[Charon]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

Another Gay guy and I flirt with each other on a diferent forum.

Moderator: "Take it to PM, this isn't a dating site."

I bet if it was two lesbians, he wouldn't give a fuck.

 

[G-Lexington]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

^ If it's any consolation, I've gotten that here on JUB. Of course, the flirting had gotten a bit...intense.

Lex

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

At a restaurant right now and saw that our waitress is getting a real hard time from some lady, even attempting to pull her away from other people because her eggs “aren’t white enough.”

If I see this and see the waiter/waitress actually trying with the person, I make a tendency to be extra nice to them.

I mean if you are really specific about food, then maybe you shouldn’t eat out? Just a thought.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

At a restaurant right now and saw that our waitress is getting a real hard time from some lady, even attempting to pull her away from other people because her eggs “aren’t white enough.”

If I see this and see the waiter/waitress actually trying with the person, I make a tendency to be extra nice to them.

I mean if you are really specific about food, then maybe you shouldn’t eat out? Just a thought.

Oh, those people are talked about, mmhm. At least once I know someone asked for a whole chicken, only dark meat.

 

[oakpope]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

^ If it's any consolation, I've gotten that here on JUB. Of course, the flirting had gotten a bit...intense.

Lex

How intense ?

 

[oakpope]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

At a restaurant right now and saw that our waitress is getting a real hard time from some lady, even attempting to pull her away from other people because her eggs “aren’t white enough.”

If I see this and see the waiter/waitress actually trying with the person, I make a tendency to be extra nice to them.

I mean if you are really specific about food, then maybe you shouldn’t eat out? Just a thought.

It reminds me of something I saw in a steakhouse restaurant in Paris last month.

Three American tourists taking a very long time to choose, having the waitress to come and go multiple times. After being served, the lady got out a kitchen scale from her bags, and some raw vegetables from another one. She then proceeded to cut some vegetables, scaled them and eat them. With her plate of steak and hot vegetables.

I was flabbergasted.

 

[sixthson]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

At a restaurant right now and saw that our waitress is getting a real hard time from some lady, even attempting to pull her away from other people because her eggs “aren’t white enough.”

If I see this and see the waiter/waitress actually trying with the person, I make a tendency to be extra nice to them.

I mean if you are really specific about food, then maybe you shouldn’t eat out? Just a thought.

When I see this I'm always tempted to tell them to stay home and fix their own food where it will be perfect.

 

[Rickrock]

Re: Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2017

A couple of days ago I was on the phone and felt something in my hair. I brushed it and it fell down the back of my collar. I was on the phone and couldn't do anything about it until I got off of the phone and took my shirt and t-shirt off and found out it was a ladybug. Tonight I was in the same chair on the phone and wasn't sure if I felt something or not on my hair which then went down the back of my neck again. When I finally got off of the phone and took my shirts off I found a spider walking on the inside of my t-shirt. I'm beginning to get paranoid about being on the phone on that chair. Three is supposed to be the charm and I dread finding out what the third thing will be down my shirt.