just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

[JayHawk]

Dammit Buzzer said he had plans.... snubbed again....

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Neo`s dead on... relationships are a LOT of work.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Dammit Buzzer said he had plans.... snubbed again....

Throw a JUB meet. I'm cum. Err, come.

 

[xbuzzerx]

This is SO true. My last (disastrous) relationship did it for me. It shouldn't even take a few - just get in one smothering relationship and you'll understand.

I so relate to this statement you don't even know.

My last relationship.

Shake my head.

 

[JayHawk]

Honestly I don't wanna relationship that doesn't devastate me if things go wrong. All in or it aint worth it.

 

[refujiunderground]

FUJI....
drop the fucking attitude. You poor baby, you don't have a partner,boyfriend or FWB. If you read
those whiners, for the most part..They wish to fuck they didn't have one/two either.

Read, learn from their stupidity so when you fall in the pit you will at least be able to tread water.

Want something positive to look at? Look at this thread, your baby is about 5 posts from

PAGE 26....and in how long? Your experiment in personal venting has gone EPIC Dude and with

out major porn pics et cetera.

that's good and all but honestly, i don't care if this thread flops or does well or whatever. it never was about that to begin with. it's actually your thread since you're the one that came up with the idea.

LOL wow, fuji--I hope I'm not one of those people you speak of.

No reason to be upset about it. I know I've told you before, but relationships aren't always sunshine and rainbows. When you see guys posting about all the "nice things"/fun aspects of being in a relationship--remember that you're only getting the "highlights". There's a lot of shit that can go on behind the scenes that you would never imagine. It's work.

Sometimes I look at single people and think you guys have it 'easy'. Grass is greener. lol
chill out...enjoy being single...get out there and take advantage of it!

you know, i see what you're saying but honestly, man... i would say that i'm a bit frustrated and angry that i've been single and inexperienced for so long. not even a date. not even a kiss. nothing. i feel like i'm unwanted or damaged goods so to speak. i admit that i do get jealous when i hear about folks fucking and the whole nine. the funny thing is i've had some chances to do whatever but i backed up away from them like a scared bitch. so here i am complaining about not getting any BUT then the bitch in me has prevented me from actually getting some when i had the chance. as the years go by, the chances of me getting laid, kissing, one night stand, relationship or whatever just fades away with age as how it did when i was 16. before i know it, i'll be a 40 year old virgin with NO relationship experience wondering how the time passed by. to think yesterday i was doing the same shit at 16. so yeah, it gets me annoyed sometimes, really annoyed.

i know you mentioned about how relationships take a lot of work and all. that's a good point but look @ it like this. even if a relationship is a pain in the ass or a lot to work with where you have to deal with hell or whatever, at least you can say that you experienced it where you can have convos with people and not feel like an oddball. you can drop an opinion about how it's like to be a relationship or to say that you had an ex or that you had sex. that's better than nothing. it gets embarrassing @ a certain age when you're talking in a group of people where they're talking about love, relationships, and sex and you have nothing to say because you haven't done shit. you start to wonder if something is wrong with you to why you're 26 and some guys are younger than you, 18 and etc talking about it from an adult perspective while you have about the experience of a 8 year old. it's like never having a job and being around people that have had 6 jobs. even if you got fired, you can say you had a job. after awhile, you start to wonder wtf is wrong with you with why you never got a job. employers look @ you crazy, people around you look @ you crazy and etc. it's the same thing with being 26 and having no experience. it's embarrassing.


i really don't care about a relationship either. it's more of someone that i could spend time with as a friend where i don't have to live with them, i meet them up for a day or two and then go about my business. like a friend with benefits or something like that.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Refuji you've always been totally straight & honest so I'm gonna be totally honest too and I HOPE AND PRAY it won't sound mean or make you mad, cause it's meant totally honestly...

all of us have been there. And none of us had someone fall out of the sky. You gotta get out there and get things moving, meet people, make something happen.

I have been where you are, if I just waited for a guy to come find me I'm pretty sure I'd still be a virgin. Gotta just go out and try to make it happen, and if it takes awhile, don't get frustrated, just keep at it.

 

[refujiunderground]

Refuji you've always been totally straight & honest so I'm gonna be totally honest too and I HOPE AND PRAY it won't sound mean or make you mad, cause it's meant totally honestly...

all of us have been there. And none of us had someone fall out of the sky. You gotta get out there and get things moving, meet people, make something happen.

I have been where you are, if I just waited for a guy to come find me I'm pretty sure I'd still be a virgin. Gotta just go out and try to make it happen, and if it takes awhile, don't get frustrated, just keep at it.

you're right. i've been trying though and so far, been coming up short.

and naw, you didn't get me mad with what you said.

 

[xbuzzerx]

you're right. i've been trying though and so far, been coming up short.

and naw, you didn't get me mad with what you said.

It has always been my experience that I meet the next guy right when I'm at an exasperated point of giving up on trying to meet someone. Life can surprise you.

 

[JayHawk]

I feel you...but it does make you VERY vulnerable.

And it's terrifying as hell.

But that's the gamble you make when you give your heart to someone completely.

I hear you and agree. A man has to go a long way to cross from bootie call to bombastic in my book. But if I am in then I am in no halfways.

 

[refujiunderground]

It has always been my experience that I meet the next guy right when I'm at an exasperated point of giving up on trying to meet someone. Life can surprise you.

well, life has surprised me many times in the wrong way. i've learned to expect the worst more so than the best.

i can say that i've given up more times then tried and still no luck. the funny thing is that i tend to screw it up for myself so even if there was a guy interested that i was interested in, i would basically sabotage the whole thing where i'll be another missed shot. i just try not to dwell on it too much because i know what's going to happen.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

http:********/WaoKEchttp:********/WaoKEc

Here, Refuji

 

[refujiunderground]

http:********/WaoKEchttp:********/WaoKEc

Here, Refuji

thanks borg.

i've been to the den before. it's okay. nothing was going down. talked with a few folks there, played pool and etc. haven't been there on one of their party nights though and not going to lie, i'm too scared to go. might run into somebody that i know. i'm out at home BUT not out elsewhere yet. i'm still a bit scared to share my secret.

but i need to go to one of those party nights and MIGHT get lucky or something.

 

[JayHawk]

http:********/WaoKEchttp:********/WaoKEc

Here, Refuji

I fuckin love that... you know how often that would be useful in CEP.... sigh!!! lolololololololol

 

[Lefty]

that's good and all but honestly, i don't care if this thread flops or
does well or whatever. it never was about that to begin with. it's actually
your thread since you're the one that came up with the idea.

Nice try son but it was only a suggestion.
You made it and some friends in so doing..
Some of your 'newer' supporters here and elsewhere are your wins. You
faced up and looked forward while venting. You win. Now as to the other
about a FWB or better, you just admitted you sabotage yourself all of the
time. Okay, you know your enemy so whatcha gonna do Your
friends are gonna sort of be watching.

And I call bull shit on your not caring about your thread. You wouldn't
post if you didn't.

 

[refujiunderground]

'fuji...you're going to (one day) run into a guy that's going to throw you for a fucking LOOP, and it's going to be all kinds of exciting, scary, terrifying, and the like. But you will WANT it. It will be your first "love" and could be your one and only. You will learn from it, you will have that "experience", and you will be in the moment.

I think what sets you apart from other 'eternally singles' is that you're so open to being in a relationship and having something special with someone. So open to it. I can tell from your posts.

I hope you're still here posting when you meet someone that hits you in that right way. And I can't wait until it happens to you. Then you'll know and feel exactly what many of us have been saying here in this thread tonight. No matter where it goes, or how it turns out--you WILL know that feeling.

Sorry to get all Oprah, but this post is from the heart.

well, you, sixthson and lex have said the same thing. sometimes, i want it and sometimes, i'll dodge that shit hard as hell. maybe one day BUT not right now. i don't see myself being "sprung" either.

 

[refujiunderground]

Nice try son but it was only a suggestion.
You made it and some friends in so doing..
Some of your 'newer' supporters here and elsewhere are your wins. You
faced up and looked forward while venting. You win. Now as to the other
about a FWB or better, you just admitted you sabotage yourself all of the
time. Okay, you know your enemy so whatcha gonna do Your
friends are gonna sort of be watching.

And I call bull shit on your not caring about your thread. You wouldn't
post if you didn't.

i don't know, man. that's another thing that gets me. i complain about not getting any like right now BUT when i have the opportunity, that anxiety, fear, panic mode or whatever comes along where i'm like "oh my god. whoop there it is." and then i'll just avoid it like the plague because the fear overwhelms me. i'll act like i don't want it and to tell you the truth, i'm SCARED to go along with the flow and say yes, i do want it. if it did happen, i'd probably be feeling all weird or whatever. i dunno how i'd react. i guess i'd get really uncomfortable where i'd want it to stop. i might be able to handle a kiss BUT as far as foreplay, head, sex and all. that would be something else. i might be surprised if i lose my virginity like "holy shit. i actually fucked somebody. i actually did it. i actually took it there."

hopefully, this whole experience with the controlling the anxiety, ocd and etc with the zoloft and therapy makes me put my foot in the door.

and i'm sort of happy about this thread being huge, i guess.

but it was still your idea though. i would have never came up with this thread and would have still been in that confessions thread completely ruining it turning it completely off topic.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

I fuckin love that... you know how often that would be useful in CEP.... sigh!!! lolololololololol

I wish I could take credit for it... I learned about it from Benjoe. I thought it was awesome too !! It's my new fave thing.

 

[quasar]

As Neo says, there are times when you're in a relationship and the grass looks greener on the other side. It's also difficult to listen to someone bleating about problems with their boyfriend when you're the singleton having to take it all in. I often want to say "For fuck's sake, you've got someone, be grateful or get rid if you're not happy!"

The only thing that pisses me of about Neo and his boyfriend is the fact that it means I can't have Neo.

 

[xbuzzerx]

What is your bete noir, Loki?