just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

[xbuzzerx]

Although out of my control, I'm a little disappointed with all of the animosity on the forum at the moment. It's carried over into several threads.

Animosity over what/whom?

 

[ChickenGuy]

I don't like the recent negative attention I've been getting.

If it was about what Enchanted/Sex Kitten was ranting about before he self-deleted then I'd forget about him, he's a troll and he said worse to AshyPhoenix amongst others on previous occasions.

To the greater point, however....

(how do I phrase this)

Let us say I had a crush or infatuation with someone on JUB. I'd mention it maybe once, maybe most about four or five times in a year. No more than that because I'd feel I'd make the target of my affections uncomfortable, and I'd also over time begin to test the patience of others on here.

But now let us say I made it known forcefully every single day on JUB, on multiple threads. And not only that, that I agreed and backed up everything that person was saying, ALWAYS. And now let us say that person was sometimes deliberately antagonistic, petty, disrespectful, arrogant, and behaved like an arsehole. But I continued to blindly sing that person's praises every day on JUB, and DEFINED myself as being his counterpart.

I would never be surprised in those circumstances if I received negative attention.

That is NOT to say you're always like that, and I know full well you're kind-hearted and trustworthy and I read as much during those bad times about a year ago when you had such terribly unfair treatment from your partner. And you're STILL not like that because I've seen posts from you around here proving it. Those occasions are when you speak truly for yourself and are independent.

Unfortunately the influence of Benderboy (since we all know full well at this stage that he's who I'm talking about) rather turns you SOMETIMES (not always) into a puppet of his and a rather blind and unthinking one at that.

I don't expect you to agree with me - no more than I myself would agree with me, say at age 18-21 with my being besotted with best friend (same situation) - it was beyond my comprehension back then, despite my mother calling me a 'lapdog' to him. I'd never listen.

Maybe in time you can find your own self-identity more on here once again.

 

[Ram]

The only reason why Cupidboy stands out is because Elvin is not here for the rest of you to go gaga over.

I like Elvin and some of his admirers but some of the other cult members were nuts. Like seriously psycho. In this case, Benderboy is the new Elvin and Cupidboy is just an admirer. Give it a few more months and we can find a new cult at JUB . I don't think there is anything wrong with their interactions. It's what friends do, friends support each other. Though I agree it is painfully obvious that both of them are into each other, it is quite harmless. And most of time, the posts are funny thanks to the gifs.

The same can be said about Lilbit and me. Although there is no love between me and that skank, I am sure at one point our antagonism got old.

I don't see CB's bitchness as rude bitchness. I think I have shown I can be worse than that. So why the fuck is no one talking about me? Argh, I just want some goddamn attention!!!!!!!S@!!!!!!!

 

[Falcon16]

All these negative waves are seriously depressing in all these threads. Have we nothing else to chat about?

 

[xbuzzerx]

It is a bit more intense lately. I think the holidays are stressing some people out and they're just lashing out online to release some bottled up emotions. It is getting really hard to keep track of who dislikes whom and all the various grudges and bad-blood some posters have for each other. Or maybe I'm just really oblivious to a lot of the more subtle stuff until it just blows up but, yeah, I agree. A bit of drama can be fun but if it gets too vicious, or too much, it stops being amusing.

The animosity other than that which comes in the form of so ridiculous I doubt anyone's taking it seriously (i.e. Waffles Kitten) is SO muted around here that I don't even know WHAT people are referring to when they talk about all the "huge drama on this forum." I swear I wonder how many JUBBers have been to other forum communities to think what goes on here is intense, mean or anything more than a burp in the usual flow of things. Go to other forums and you will see people viciously at each other's throats, responding to EVERY post the other person makes on ANY topic and ripping into them, for dozens of pages, until whatever moderation is around reluctantly steps in-- usually after this has dominated a given forum for weeks or months.

By comparison around here I literally need to ask people "wait, what? What drama with who?" It's not even big enough to notice.

 

[xbuzzerx]

I'm not speaking about other forums, or comparing JUB to them. But on here, lately, yes it has been pretty intense. I'm not even talking about trolls, just regular members at each others throats.

Like who? Seriously. I don't even know what you're talking about.

 

[Ram]

Like who? Seriously. I don't even know what you're talking about.

Last week, it was me.

But I was going through something. So there.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Last week, it was me.

But I was going through something. So there.

It was you being hostile or you having people attack you? :O

 

[Ram]

It was you being hostile or you having people attack you? :O

Usually, I am a nice cunt who mildly pisses people off but for some weeks, I was a little more cunty. I wasn't hostile... more emotional.

 

[frankfrank]

january 17th. to tell you the truth, it's something that i'm NOT looking forward to.

Do stick to it, though, r. - I'll be with you in spirit, at least. I think that JB and others will be as well.

the psychiatrists in the past that i've been either thought that i had nothing wrong with me, was basically having adjustment problems and had something that i could shake off

As I've mentioned before, perhaps it could help if you printed out some of the posts you've made here on JUB, especially the ones that came from your venting (when done in flow-of-consciousness style), because those will much more effectively describe your feelings than trying to answer a few questions he/she asks you without even having relevant prior historty about you. Of course, answering those questions is also helpful, and it adds to the tools which may be formed to be helpful to you.

then i realize that if i don't go and try to take care of it all by myself, i'm ONLY going to find myself back in the same situation, whining, crying, complaining, looking for a miracle or a saving grace and etc. the funny thing is that the whole "you can do it all by yourself" thing was the same advice my mother, my brother, and my homeboys been giving me for the longest since way back when and it didn't work.

Very true, left "untreated" it is NOT going to cure itself. As I told you privately, if I lived in the neighborhood, I'd seriously consider going with you, so that you could be assured that somebody, who actually wishes well for your success in these efforts, would be in the lobby all the while, and to see you after your appointment.

and getting out of here is one of the long range plans i have as well as going to law school.

You're correct, at least to some degree - as toxic as your living situation IS, you may have a tough "go" of trying to make do on your own and without a job, etc. Only you can know if you're ready for any roommates, but my guess is that you would say that you aren't.
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[Ram]

There is a big difference between this thread and the "Confessions" thread but I am not seeing it.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Usually, I am a nice cunt who mildly pisses people off but for some weeks, I was a little more cunty. I wasn't hostile... more emotional.

I think you're a nice cunt? Plus I have lost mouthfuls of coffee when you and LilBit exchange words.

I mean, why do you need people to pull up a bunch of specifics, xbuzzerx? If you don't feel that there hasn't been an uptick in negatively recently on JUB, then you are free to feel that way.

I don't want to get into a bunch of issues because that will only lead to more issues.

That's fine if you don't want to stir the pot but I still honestly don't understand the :'-( drama here is so bad thing. I seriously think this place is milder than a Jack in the box spicy chicken sandwich compared to 90% of the net where it's like I said.. if someone doesn't like you look forward to them trolling you and following you to every post you make, responding to it and dragging you into off topic vicious flamewars. With mods doing nothing. That's the more typical forum.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Stop it. Seriously. All ya'll comparing this forum to all the other forums online and saying "JUB isn't as bad." That is not helpful.

It is the online equivalent of parents telling their kids there are starving people in Africa.

While starvation is a tragedy the fact that Africa is in peril is not going to make me like brussel sprouts any more than I did before.

Just like saying other forums are worse is not going to make those of us who frequent THIS SITE like the drama any better.

This isn't other forums. It's JUB.

What I'm saying is that what constitutes drama here is almost nothing. And it is. If someone wants to get bent out of shape and say they can barely get up in the morning because of how mean JUB is I can't possibly take that seriously as a reflection of how bad JUB actually is as much as someone is way oversensitive.

Yes, if someone really thinks it's that bad.. they should never go anywhere else. This is a really really really nice place on the net by comparison. Yes, comparisons are valid.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Judgmental people are so unattractive.

Frankly, so are people who enter discussions and tell people what not to discuss.

 

[justanothershyguy]

Ooh ooh! Me me me! Pick me!

 

[borg69unimatrix]

^^^

Pix of kids not allowed in JUB.

 

[xbuzzerx]

^^^

Pix of kids not allowed in JUB.

Oops! My bad. I'll fix it. Oops. Can't fix it. What do I do, ask a mod to?

 

[Lefty]

No sweat buzzer, I sent a note for you.

btw, that lower left corner..the first icon lets you leave a personal comment to the poster.

the triangle one lets you report a post...simple, clean. Don't sweat it, The ivory tower won't

bust your balls over honest mistakes and those oopsie moments. (believe me, I have had

a lot of experience) Just give them a heads up and if you aren't a flagrant violater they will

wipe up behind you. Sometimes they even say thanks (well, that part is hearsay) lol


rammers, you could have just told the poor boy in a comment or omg a p/m.

You are now sentenced to 72 hours under lilbit (that is 1,440 minutes each day)

wearing only stale olive oil and nipple rings as your penance. damn bully...the island

must be getting to you...lol

 

[xbuzzerx]

No sweat buzzer, I sent a note for you.

btw, that lower left corner..the first icon lets you leave a personal comment to the poster.

the triangle one lets you report a post...simple, clean. Don't sweat it, The ivory tower won't

bust your balls over honest mistakes and those oopsie moments. (believe me, I have had

a lot of experience) Just give them a heads up and if you aren't a flagrant violater they will

wipe up behind you. Sometimes they even say thanks (well, that part is hearsay) lol

Good to know. I have a pretty good speculation as to why there is a no kids pics rule here but hopefully it's pretty clear my intent wasn't pornographic lol.

 

[Lefty]

Yeah being a Gay semi porno and international site the main office gets a bit paranoid. But.

its' corporate safe sex. Lots of stupids out there just looking for the least provocation.

ok, this started out 10 pages ago as therapy for my NJ bud Fuji...so he could blow off shit

before entering the front lines...amazing how many jumped on the train...

thats good, shows Fuji and us we are not alone and then some....