just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

[JPGhost]

Confidence is HOT... even if you have to fake it sometimes.

Believe me, by being meek about it could really be a turn off to him. It just comes across as wishy washy, and like you're only half interested. Someday you're going to ask a boss for a raise... are you going to walk in his office with your head held high with determination, or are you going to slip a note under his door and hope he takes you seriously???

Do you mean the regular confidence or JohnJay's confidence in steroid?

 

[JPGhost]

I was just done talking with Paypal customer service because there was mishap in my ebay transaction and WOW..I was so impressed. I can say..almost all of those guys are combative, stingy, sarcastic and rude.
Once I explained my problem for quite some amount of time, she just..silenced
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maybe for half a minute.
WHen I asked "Do you get that?"
She said numbingly: " No, I dont get that."

WOW..
she didn't prompt right away when she didn't understand some parts- she kept continued her silence, Im not gonna go the other way around for her sarcasm so I made really long- PURPOSEDLY back and forth stupid questions (the most stupid question she ever think of) I made her grow tired with me..
Im sorry mam, I wasn't there to make your job difficult but please lay off attitude..I wasn't there to attack you
but speaking of attack: maybe these people grow defensive because they must dealing "mentally" with alot of angry calls, that makes me understand them a lil bit.
A second person I called- she was exactly replied me like a robot- her voice exactly mimics answering machine (shown extreme detachment of human contact)
A third person is a guy and he was friendly

Maybe guys are less bitchy than girls in teller/customer service job? Who knows ^^

 

[G-Lexington]

"You can't complain about the cold and snow - that's why we all live in Colorado!" Fuck you. I bravely try to put up with the cold and snow because of all the OTHER kick-ass stuff about Colorado.

Lex

 

[darden]

I don't know why they bother calling it "bisexual" porn when all it is are 2 guys fucking while a naked girl sits awkwardly a few feet away.

I'd kill for some good bi porn (hell, I'd even settle for straight porn if the male actors were good looking and equal attention was paid to both the male and female in the scene -- in all the straight porn I've seen, the man seems to just be an accessory/after-thought and all the focus is on the woman)

 

[redfox70]

Darden, straight porn is made for straight guys, hence the focus on the woman.

 

[darden]

Darden, straight porn is made for straight guys, hence the focus on the woman.

I'm aware... but the end result is that there's no real avenue for people who want to watch truly bisexual porn or straight women who don't want to watch gay porn.

 

[G-Lexington]

I actually saw some decent-to-good straight porn years ago. It was done by a company run by women, making straight porn for women. It was mor..atmospheric, and less mechanical. More erotic, less hardcore, really. Somewhat more attention paid to the men than the women. I could try to figure out the company if you want, but you presumably would be looking at stuff from twenty years ago - it might be online, though.

Lex

 

[Taz]

One of the effects of my travel has been to reinforce my disappointment with the people of my own country.

For the main reason that so many of them are racist and unfriendly.

20 odd years ago, and for a while when I was growing up, one of the main things you could have said for Australian culture was we had a sense of mate ship, and that means being friendly and lending a hand to anyone who needed it, anyone. However these days I think most people come away with the image that we are a bunch of drunk racist arrogant idiots. If you asked the average Australian what it meant to be Australian they will tell you meat pies and beer.

It sucks and I wish we could turn it around, but I don't think people give a shit.

On my part at least I always go out of my way to be friendly to strangers regardless of their origin, Something I practiced a lot as a lifeguard.

 

[maxpowr9]

^Yeah I remembered when my Indian friend from college was abroad with me in Australia and she was called a "curry" a few times. She didn't even realize that was a racist slur. Mind you, this was in "civilised" Melbourne.

@G-Lex
One thing I have been completely fascinated with in lesbian porn is girls squirting. Some girls shoot so much, so far that I could just imagine if a man did that. I would post a link but yeah...

 

[G-Lexington]

One of the effects of my travel has been to reinforce my disappointment with the people of my own country.

For the main reason that so many of them are racist and unfriendly.

I think I pointed out in another thread the one thing that seems to be rather quintessentially American. Not just noting our country and people's flaws, but cheerfully revelling in them.

Lex

 

[bankside]

One of the effects of my travel has been to reinforce my disappointment with the people of my own country.

For the main reason that so many of them are racist and unfriendly.

20 odd years ago, and for a while when I was growing up, one of the main things you could have said for Australian culture was we had a sense of mate ship, and that means being friendly and lending a hand to anyone who needed it, anyone. However these days I think most people come away with the image that we are a bunch of drunk racist arrogant idiots. If you asked the average Australian what it meant to be Australian they will tell you meat pies and beer.

It sucks and I wish we could turn it around, but I don't think people give a shit.

On my part at least I always go out of my way to be friendly to strangers regardless of their origin, Something I practiced a lot as a lifeguard.

I enjoyed Australia and found people to be friendly from Melbourne to Canberra to Sydney. My accent threw a few people off and I was asked to repeat myself once in a while, especially in towns along the highway between the major cities. But I think it is normal if you are expecting Australian and get Canadian, that it takes a moment to adapt even when you are perfectly capable of understanding. And of course I had the advantage because I was expecting everyone to speak australian english. Overall I was fascinated with the country. Sometimes I have the opportunity to notice racism from white people when they are not only racist, but stupid enough to assume the same of my views. I did not observe racism while there.

I think it is hard to judge your own country though. At least in airports, museums, hotels, restaurants and shops, the Aussies seemed as friendly as anywhere toward tourists and visitors. But it might be a different story living there. If we switched places, I'm guessing that if I had to sit on the phone waiting for the call centre at Telstra to fix an over-billing problem, I would be just as miserable about Australians as you would be about Canadians if you had to sit on the phone waiting for the call centre at Shaw Cable to do the same thing.

 

[Taz]

^ I'm glad you had that experience.

Having many friends who are white or from a western background who live in Australia, the racism was really visible.

I guess at least the with the view I have I can make an effort to be the difference and call others on their bullshit.

Also Lex I remember you saying that, I don't think I'd be very happy with myself if I was cheerful about my countries flaws.

 

[maxpowr9]

The new google+ fucked up youtube.

 

[Kulindahr]

JUB is screwing me -- I have to keep logging in about every two minutes.

 

[Anders123]

^ I'm glad you had that experience.

Having many friends who are white or from a western background who live in Australia, the racism was really visible.

I guess at least the with the view I have I can make an effort to be the difference and call others on their bullshit.

I think it's true that a lot of people who come to visit Australia are shocked by the prevalence of casual racism in certain circles. There are of course the 'stop the boats' racist/xenophobic types, and every so often a video will be released of a drunk/obnoxious bogan yelling racist slurs and harassing people on public transport, but I think a lot of people fall into the trap of dismissing racism as an exaggerated social issue. They assume it's just these extreme examples that constitute racism and that the rest of the population is incredibly accepting/inclusive. At the same time though, they fail to consider how their language or the kinds of offhand comments and jokes they make serve to ostracise others. It's sort of like when people say "I'm not homophobic but I insult people by calling them faggots and gay cunts all the time!"

It's like they're unable to comprehend that there are differing levels of racism and that just because they don't have a "fuck off we're full" bumper sticker or aren't out there yelling at asians on the bus doesn't mean they're not contributing to the problem.

 

[glasvegas]

^ I'm glad you had that experience.

Having many friends who are white or from a western background who live in Australia, the racism was really visible.

I guess at least the with the view I have I can make an effort to be the difference and call others on their bullshit.

Also Lex I remember you saying that, I don't think I'd be very happy with myself if I was cheerful about my countries flaws.

As a newcomer to Aussieland with Asian ancestry, yes, racism in Australia is well alive. I remember when I was walking down the street in Brisbane in the morning, a bogan couple sitting on the bench yelled out Oppa Gangnam Style when I walked past them. This is only one small fraction of the racism I faced. And oh, don't get me started on Grindr, I been told I am ugly because I am Asian and I deserve to die. Seriously? But these people don't stop me from enjoying my time in Oz, I have met far more friendly and kind Aussies than those rotten shit ones.

You will always be my fav Aussie, Taz

 

[bankside]

^ I'm glad you had that experience.

Having many friends who are white or from a western background who live in Australia, the racism was really visible.

I guess at least the with the view I have I can make an effort to be the difference and call others on their bullshit.

Yes, I'm glad too!

I do believe in drawing attention to bigoted attitudes, so I also have to acknowledge when I don't encounter them. At least some people seem to treat each other decently, enough to band together when calling others on the BS.

 

[Essex Boy]

Celebrating one hundred pages of bellyaching


One hundred pages in exactly one year and nearly 5000 posts: is this the fastest-growing thread ever? Is there anybody who has never contributed to it?

 

[Kulindahr]

Celebrating one hundred pages of bellyaching

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One hundred pages in exactly one year and nearly 5000 posts: is this the fastest-growing thread ever? Is there anybody who has never contributed to it?

In Hot Topics, probably. Over in Fun and Games, there are threads that hit 5k posts in less than half that.

 

[jdcnow]

You can almost visibly see the smoke come out of my ears, right now...

DAMN JAR OF PICKLES!!! OPEN, GODDAMMIT!!!