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Last night *sigh*

Mick J --

I can understand how hard it is to say those two words: "I'm gay." I tried to deny it for years and got depressed to the point that I didn't care to live. I can only tell you that when you can say those two words, you will feel as giddy as you did today.

But it is something that you have to come to terms with and be able to admit to yourself. It sounds like you have everything going for you; I wouldn't miss the opportunity to possibly meet someone that is in the same place as you and then you could grow together.

I also know what it's like to be shy; hell, I hadn't dated in years when I came out and wasn't sure if I would be attractive. After I got hit on the first weekend I went to a gay club and told how good looking I was, it helped me make the next step. You can do the same; have your friend set up a meeting for the two of you. You don't have to end up in bed the first night but you might just get the opportunity to meet the man of your dreams!
 
It would be best if you contacted him yourself. Middlemen can really screw things up.
If both of you are not ready for your respective locals to know, meet someplace neutral and midway.
After spending some time together both of you will know whether it's a fantasy or the real thing.
Once you guys know that this is what you both really want, then you can inform the world if you want to because only then will it not be speculation.
 
Mick J said:
i dunno.. i feel i accept myself..ughh Its just two words that i cant say.. I think im not going to directly talk to him. One of my girlfriends is the one he came out to (shes the one who made the "will you two please be gay together?" comment =P ). Id probably tell her since shes so cool about it, and since shes closest to him. Ugh wtf seriously i was laying in a bed cuddling with another guy with his hand like on my crotch infront of them YET I CANT SAY "IM GAY"? lol :( .. i feel stupid for ending it on such a "Im straight sorry" kind of note... but i dont think its too late . She will probably bring it up at school tomorrow we will see what happens.. ill probably end up chickening out and playing it off like "i was just really uncomfortable he was being weird" and then hating myself.

On a happy note, im pretty much a giddy school-girl today. I was lookin at his picture comments on myspace that said like "Ooh your sexy" and stuff and i just was thinkin "Sorry ladies... :)"
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You're still in HS, right?

I can totally understand when you say you JUST can't say those two words. I've known myself being gay since the 4th-5th grade, and yet I never came out until the 9th grade. I sorta "came out" when my friend, a total yaoi freak (no she's not a big, white otaku), came with some non-explicit yaoi and flashed it around us. Of course, the guys were like "ERRR O_O;" and the girls were all "OMGGG it's soo cuteee!!". I just used that as an opportunity for an implicit coming out by saying "Oh wow. Those ARE hot! LEMME SEE." and I'm pretty sure they got the message. One of my guy friends was freaked out for a bit, but got over it. We remained talking throughout HS.

Even though I accepted myself and came out to my friends, I still couldn't you know... face it publicly with the entire school. So, I never said anything to anyone, and no one questioned me. I think by senior year, some people were questioning me, but I never said anything. :D

So point is, you can be out to your friends and not out to your entire school.
 
So today at lunch the subject came up with the girls. They said it was funny how the guys date (yes she knew he was gay :P ) wanted him to lay with her but he wanted to come over and rub my back and stuff :P Then they said IT at the end of a little conversation ....."because hes not gay.." and just paused and look at me. My moment of truth! and i respond with.. "yeah im not" lol.. doh.. I was actually really happy today though. I got a comment from two people that i was really smiley and happy. :D

Also i just checked his myspace and his display name thing is something funny that i had said on saturday. :-) Ill see if anything comes up again tonight when i go over to my friends house to watch The Hills. with 4 girls. every week. hello, im gay!

Also I found a cell phone in my house i think that he left it here.. hmm

-Mick
 
OH MY GOD OH MY GOD *** ** * * * * I read a quiz thing he filled out on myspace and one question says "One Wish?" and his answer is "That the one i found this weekend is the one for me"

... . . .. . . . . . . . . OMG
 
Im having a crisis! Im going to my girls house in a couple hours and its just gonna be her (aka the one the guy came out to) and my other friend (aka my date from homecoming) both whom i trust the most. What should i do? I have to tell them before i can take any action.. id probably just break down and start bawling..
 
OK, that's it.

Get his number from your friend and call him.

I have bookoo frequent flier miles, so I can come over there and beat the ever-lovin' shit out of you if you let this one fall through. ;)

Seriously, hun. Do it now.
 
funny that i couldnt anyways because i happen to have his phone. wonder how he'll get it back, he lives like 45 mins away... wow he lives like 45 mins away how would we ever be! ..
 
For fuck's sake! =]

Your friend has a way to contact him. Send him a message on myspace and tell him you'd like to "get together and return his phone."

Work it baby!
 
Distance is nothing if you truly care.

Don't sell yourself short, man.

Your friends have accepted any choice you make, not you just gotta do it, if that's what you truly want.
 
Mick J said:
funny that i couldnt anyways because i happen to have his phone. wonder how he'll get it back, he lives like 45 mins away... wow he lives like 45 mins away how would we ever be! ..
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That isn't a long distance... you don't realize how lucky you are.
 
looseliam said:
OK, that's it.

Get his number from your friend and call him.

I have bookoo frequent flier miles, so I can come over there and beat the ever-lovin' shit out of you if you let this one fall through. ;)

Seriously, hun. Do it now.
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That's it. I'm coming with Looseliam. I'm bringing the party favourites. Duck tape and rope. Cause if I have to tie you up and tape your mouth so that you can't scream for help! ;)

Jesus....what are you waiting for here. Hell to freeze over, Dogs and cats living together. The moon to turn red as blood and the seas to boil. He's in the end zone buddy...get down there and score yourself a boyfriend!!! :D
 
Yeah, honestly, chances like these come only so rarely. You like the guy, he's cute, and he likes you.

Good luck.
 
you guys are real sweet. its just all happening soo fast! Im just not good at communication.. im REALLY not good at relationships since ive never been in one/close to one. dont you think i should tell my girl-friend first? I was thinking i could show her what he said on the quiz thing! hah..or maybe kinda hint around the subject.. bleh im going to her house in less than an hour im actually shaking right now.. i dunno i dunno ! !! !
 
AHHHH one little moment of doubt.. only because it happened to me like this!

Please don't rush into anything you don't feel sure about. I did in a similar situation except I was him sorta in the way that he obviously likes you, and "had" to come out to few friends if I wanted any chance of seeing him, being that he lived a while away.

And I barely talk to him now.

So in retrospect I really did rush things and only came to terms with myself and feelings way afterwards. So, DON'T tell them tonight if you don't feel right. But on the other side it really wont be so bad.. I guess what I mean is.... if you tell them anything make it a priority to stress that is how you are as a person, not that you just like him. Let you be first and you likeing him be second.

best wishes
 
OMG, this is the cutest story. Listen man I think you should go for it, I would have loved for this to happen to me. I'm still not out but I reckon you should go for him :D
 
i went to her house but ther was someone else there so we didnt talk. He commented her on myspace and said "mick doesnt like me :(" . nooooooo. So i just commented him with a hello homecoming was real fun... and now we are chatting back and forth. I think im gonna see him on saturday at my friends b-day party!!!! WOOOHOOO giddy girly time, ill be dancing around my room.


-Mick
 
if you like the guy, then talk with him. As for your friends... I have a feeling they already know. Just take it slow and see where it leads you
 
Don't worry--you'll have another chance to tell her soon I'm sure. In case you still feel like you can't utter the words, try saying to yourself in the mirror "I'm gay". I know it sounds lame, but it really helps.

Remember, you've got a whole thread full of guys here pulling for you!
 
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