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Married men.

sexytime said:
yes because he was hot & the chemistrey was there

his marriage is between him & his wife, what they do is there business, not my busines
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Are you saying you wouldn't cheat on your partner then, but only help another cheat?
 
married here, and I prefer other married men. I wish I could say it was for security or being sure discresion was on both our minds, but no, I very much like that Im having some one I shouldnt. I love it when its in my bed, or his.
the heart wants what the heart wants
 
The first time I had sex with an older man was with a pretty muscular guy either in his late 30s or early 40s when I was 13 in the locker room of my local gym. As much as it sounds too good to be true, I'm not kidding and it was super hot! Don't know if he was married, though.
 
Yes, I have hooked up with married men on several occasions. The gay hookup sites are full of married-to-women men looking for ass, cock or both.

I am out to get laid not to be the moral police.
 
As a married man, I am not opposed to taking a Lover, under the right circumstances.
The Wife & I have actually sought out such a relationship, only to be disappointed each time.

While We were/are open & honest about what we are looking for....
none of the 3, that have made it to the meeting stage, were truthful.

So the final answer to this specific question would be....

Cheat: No
(Relationship: Yes)​
 
Thynight said:
Would you or have you cheated with a married man?

Why or why not?


Also if you have not already answered please answer my second thread.

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=258405
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Weird. I just started a thread on a similar subject. Never had considered this question until it recently became an issue in my own life.

Here's the thing: I think a lot of gay dudes realize late in the game, maybe too late (like after they get married), that they're actually more into dudes than women. I want to have some empathy for those guys--and for their wives. I think I'd be willing to consider a married man, but only if there was a trajectory. Read: if married man could vocalize that he's into dudes, if married man tells wife that he's into dudes and wants to terminate the marriage, etc.--then I think he'd be worthy of consideration.

However, if married guy just wants you as his sidepiece and to keep telling the world (including his wife) that he's straight? Eff that. No one gets my body who doesn't also get my soul.
 
Weird. I just posted a thread about something similar. I'd have never even considered this question before it became an issue in my life recently.

Here's the thing:

I think a lot of guys find out a little too late (read: after they're married) that they're more into dudes. I think that's a forgivable offense, ***provided*** that the wife knows.

So there are two situations in which I think it's acceptable for you to sleep with a married man:

(1) He and his wife have discussed him sleeping with dudes and she's okay with it. Also, that you're okay just being this dude's side piece. Sex for me is a holistic experience--mind, body and soul. I can't compartmentalize sex and that's something I've learned to live with. So there's no way I could just be somebody's friend with benefits because feelings too easily creep up on me.

(2) He comes out to his wife and has a trajectory for terminating the marriage. It would wreck (and has wrecked) me emotionally going through the back and forth of "Will he or won't he leave her?" You need (and deserve) for him to state that business up front.
 
mbamike said:
Yes, I have hooked up with married men on several occasions. The gay hookup sites are full of married-to-women men looking for ass, cock or both.

I am out to get laid not to be the moral police.
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It is possible to have a sex life without helping someone cheat on the person they married.

You've talked a lot about your promiscuous sex life, but I don't recall you ever mentioning having a relationship with someone.
Would you be ok if you were in love and your man went behind your back to have sex with others?
 
sixthson said:
Would you be ok if you were in love and your man went behind your back to have sex with others?
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Interesting you said this, because I used to think of this too. I once found out he was married after we fucked (and we still had 4 days to spend together, long story), so I have no idea if it´s just to have an excuse or to make myself feel better, but in these situations I think it´s always the cheaters´ problem. I wasn´t the one in their relationship who promised to be faithful. Also, if my man cheats on me, I wouldn´t blame the other person (unless he was a friend of mine or some similar scenario).
 
aaggii said:
Interesting you said this, because I used to think of this too. I once found out he was married after we fucked (and we still had 4 days to spend together, long story), so I have no idea if it´s just to have an excuse or to make myself feel better, but in these situations I think it´s always the cheaters´ problem. I wasn´t the one in their relationship who promised to be faithful. Also, if my man cheats on me, I wouldn´t blame the other person (unless he was a friend of mine or some similar scenario).
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In total agreement that responsibility for fidelity squarely falls on the shoulders of those in a relationship. Plus, plenty of relationships have different arrangements to allow for polyamory, etc. One can't expect the "other man" or the "other woman" or whatever to possibly know the dynamics of a relationship they're not in. If the guy is making advances, that's his deal, not yours.
 
aaggii said:
Interesting you said this, because I used to think of this too. I once found out he was married after we fucked (and we still had 4 days to spend together, long story), so I have no idea if it´s just to have an excuse or to make myself feel better, but in these situations I think it´s always the cheaters´ problem. I wasn´t the one in their relationship who promised to be faithful. Also, if my man cheats on me, I wouldn´t blame the other person (unless he was a friend of mine or some similar scenario).
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But once the "other" person knows the guys is married, he is not some innocent bystander. By choosing to continue the relationship, he is guilty of aiding and abetting his infidelity. Who needs that on their conscience, assuming they have one? In these cases, there is only one innocent party and she's at home, waiting for hubby to return, assuming they don't have an "understanding".
 
coffeespoons said:
In total agreement that responsibility for fidelity squarely falls on the shoulders of those in a relationship. Plus, plenty of relationships have different arrangements to allow for polyamory, etc. One can't expect the "other man" or the "other woman" or whatever to possibly know the dynamics of a relationship they're not in. If the guy is making advances, that's his deal, not yours.
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This might be true for casual sex, but not for a relationship, which you claim to want. The OP specifically asked about cheating with a married man, not about those who have different arrangements, as you put it. In those cases, you can't really call them cheating, can you? When two people enter into a relationship that is beyond just a hook up, they expect honesty from each other. If you put blinders on to ignore certain realities or fail to know someone well enough before entering the relationship, then the cheating must be shouldered by you, too. It might make you feel better about yourself to believe you are not guilty of cheating by placing all the responsibility on the married man, but in truth, you would be living a lie with him. Is that the kind of love you want?
 
sixthson said:
This might be true for casual sex, but not for a relationship, which you claim to want. The OP specifically asked about cheating with a married man, not about those who have different arrangements, as you put it. In those cases, you can't really call them cheating, can you? When two people enter into a relationship that is beyond just a hook up, they expect honesty from each other. If you put blinders on to ignore certain realities or fail to know someone well enough before entering the relationship, then the cheating must be shouldered by you, too. It might make you feel better about yourself to believe you are not guilty of cheating by placing all the responsibility on the married man, but in truth, you would be living a lie with him. Is that the kind of love you want?
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Wait, I'm not sure I understand why you're arguing the person with the married man is guilty of cheating, too. The married guy and his wife exchanged vows with one another. It's his responsibility to be faithful to her, not a stranger's. The person he's seeing is not obligated toward the wife the way he is.

And if you're referring to my personal situation, it seemed like I had a coming out story on my hands, given the amount of questions he was asking me about being gay, coming out, etc. Nothing happened between us and it wouldn't have unless he changed his situation, because I don't want to be anyone's side piece and I think his wife deserved the same transparency and honesty, if not more, than I did (which he refused to give and I'm sure she has no clue what's going on with him either).
 
sixthson said:
But once the "other" person knows the guys is married, he is not some innocent bystander. By choosing to continue the relationship, he is guilty of aiding and abetting his infidelity. Who needs that on their conscience, assuming they have one? In these cases, there is only one innocent party and she's at home, waiting for hubby to return, assuming they don't have an "understanding".
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Not innocent of anything but not guilty of having any effect on the assumed marriage either. If a couple separates because one part slept with someone else, it doesn´t really matter who the 3rd person is, the problem is the cheating husband. We say ¨don´t sleep with someone else¨ not ¨don´t sleep with THAT guy¨.

There´s many scenarios, of course, and each one different from the other, so there´s that.
 
1. If he lied to both of you, no harm no foul, don't go back. Neither you nor the wife can trust him.

2. If he's got an arrangement with the wife - not cheating.

3. You know he's married and you fuck him anyway, yes, you are not only an asshole, but just as guilty. The guy driving the getaway car did not rob the bank, strange they all went to prison together.

Don't help other people hurt other people. There are plenty of horny cocks out there.
 
TX-Beau said:
3. You know he's married and you fuck him anyway, yes, you are not only an asshole, but just as guilty. The guy driving the getaway car did not rob the bank, strange they all went to prison together.

Don't help other people hurt other people. There are plenty of horny cocks out there.
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Robbing a bank and cheating aren't just apples and oranges, they're apples and stair masters. Two completely different things.

And I feel like the last claim is wrong, too. It presumes that the relation between the "other person" and the married man is of an entirely physical nature. Sorry, but sometimes it encompasses more than that.

Also, are there plenty of horny cocks on there? I live in a major metropolitan area. I tried Tinder and after swiping one or two people I get a message saying they've run out of people for me to look at and sometimes it's hours before they can find more. I don't think this situation is like a buffet in which there are bountiful servings of equally good food and married men are a sectioned off, "reserved--don't touch" section that others intentionally try to break into just because.
 
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