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[Lube]

NineOfClubs,

I often agree with you, but I have to disagree this time.

Your logic feeds into those people who say, "it starts with gay, but where does it lead logically? To bestiality, child abuse?"

To which gays invariable say: "It's about consenting adults"

In this case, his wife clearly isn't consenting. If she did consent, I for one wouldn't really care. Open relationships, kink, fisting, 3-somes, whatever--it's all good. As long as everybody is consenting.

 

[Lube]

I should add: this is the Internet. I don't believe everything I read on the Internet.

 

[NineOfClubs]

Lube, I agree. Much better if the wife knew of this.

But a lot of these guys throwing stones, what have they done? Slept with a minor, cheated on a boyfriend, lied to get sex, paid for it, misrepresented themselves on the internet, slept with relatives, denied being gay, kept their HIV status secret, any number of things.....

And, you know what, because the OP is hot, if he approached most of them, it would be sex first, questions later!

 

[Rex]

Lube, I agree. Much better if the wife knew of this.

But a lot of these guys throwing stones, what have they done? Slept with a minor, cheated on a boyfriend, lied to get sex, paid for it, misrepresented themselves on the internet, slept with relatives, denied being gay, kept their HIV status secret, any number of things.....

And, you know what, because the OP is hot, if he approached most of them, it would be sex first, questions later!

First of all, how do you know any of us have slept with a minor, cheater, etc. ?

I'll be the first to say I have a lot of issues myself. I'm far from perfect and have done fucked up things too and I can understand that the OP is human just like everyone else but we all have a right to our own opinions. Also, if you read his blogs, this is just my opinion, but I honestly think he blogs because he knows what he's doing isn't exactly OK and acceptable, and even though he says he's OK with doing it and is fine with it I think deep inside, there is a part of him that knows it's wrong and wants to change.

I agree we were too hard on him but I did apologize for that.

 

[youngnihilist]

For those saying he shouldn't be responded to - he is posting his story and his views on a public forum and a blog. On a public forum everything you say is liable to scrutiny.

Cops abide by law and order. Thank you for your service, OP, but perhaps think about applying a similar code of conduct to the rest of your life. Understandably, a lot of cops don't, though all can strive to.

 

[SoulSearcher]

I can totally relate to you, but from the other side, since I'm not allowed to "judge" you, I'll only say that much. I hope you would change yourself.

 

[Lube]

Look at the list of "interests" on his blog profile:

* bisexuality
* bisexual
* bi
* law enforcement
* cop
* cops
* police
* gay
* gay men
* bisexual men
* bisexual man
* secret
* secrets
* confession
* confessions
* adultery
* sexuality
* cocksucking
* sex
* fellatio
* oral sex
* anal sex
* gay sex

Cop? Or porn writer looking for an audience? You decide.

 

[NineOfClubs]

Usually it's because the accuser is guilty of the crimes/behavior of which they accuse others.....

Maybe "the accuser"(moi) has just been around long enough to know that almost everyone has secrets and has probably misused, hurt, or deceived others at some time or other. If not, you're in a minority in this community, or the straight one for that matter.

 

[youngnihilist]

Lube - that's entirely plausible. he is a good writer and seems primarily to be trying to attract attention for an audience - whether to broadcast his writing or troll. too much of the time we take everything we read on this forum literally. we have to remember this is the internet, and especially in the gay world, the internet is filled with fakes and exaggerations.

 

[Telstra]

No flame zone.

not suitable to speculate about:
troll, fakes, exaggerations, liable to scrutiny ..........

 

[BabiGayPimp]

I've dated a number of muscular, sexy, black Jamaican DL brotha's with girlfriends and wives. They've been drawn to me because I've offered comfort, sympathy, discretion, everything but judgment. Still I'm not particularly proud of that side of my life because, though I didn't mind being the "other man," I know it wasn't fair to the women. A hot DL lover can bring much thrill and excitement, however. I'm somewhat conflicted. I won't say I wouldn't do it again.

 

[Rex]

Yeah, I'm sorry but Lube has a good point.

This blog sounds a little sketchy now that I think about it. Some of the stories sound way too porn-like. I was reading his latest blog posted today and stopped after a few paragraphs because I'm beginning to think it's fake.

 

[nsguy2]

Where would JUB be without the morality police piously patrolling the boards to let the rest of us know exactly how wrong we are in the lifestyles we choose?

I got news for you boys...NOTHING you guys say is going to make a difference in other peoples lives.

FFS, people - get a grip or get a life or get something but please, please, please remember that others DO NOT live their lives according to what you say in the internet.

They never have and most likely never will.

So, if it's a good old judgmental, bashing, I'm perfect thread you're after, click on the Survivor link as it's been running amok over there for a couple of months.

 

[Rex]

Where would JUB be without the morality police piously patrolling the boards to let the rest of us know exactly how wrong we are in the lifestyles we choose?

I got news for you boys...NOTHING you guys say is going to make a difference in other peoples lives.

FFS, people - get a grip or get a life or get something but please, please, please remember that others DO NOT live their lives according to what you say in the internet.

They never have and most likely never will.

So, if it's a good old judgmental, bashing, I'm perfect thread you're after, click on the Survivor link as it's been running amok over there for a couple of months.

Nobody said we expect him to change his actions but some of us do hope he does and we still have a right to opinion. He already says it doesn't bother him. If someone is going to post something like that, they should expect all different kinds of opinions.

Also, I don't think anyone claimed they were perfect.

 

[Fucker29]

Nobody said we expect him to change his actions but some of us do hope he does and we still have a right to opinion. He already says it doesn't bother him. If someone is going to post something like that, they should expect all different kinds of opinions.

Also, I don't think anyone claimed they were perfect.

Huh? Excuse me?!? I am!

 

[Telstra]

Huh? Excuse me?!? I am!

you did say you were having some actions in the toilet with a HOT guy.

 

[Fucker29]

Be careful of what you assume people...

 

[youngnihilist]

I doubt anyone's going to change their actions based off what they read on an Internet forum. But we are still entitled to our opinions. And while I'm just as against the evangelical/mormon morality police as you are, there has to be some morality. It doesnt have to be all or nothing. Some of us actually do choose to follow certain moral codes and values, even though we're openly gay! Not all of us believe in an "anything goes if it feels good" world.

 

[Just_Believe18]

You never answered my question, UnderBiCover. How would you feel if your wife was getting fucked by other men too and she wasn't telling you?

 

[Fucker29]

You never answered my question, UnderBiCover. How would you feel if your wife was getting fucked by other men too and she wasn't telling you?

Read his blog. He answered that question in one of his latest blog entries.