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My Ex Won't Give Me My Things...

Muscles4daze

Muscles4daze

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We broke up months ago, and he will not return my things. When we first broke up he agreed that he would give me my things (the following week), I e-mailed him numerous times and got no response, so I left it alone. It has been months since I sent those e-mails and still nothing, he doesn't have any use for any of my stuff,so why is he doing this:confused:
 
If he's not returning your things try calling him. If he doesn't take your calls go over there. If still unsuccessful get a lawyer
 
Call the police and see if they can assist you with securing your things.
 
I agree with the police department stepping in. He will probably be scared to have them show up or cause attention to the situation. Call him once more and go there and then pull in the police
 
Use the police dept.

you ask for a ---> "keep the peace assistance"


Set up a time.

go prepeard with boxes/and or bags.


MAKE A LIST of specific items you are taking, and check off as you go.

Might need to provide proof of ownership----your ex might say they are his.

Dont make a scene if one happens, be kool the cop will see it and be more open to reason from you as you explain things in question..

keep in mind some things are just not worth the fighting. so just get in and out.

take a good friend with you to to get done fast...


good luck..
 
racer2438 said:
Use the police dept.

you ask for a ---> "keep the peace assistance"


Set up a time.

go prepeard with boxes/and or bags.


MAKE A LIST of specific items you are taking, and check off as you go.

Might need to provide proof of ownership----your ex might say they are his.

Dont make a scene if one happens, be kool the cop will see it and be more open to reason from you as you explain things in question..

keep in mind some things are just not worth the fighting. so just get in and out.

take a good friend with you to to get done fast...


good luck..
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I see that's what I'm going to have to do, I just don't understand why he's doing this. The sooner I get my things all ties are cut, I really don't like drama and neither does he. His landlord will freak out if he sees the cops at his house.
 
1/ He still had feelings for you but wouldn't admit it
2/ He burnt all your stuff for some rituals (I know, it happened to me once)
3/ He wanted to you to approach him so you guys could talk (maybe too awkward for him to make a move ?!?!?!)

Any how, you're gonna have to confront him and let him know you're not in the mood of playing games any more. Go over to his place and settle the whole things down (but please, not in an aggressive manner, best to act decisively yet caringly).

Good luck with getting back your stuff (sorry if I weren't of any help cos last time I was pretty much amused to know my ex burnt all of my things ;-)
 
MoltenRock said:
1.) Knock on his door;
2.) When he answers door;
3.) Taze him;
4.) Step over him, get your stuff.
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lmao, lmao:rotflmao: Thanx guys for all the advice, I know this is gonna be drama, but it's something I have to do. I must admit though this guy is a serious attention whore, and has a hard time accepting when people move on without him. My friend told me he saw him wearing my ring that I won from "Six Flags".
 
Why is the stuff important to u? Is it overly valuable ie diamond ring etc. Or does it have sentimental value, i.e a diamond ring that has been in your family for 2000 years?
Sorry figured I'd ask since no one else did. All else fails, break in steal your stuff some of his so he can't pin it on you. Hide the stuff under your floorboards for 6 months then bring it back out and display proudly :D
 
KingofFaeries said:
Why is the stuff important to u? Is it overly valuable ie diamond ring etc. Or does it have sentimental value, i.e a diamond ring that has been in your family for 2000 years?
Sorry figured I'd ask since no one else did. All else fails, break in steal your stuff some of his so he can't pin it on you. Hide the stuff under your floorboards for 6 months then bring it back out and display proudly :D
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It's my stuff bottom line, and he has no reason or right to be holding it lol, I understand where you are getting at. Is it really worth going through more drama with him.
 
Muscles4daze said:
and he has no reason or right to be holding it
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That's not always true in every case. I really don't know enough details to judge, just playing devil's advocate here. It sounds like maybe you were living with him for awhile. If so, maybe he feels like you owe him something. Maybe you two were more than boyfriends, but also roommates. As a roommate, maybe you didn't pull your own weight. Just speculating. Throw us a bone here.
 
Qixote said:
That's not always true in every case. I really don't know enough details to judge, just playing devil's advocate here. It sounds like maybe you were living with him for awhile. If so, maybe he feels like you owe him something. Maybe you two were more than boyfriends, but also roommates. As a roommate, maybe you didn't pull your own weight. Just speculating. Throw us a bone here.
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Sorry man none of the above. Yes we were roommates, and trust me when I say I pulled my weight and then some. He is just being a jerk and looking for attention plain and simple and I've actually decided not to feed in to his nonsense. I'm going to allow him to keep those things, I think this is the only way to keep him out of my life and cut all ties permanently.
 
huntneo said:
If you don't want to go through the cop drama, this will be a good alternative. ;)
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Thanxs hunt! I think this is the right thing to do. Like you said before, him having keeping my stuff is a way of him controlling me and I can't allow that.
 
1big14me said:
I'm glad to hear this, My stuff was stolen by a guy I met online; I knew him by his usern name and profiles on 2 different websites. Sure, he stole about $3.000 worth of stuff, but in the end, it wasn't worth raising my BP over it, it wasn't worth the cop drama, etc. I think I would have been a nut case. You did the right thing- you kept your sanity.
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Wow are you serious:eek:, I think I would have went balistic.
 
Swiffer WetJet said:
If you let him keep your stuff, then you're going to be setting a precedent in his mind that he can walk all over anyone.

Not only that, but if it's valuable stuff, whether it be sentimental or monetary value, then you should do your best to get it back.

I don't know your situation (whether or not you're out), but if you ARE out then you really have no reason to not get the police involved.

As someone else suggested, bring a friend both so you're done faster and for moral support, and get your stuff back. Don't let this guy walk all over you.

Best of luck, hon. (*8*)
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Well he is the type that thrives off of the attention of others, ignoring him is like driving a wooden stake through his heart. The more you ignore him the more he reaches out to you. Good attention or negative attention it's all good for him. It's mainly gadgets and clothing, but I will get them back.
 
1big14me said:
I am by no means an attention getter. Now, if I was the type to go after attention, I'd out myself to the entire Apartment complex by now. I did not need the entire complex to be living in fear that the same thing would happen to them, the Manager did not need drama either. The day I move from this complex to a new place will be the day I am totally out. As for my stuff, they could have been sold off for crack money for all I know. The guy was known to be a crack addict as I found out later. Yes, the guy is Gay. My life and sanity is more valuable than my possessions.
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I totally agree, because we both know a drug addict will go to extremes to support their habit.
 
Similar situation with monetary payments. He flaked out, when I trusted him and he promised me as good as his word instead of signing something. Never paid, refused to speak to me. You can't explain or justify how evil some people are. Just let it go. It's not worth the trouble. Not worth bringing him back into your life.
 
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