My hot roommate flaunts it around me...

[Georgiadude]

Casey sounds like a bully. He belittles you in front of your other roommates, makes fun of you, insinuates that you want him or to be like him etc etc etc. I guarantee that if you come out to him as bi he's going to make your life hell. He's an asshole. He does those things in front of others just to make himself look cool. Just like saying he wanted sex after the super bowl. he chose to say it loud and in front of the entire room. He's a juvenile show off and just plain mean.

He doesn't sound like a friend at all. Why you want to be around him is beyond me. I'd be looking for a new place to live by now. No way in hell I'd tell him anything personal. He's going to tell all of your friends and use it to make fun of you. Get away from this jackass. He's trouble.

Steven.

 

[palemale]

Say to him, "Casey, I am bisexual, but I don't think you'd be able to handle sex with me. Straight guys who experiment with gay sex can't have such fragile egos."

 

[gibbons]

Thanks everyone for your responses. Didn't expect this much to be honest, but I really appreciate it.

I have considered other places to live, but can't do anything about that until May - the earliest.

Casey and I were just casual friends because of mutual friends. The only time we hung out was at a bar and we got along fine. It wasn't until a few months of living together that I saw this side of him.

Also, I should be clear that this is not an everyday thing. In fact, because of our different work schedules, we really only see each other every other day and his remarks and actions that I've described happen about once a week, but they've become harder to handle lately.

The truth is, I would love to suck on his dick and let him dom me. I think that would be hot. But I'm smart enough to realize how bad that would end up being in the long run. I don't think he has any interest in using me as a cum deposit. I just believe he enjoys the fact that he has this sexual power over me and that I somewhat lust for him. Him making reference to me jerking off while he fucks would indicate this.

Either way, I'm gonna play it cool the next few days and wait for an opportunity to start teasing back. I'll see how he likes it when the tables are turned.

 

[skinIsIn]

Your roommate sounds like a [strike]jerk.[/strike]

Correction: His roommate sounds like the beginning of a typical, cliched, gay fratboy phantasy of being "used, abused and bruised" by the in-house cretin of a sex fiend!

At least the OP has a promising future posting like-minded delusions in the authoritarian category over on nifty.

Gag me with a spoon.

 

[Georgiadude]

Do what you want but I've been around morons like this guy. He's like Stffler from American Pie. Juvenile and narcissistic. His entire world revolves around him and getting his kicks out of treating people like they owe him something. Anything you do or say to him is going to be turned around and used against you. Guaranteed.

I'd have as little to do with him as possible. It's your call. I'm not in your situation but just be ready for the insults & stuff to increase. The more you challenge him the more defensive he's going to become and he's going to involve your other room mates.

Don't get me wrong. You shouldn't have to be afraid of him or put up with his b.s. I'm just saying get ready for him to retaliate when you do stand up for yourself. Guys like him get off on making others miserable. They look for something, anything they can use to make you look bad. If your other room mates were any friends at all they'd stand up for you or tell him he's out of line. They're probably just glad he's bullying you instead of them.

Steven.

 

[Lefty]

I'd like to add one thing to my personal remark to the roomie..
If he retorts, Big Smile...Show me your money.

 

[swerve]

Hey gibbons...

I'll weigh in here with my thoughts...

To me, your room mate sounds like a normal immature guy...

I was the only gay guy in a fraternity house for 3 years -- and I've seen, heard and been subjected to WAY MORE than what you have described...

The thing with me was, I was HONEST about my sexuality (or -- confusion at that point) -- which gave ME the UPPER hand...

Have you considered explaining to your room mates that your sexuality is a little conflicted right now -- and that you are actually thinking about picking up a HOT GUY -- and would they mind if you brought him home???

That would be a GOOD START in MY opinion...

Best of luck -- and keep us posted...

 

[Freespirited2011]

I agree with Mano. Casey sounds like a first class A-hole. He enjoys showing off and taunting you. Honestly, I don't think he suspects you are bi. He is too full of himself to even think about anybody else--witness his treatment of his girlfriend. She must have low self esteem to put up with that crap. Casey will have even more power over you if you reveal interest in him. That would be a big mistake. There are plenty of hung, hot, bi and gay guys out there who would love to mess around with you. Please go find one of them!

I have to agree 100% with this comment if you tell him he will have power over you and you don’t want that.

I know it’s difficult to be in your situation and have been there myself, it’s difficult not to feel a little panicked at times when you’re being asked directly but the best way to fight this is to try and not want him and be confident in yourself.
There are plenty of other guys out there and I know lusting after something so close is difficult just try and find an interest in a different guy that is more likely to lead to something other than just being used.

Good luck and don’t let him take control.

 

[Telstra]

Why not just have fun and not over analyze ?
Just go with what you want, suck his cock? yes go for it.

 

[Bi Married Male]

The next time he is talking with you with an obvious bulge in his pants and questions your not getting laid and what you masterbate to...Tell him it has really been such a long time and your beginning to feel that any port in the storm will do also.. and ask him if the next time he fucks his girl can you watch so that you will have something to really beat off about....Tell him your fantasy is to watch sex...be general..maybe he will offer to beat off in front of you if he gets hot right then and there.

 

[Freespirited2011]

The next time he is talking with you with an obvious bulge in his pants and questions your not getting laid and what you masterbate to...Tell him it has really been such a long time and your beginning to feel that any port in the storm will do also.. and ask him if the next time he fucks his girl can you watch so that you will have something to really beat off about....Tell him your fantasy is to watch sex...be general..maybe he will offer to beat off in front of you if he gets hot right then and there.

This is a good idea! It gives him little control

 

[HunterM]

The next time he is talking with you with an obvious bulge in his pants and questions your not getting laid and what you masterbate to...Tell him it has really been such a long time and your beginning to feel that any port in the storm will do also.. and ask him if the next time he fucks his girl can you watch so that you will have something to really beat off about....Tell him your fantasy is to watch sex...be general..maybe he will offer to beat off in front of you if he gets hot right then and there.

I also have to say this is a great idea!

 

[mano]

I would also add that if you are tough enough to take his teasing and not let it get to you then by all means, do what others have suggested and play his little game. If you can stand what he dishes out then I would be giving it right back in his face. The only other thing I would say is for you to brainstorm a little on what drama might lie ahead if y'all do become sexually active. If you both have the type of personality that can keep it casual then that's one thing. If you are upset by the stuff he says or jealous of his activities with his girl or think he would freak out if he did something with another guy then you'd better steer clear. It's on thing if it's somebody that you don't live with, but it is a MAJOR mess if this thing gets complicated and y'all have to live within the same four walls.

 

[Kyanimal]

First of all, do NOT assume he Knows ANYTHING about you, what you're thinking or feeling! The ONLY way he could know anything is if you let him/told him! He's only poking about, looking for gaps in your armor, something that will give him a little bit of leverage to kid you about, just to make himself look 'better' in the eyes of others.

And, I'm pretty sure you're not the only one he is, has, or will be, picking on. I'll also bet he's as nice as pie when there isn't an audience around, be it only one, or more. What he's doing is "Grandstanding", and seems to think you're the easier target as opposed to your other room mate.

By your not countering him, coming back in his face, mounting any kind of defense, and simply walking away, you're giving him the impression there might be some ammunition there for him to 'work' with. He's just 'searching'/prying. By letting him continually do that, you're actually only encouraging him to keep at it.

"The best Defense is a good Offense!" Take him up on his provocations. "If you think you're so hot, and have such a great dick, then whip it out! Right HERE and NOW!" And, if he does ... "That's all you're working with?" Then shake your head and walk away. Or something along those lines to pop his bubble and take him down a peg.

OR ... just the opposite. Hold out your hand and say, "Hey! Put the beauty right here!" OR ... "Since you've gone that far, let's ALL show off!", and then proceed to whip yours out, too. And, if the other room mate is getting all shy say, "What about You, too?"

The point is to "rise" to the challenge, one way or the other, and not just slink away with your tail between your legs.

Granted ... he's "hawt", but the problem is he KNOWS it, and uses that to inflate his own ego even further, at your, or someone else's expense. And, he'll keep doing it until he runs into some resistance, or someone 'trumps' him, calls his bluff, and ups the ante.

From everything you've told us, I really doubt if there's any chance of 'getting' with him. And, if you did get 'lucky', it's likely going to cost you dearly because he's probably going to blab it all over town. Would that really be worth it?

You shouldn't have to put up with that kind of treatment, but since he's there doing that, you do have to decide how you want to deal with it. You can continue as you have been. You can pull the rug out from under him. You can call him on it, and not back down. I don't see many other choices for you.

I'm wishing you all the Best!

And ... Most Importantly ... no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

(How do you and your other room mate get along?)

 

[Rgncajun]

Seriously, just tease him back. Tell him next time he's fcking his girlfriend, make sure he stops thinking about you jacking off. And ask him why the sight of you makes him touch himself all the time. Etc. etc.

 

[Singularity]

A lot of good advice given, but I, too, would tease back or at least scare him. The next time he "propositions" you, grab his bulge and casually say "Ok, let's do this and see if you can keep your promises." and proceed to pull him upstairs. Make sure he thinks you mean it and not in a jokey-way.

Two things will happen; he'll either go for it and you'll get your secret wish or he'll get such a scare he probably would stop for good realizing he's lost control over you in particular. (By not confronting him you are his personal doormat after all.)

If he starts to argue about not doing "gay shit" just tell him to fuck off then with his BS come-ons since they stopped been funny after the second time and then walk away.

I can't predict what wil happen when you do become sexually active together, but maybe his asshole attitude could soften once he discovers more about his own sexuality. It is known that guys who act like Casey often repress one side of their sexuality while over-enhancing the other resulting in typical douchebag behavior. A good fuck over the fence usually irons them out a bit.

 

[62624rd]

if you really want him, wrestle with him and let him top/ get the best of you and see what happens next.

 

[palemale]

You could also tell him that if this is his way of trying to get you to have sex with him it won't work. He should just come out and ask you nicely and take the chance that you might reject him. Then move in real close and say in your sexiest voice, "but who knows, big guy, I might say yes." When he turns red, just laugh.

 

[Canons]

shit if that were me I'd have punched him out already. I know violence isn't the answer but it would teach him! Then when he's on the floor all bloody, you get on top of him and turn the tables around. Tell him it's HIM that wants your dick then tell him to stop hitting on you

 

[jmadaf]

I see two ways to go, he is an A-hole, full of himself, and gets off about bragging about his sexual conquest. Second he is bored with fucking women thats why he braggs about humilitaing them in sex, and maybe wants to explore, he knows your BI but he is in denial. Tell him what you are be proud no matter what the outcome, but be ready for the consequenses, maybe moving out. Depending on the other roomates. Good Luck.