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Need help before I explode!!

Heydude009 said:
Today at the movies, I will try my best to push all of this forward. Do you guy still feel that he likes me. Sorry if I'm being annoying, but I just want to make sure he does.
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Well up to this point "trying your best" has meant shying away from his advances. He's done everything but brandish a big neon "fuck me" sign. I don't understand how you can desire him so badly, and get these signs of interest from him, yet expect to get him by ignoring his flirtation. You're just being silly. You need to be an adult and start returning the affection. Take a chance. By all appearances it's an infinitesimal one.

You also were going to "try your best" on prom night. Enough with the try. Do or do not, as Yoda says. Don't go into it saying you're going to "try"... go with the mindset that you are going to do.

Go get this boy and post a hot update already :p.
 
I'm only going to say this once, so pay attention:


I had a friend who did almost the exact same things as you're describing, only we weren't nearly as close as the two of you seem to be.

I, like you, avoided things because I was nervous of what might happen if I did anything to suggest I liked the type of attention he was giving me. Reading this has brought a lot of those feelings back, and I'm kicking myself for not doing anything.

I haven't seen a single person from that school since I left, so being worried about how they would react seems really stupid now.

Don't miss out on a good thing based on what other people might think.
 
I suspect the coming out is the germ of the issue.
 
ugh great knowing my freakin luck he couldnt go to the movies... he had to watch his younger siblings wtf
 
I'm actually not. However, as the days go on, I feel more and more confident about coming out. I'm from a very homophobic family unfortunately and that is what's stopping me. ugh I'm so upset I didn't get to go to the movies with him. I was looking forward for tonight all day and it was ruined. wtf this always happens to me.
 
If you really want him, you'll find a way to get him alone and do something. The rest is just excuses.

If you are afraid of telling him you're gay, you'll never get anywhere and once again, simply trade in excuses.

If you think you're wrong, and that he's not interested, but you don't want to hear that, you'll still get nowhere and are just setting yourself up for disaster.

For all of these issues the first step is coming out. How are you planning on dating him from the closet? You can't, you can just sneak around from the closet.

Don't you suppose - with this guy or not - that you''ll never get what you want until you're out?

I came from a very homophobic family as well, you'll find that a lot of us do.
 
Heydude009 said:
I almost forgot, today him and I spoke on the phone and as we were going to say bye, he says I love you and I just replied bye because I was with other people and he says I love you again.
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What the fuck is wrong with you?! He said it twice. That means he means it. Did you ever think that you may well be breaking his heart? ](*,)

Maybe he might like it if you said an "I love you" goodbye, the next time you talked on the phone.
 
If Soilwork's/Jasun's "grow a pair" ever applied! It would be here!

Dude, just make a move. One or the other of you could die tomorrow, grab today!

Live!
 
Another fucking depressing day. He asked me if I want to go to the mall with him and we did, just me and him. On the way there, he hits me with devastating news. He told me that him and another girl made out after prom. Remember when I said, he had to give 2 people a ride. He then told me not to say anything because him and the girl don't want anyone to know. He also said, he has never felt this way about a girl before and that he couldn't even sleep because he was thinking of her. What the fuck. I seriously hope he is making this up. He said hes not sure if he wants to ask her out. I was there trying to be a good friend, but deep down inside my body was deteriorating. I am so crushed right now. We did have a good time at the mall though. We ate together and were shopping together. I went to put in gas in my car and he even wanted to pay. I'm so fucking stressed, pissed off, depressed. Omg what the fuck
 
I feel so much like shit right now, I don't really don't want to see him because I feel like I will just cry. I'm so confused. I forgot to mention that he owes me $40 and he even said to me if he sucked my dick, would we be even. I really don't know what to think now. I WANT to push things forward between me and him, but since he told me about that girl, I have lost all my energy. I was feeling confident, but now that confidence is in the negatives. I'm so damn confused.
 
Could he be making the whole story about the girl up because he doesn't want people to know hes gay or bi. He did say to me not to say anything to other people and doesn't know if he wants to ask her out. I have to admit, he does lie a few times and I honestly hope this was a lie.
 
YOu can't keep trying to play Miss Cleo. Get to the bottom of it.

"Dude, I'm kinda into you. This shite with the chick, is it for real? Is there any chance for us?"
 
Ugh the thing is, sometimes he shows hes into me, but other times he talks about being with a girl. However, he does all of moves on me more than he talks about girls. We are like best friends and we are very close. At Kmart earlier, he goes to the condom section and says to me, hey you need these condoms. He started laughing. He even told me he thinks a guy that is gay and out likes him. He even said he would fuck the living shit out of him. He started cracking up. This gives me hope and makes me want to make a move on him, but the fact that he told me he made out with this girl makes me stop in my tracks and I lost confidence. I think the main problem is that he is terrified of coming out. He did say he was drinking before he supposedly made out with this girl. He still continues joking about about friends that they are a gay couple and he told me hes happy I can make it to his house without using my navigation.
 
Right after he got out of work, he texted me asking what I was doing and if I had any plans for today. I also forgot to say, he told me about the girl after I told him I heard one of our other good friends was making out with someone. He wouldn't even mention it if I hadn't opened my mouth. I'm still surprised he wanted to pay to fill up my gas tank and before prom he said he would teach me how to dance, even slow dancing. While we were eating at the mall, he put chicken on my plate and said he was upset that he couldn't go to the movies last night.
 
Sorry for the third post, but I have to vent out. When he told me he would suck my dick instead of paying me for the money he said, "what? you don't want these huge lips." He even brought me to a "sex shop" and showed me a card with the almost naked men saying we should get this card for our friends.
 
You're worried about him basically saying, "I made out with a girl, but don't tell anyone because then people will know we did, which we didn't, and I don't want her mad at me."

You're killin' me dude.


Next time he says ANYTHING implying he likes you, just kiss him for god's sake.
 
Damn.....Some people need a ton of bricks to fall on their head before they get it. He Wants To Mess Around With You. Go For It!
 
Hey,

So this will be the first time I'm responding to this thread but definitely not the first time I've read through it. It is crazy interesting. I have a few possibilities but I'm almost 100% sure that the last one is right.

Theory 1 (not likely) He is straight but is ridiculously comfortable with it and has found a "bromance" (god I hate that word but it works so well) with you. He likes this girl and wants his best buddy to share that with him. Given this scenario, you gotta move on or begin to find flaws with him so you can move on. But you won't be able to do that, will you? Ultimately, you'll end up telling him and ruining what he thought was the perfect friendship. He'll get over it but you probably won't. You'll feel like shit in the short run but OK in the long run. You lose the battle and win the war.

Theory 2 (more likely but still doubtful) He wants you and wants things to progress but is scared, like you I might add, to come out and do something about it. He made out with the girl because he's either bi and hasn't gotten any waiting for your ass and/or wants to make you jealous, which would be working, and solving this problem would mean you would tell him you want him. Or, instead of directly telling him, you could JUST tell him you are gay and see if anything changes between you. If it is case numero uno, I still see him getting past this because of your deep friendship. You win or at least lose the battle less severely because you have a stronger bond and then win the war.

Theory 3 (what I would bet on) You are in love with the idea of him and love telling people about it (two ideas that have been stated on here) but you take it a step further. Trust me, I've been there, for 3 years to be exact. The problem with my situation was the girl (I'm bi) I was in love with lived 1,017 miles from me and I always thought that if I could get the opportunity for a real relationship with her my life would be complete because I loved her. I still love her, but as a friend. But enough about me. You have him right there next to you and you can hang out with him but you won't do anything. Why? Because you actually like being where you are. You like that everything that has gone wrong because it's not YOUR fault. If you don't do anything, it can't be your fault. This is the first area where you are wrong, doing nothing IS your fault! Then you come on this website and tell everyone about this great guy you could get with, but you just can't because everything around you just sucks that much and the world is out to get you. Dude, the world is not out to get you and your man. Your just trying to get other people to believe that so you get attention. But with attention comes people like me who actually want to give you advice that works. They're telling you what to do and you LOVE that attention people are giving you. But because actually using one of their ideas, should they end up not working, losing would be your fault for actually listening to them and you couldn't live your love story anymore, the one where society has it out to get 2 people but they overcome all the adversities. I'm not trying to ruin your fantasy, fantasies are the only real reason for living, but I am telling you to either prove me wrong and fucking kiss the boy already, either losing the battle and winning the war or BOTH, or to move onto another fantasy.

Theory 4 (which I thought of when I was writing this lengthy reply) I'm a Freshmen in college aka I was just in high school. It is REALLY REALLY early for a prom of any kind. No one will get mad if you admit this isn't true and there is a problem because the only reasons why people reply to this thread is because they love drama, in which case they won't really care if this is all a lie, or because they genuinely care about well being. Go see a psychiatrist and you'll win the battle and war.

To summarize, you win the war given any of the situations I've described here. THE ONLY WAY YOU DON'T WIN IS NOT DOING ANYTHING, proving Theory 3 correct but I'd much rather get proved wrong and see someone happy. I REALLY REALLY REALLY hope I'm wrong with the last two but they seem to fit. Regardless of the scenario, just fucking do SOMETHING and feel better kid. :kiss:
 
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