Need help before I explode!!

[Heydude009]

Hi everyone. I really need your help whether my best friend is bi or not. I've known him for 6 years and now I have the biggest crush on him and the first time he saw me, he was just staring at me. Other people around us starting saying that he was gay and that he liked me. Right now he is in my classes and these are the things he does that I think he is bi.

1. we sit near each other and he touches my upper leg sometimes near my dick like hes feeling me
2. He wanted to take my phone as joke today and I had it in front of my dick and he goes and grabs my phone when it was there
3. has told me hes horny and wants me in bed (is he just kidding?)
4. winks at me and does that thing with his tongue like he wants to suck on someone
5. says he loves my family and wants to come over and spend time with them
6. talks abut us living together and says he loves me
but...
says to me there is a girl he knows that he just wants to fuck (trying to hide his real sexuality? he laughs and doesnt really talk seriously)
he has had a girlfriend a while ago but has been single in a while
There are probably more things I can't think of, but ill add them later. Now is he just a funny straight guy or is he bi or gay? Please help me as all of this is simply eating me alive and I really need to know if he likes me or if he is just kidding. Thank you to everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Heydude009]

Also, he usually gives a ride to another kid and he wanted to go to a coffee shop with me, but I had to work that day so I told him to go with the kid he gives rides too. he said he only wants me and him to go and not the other kid. my friend is also good friends with the kid as he gives him a ride every day to and from school.

also my friend wanted me and him to hang out by ourselves an hour away from home for a day.

one day in class, he draw dicks all over a piece of paper and he said this is (_______)'s dick, this is his dick and says to me this is your dick.

 

[Heydude009]

I'm sorry if all these instances sound weird, but this is how he really is.

 

[Vlad-Dracul]

A very important thing I've learned on these forums is that, in cases like this one, we need to stop trying to be Miss Cleo. You can't read this guy's mind; neither can we. It has been discussed extensively that straight guys can be playful with other guys the way you describe, which only makes everything more confusing. If he's really your friend like you say, the only way you'll resolve your dilemma is by asking him if he's gay/bi.

-Vlad

 

[chillyboi]

No it sounds like he might be into you , have you called him on any of his shots?

also if a mod see's this
how about an advice forum????
we've been getting loads of advice threads

 

[DarkHelios]

Does he know that you're gay (or bi or whatever)?

 

[joeG23]

Tell him you are gay, see how he plays it. Best of luck.

 

[Heydude009]

No, this is the first time I actually say what I am. Most of my friends are homophobic IMO and I'm scared of telling them. Do you guys think he is in to me?

 

[backpacker]

A very important thing I've learned on these forums is that, in cases like this one, we need to stop trying to be Miss Cleo. You can't read this guy's mind; neither can we. It has been discussed extensively that straight guys can be playful with other guys the way you describe, which only makes everything more confusing. If he's really your friend like you say, the only way you'll resolve your dilemma is by asking him if he's gay/bi.

-Vlad

Very well said.

There are certainly some questionable actions on his part. That could either mean that he's gay/bi or that he is straight and very secure with his sexuality. The biggest clue I get from what you wrote is that he doesn't appear to be homophobic. That's a good thing. Keep in mind that the vast majority of times the guy is straight, so don't get your hopes up too high.

My standard advice is that you shouldn't ask him directly. If you put him on the spot, he is likely to deny it even if he is gay/bi. After all, why would you expect him to confess something to you that you haven't confessed to him. The best thing you can do is tell him that you are bi, then the ball will be in his court.

If you aren't willing to be up front and tell him, then he can start dropping large hints. When he feels your leg, say something like "oh baby, that feels good." If he grabs the cell phone from in front of your dick, say "you missed my dick" and laugh. If he says he's horny and wants you in bed, respond with "I'm horny, lets go to bed." You get the idea. Whenever he says something that makes you wonder, respond in a way that will make him think you are receptive. Good luck!

 

[youngnihilist]

The question is are you into him?

 

[gameboy 11]

You obviously need to ask him. It sounds like he's not joking and he wants your bod.

Reciprocate!

 

[Heydude009]

yea.. I do like him, but I'm too scared to tell him. idk what i should do. just today he told me to go visit him at work, but i couldn't go.

 

[nautiboyjeff]

You should figure out how to get some time with just the two of you, have a drink or two (not sure how old you are), and tell him you are bi, you can explain you have never done anything, then see what he says. Maybe he will open up to you.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>yea.. I do like him, but I'm too scared to tell him. idk what i should do.

Don't make him do all the work. You don't have to jump him in the middle of class or anything, but next time he gives you some possible signs, give him some positive reinforcement. Let's look at each one in turn.

1. we sit near each other and he touches my upper leg sometimes near my dick like hes feeling me

Look a bit unsure and say "Nope, not there yet..."

2. He wanted to take my phone as joke today and I had it in front of my dick and he goes and grabs my phone when it was there

Smile and say "Had I known you'd be reaching for my phone that much, I would've put it there earlier."

3. has told me hes horny and wants me in bed (is he just kidding?)

Smile and say "OK, but I get to top (or bottom)."

4. winks at me and does that thing with his tongue like he wants to suck on someone

"Can at least wait until we get back to the room? I'm not sure I'm ready to do it here in the open..."

5. says he loves my family and wants to come over and spend time with them

Let him.

6. talks abut us living together and says he loves me

Look confused and ask "One bedroom or two?"

Lex

 

[Heydude009]

This Wednesday we are going shopping together, just me and him. Let's see how it'll be!

 

[Heydude009]

ugh this is so hard. he started the whole squeezing leg thing again and today he was like, "look at my lips all big, they good for licking." he put his hands over his mouth and pretented to lick his hands. The thing I'm scared of is if he is just joking about everyone and our friendship is ruined.

 

[Heydude009]

I've been crying everyday just thinking I might never get with me. The thing is there is no way I can distance myself from him because I have two classes with him everyday and he sits next to me everyday.

 

[cityboi]

Maybe it would be easier if you asked him about that girlfriend he had. When he gets flirtatious ask him if his old girlfriend used to take care of those things and why he doesn't have another girl to take care of those things. Maybe he'll tell you he found that no woman can satisfy his needs!

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>ugh this is so hard. he started the whole squeezing leg thing again and today he was like, "look at my lips all big, they good for licking." he put his hands over his mouth and pretented to lick his hands. The thing I'm scared of is if he is just joking about everyone and our friendship is ruined

Oh, for the love of GOD, dude. What more does this guy have to do? He's made about a hundred overtures, and you're standing there like a fucking statue, wondering "Gee, what if he doesn't mean it?"

Think about it. I mean REALLY think about it. Do you honestly think that all this touching and flirting and innuendo is nothing but BS? That he's doing it all just to make you "reveal yourself", so he can drop you like a hot potato, and tell all your friends? That sounds like the old joke my friend used to tell his homophobic friends.

"Dude, I just found out Lex is totally gay!"
"Really?"
"Yeah! I gave him a blowjob, and he didn't push me away or ANYTHING!"

Straight guys might occasionally do the "fake gay" thing. Your friend has been doing it for far too long, in far too many ways, for it to be anything but a blatant attempt to get physical with you. He's done all the heavy lifting here, and you've sat around watching. If this keeps up, he'll just assume you're not interested, give up, and go find someone who will actually respond to his overtures. And sorry - I don't want to respond to your next thread where you tell us your friend is now dating somebody else, and how can you win him back.

He keeps giving you openings.
Respond to them, or prepare to lose him.

Lex

 

[Heydude009]

I think we are starting to connect! Today him and I went shopping and he was singing in the car and saying we should hang out more and why we never hung out in the past. Later we were texting and he said, "haha I love you haha" We went out for coffee and he wanted to pay for my coffee and I told him I was very sweaty and my shirt was all wet. He started rubbing my back several times.