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New situation. Not love, but what?

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So... I need help as I am not very expert in this kind of situations!

Some time ago a guy (Let call him "Bob") wrote to me saying he was gonna come living near me. We chatted, got to know, exchanged numbers. He seemed really affectionate, I was more hesitant as on the web yaou cannot like really someone.

We agreed to meet last night, so I went to pick him up by bus (he is not espert of public transportation). We got out, had dinner, chilled out and then met a gay guy he already knew from here and came to my school. He convinced us to go to the local gay bar to which i went twice and never got back again as i didn't like it.

There the two guys let me alone to go upstairs and (as i found out later) make out. SO i stand there alone and exchange sights with a guy (let call him Mark). He then sends a friend, i go to him, we chat a bit and we go in another little room to stay alone... there we start to make out. After some time I realizes it's time to go because Bob had to take the train and I was supposed to show him the way, plus my mother came to pick me up. I call him he does not answer. After some time he sends a text saying "we got down for 25 minutes you were nowhere, we are upstairs". So i go up, greet him, say goodbye to Mark (with whom I exchanged numbers) and go home.

The next day i go to Mark's and we play, not complete sex but we have our fun.

Now, 2 problems.

1. Bob does not answer to my texts anymore. Before he was like "oh i like you, "ti voglio bene" bla bla" now nothing. Ok i left him alone... but he went home with his father, and anyway when I left he was still upstairs kissing his boy so it was not the fact he dat to take the train the deal. He could have called me and he didn't. Plus, he was the firts one to let me alone even if WE went out together.

2. I fear Mark is falling in love, or expects something to happen. He is cute, seems a cool guy but i don't feel anything for him, i wanna get to know him better without any prejudice or something he can expect from me. I must admit he is not my ideal type of guy so maybe this is stopping me... I don't have big experience, usually it is clear before that it is just sex or we meet to get to know. And when I fell in love it was usually very fast, i could not stop thinking to the guy... now it is not happening.

Maybe i should just wait and see? The fact is i need a relationship but don't feel he is the right guy and also i wanna experiemnt some more fun before committing in a relationship. If not, I fear i may be divided into myself from love and willing to do new experiences.

I am crazy?
Please give you opinion. Thanks
 
ok .. my take:

1) just the fact that he could be so rude to run away a couple of minutes after you went out together, makes it rather clear that he is not interested in you. don't take it personally, just judging from your profile pic i'd say you are a daaamn hot guy. but as you said it yourself: you don't really get to know someone over the net. he might look good - but that doesn't mean you two will work out at all.

2) what's "not complete" sex? did you just cuddle? or jerk each other off? it's in both your hands to continue this - or not. you fear that he is falling in love with you, while you don't know what to think. he is not your type - yet you were attracted enough to him for this encounter. so i guess there is *something*. and you say you want to get to know him better - so what's the problem? do you fear that he thinks that you just want sex, or do you think that he might fall in love with you and you will have to say no?
i can tell you - you won't know without trying. you don't always need to have some goal when dating with a new guy. don't plan. don't speed things. do what feels good, and if you end up in bed where is the problem? just one thing: be honest with yourself - and with the other guy.
 
No, you are not crazy.

Mark is probably not the right guy for you, so do not be so "in love with the idea of being in love" that you settle for someone who does not totally satisfy you. If there is enough chance to continue to get to know him to see what happens, then that is fine and a good thing to do. Otherwise, tell him you are moving on.

Dating lots of guys to find out who and what you like is a good thing. Good luck with your search, and play safe!
 
Keep Mark. Forget about Bob. Bob is acting like he doesn't care and appears to have distanced himself from you. Mark on the other hand is in to you and You may have a future together.
 
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