Looks like another man, seeking acceptance, has been chased from these boards by members who are so confident they are without sin and fault, they can justifiably throw the first stones…..
Kajunfun70737, if you are still out there, please understand that there are many men from around the world that are in the same situation that you are in. They didn’t post their support because they are still in a place where they fear putting their fingerprints in cyberspace, and well, are not keen on receiving the comments that you have experienced on this thread. After all, these men can torment themselves quite nicely on their own, thank you very much.
I miss Bergentony. Of the nearly 100 PM’s in my file nearly all of them were either to or from him. He was/is a married guy with kids questioning his lot in life. I related, and gave him honest answers to hard questions. No, it’s not easy. Yes, it did feel better when the cloud of despair lifted. Isn’t it at least comforting to know you’re not the only one with these thoughts? I never judged Tony, which is probably why we corresponded privately for so long. But others did, beat him up verbally, and he has disappeared from this board, no doubt like our kajunfun has. In my mind I hope Tony reconsidered and on his own decided to remain a faithful straight man - but I would have supported any decision he made. I think of him often, but frankly I will never know if he is alive or dead.
This no-flame zone was created for guys seeking guidance and acceptance to the most emotionally wrought question of their lifetime. Bears, twinks, leathermen and fetish hounds – we’re all gay, we need to support each other, because god-dammit nobody else will. These are the newbies, if you can’t say something positive in this section, hold your comment.
A while back a coward crept onto this discussion board, permanently damaging its reputation. He (or she) created multiple threads about how he happily came out of the closet, was accepted by all, and how the sun seemed to shine brighter now that he was out and free. We cheered, offered high-fives and praise. But the person was an imposter, a non entity, and when it was uncovered it left a bitter taste. The poster chose not to author this fiction in the gay stories section of this website, but instead on this thread, where he could take advantage of the vulnerability of its participants, myself included.
I learned a valuable lesson. Like DNA, every coming out story is entirely unique to the individual. I learned that every coming out announcement is difficult, if only to the stress within ones own mind – and even in this enlightened age the ghost of Matthew Sheppard should remind us all to tread lightly. I should have realized that the fraudulent poster- with his Harlequin Romance style escapades- was a cad. But I wanted to believe, if only to contradict the story of family abandonment as told to us by Kulindahr or the horrible method in which daddysboy19 was outed.
Soilwork: Your post is a classic example of a back-handed flame. As a man with over 11,000 posts, many of them made in this section, you of all people should be able to understand that while stormy seas may await Kajunfun, we are here to offer non-judgmental help. And understand that while marriage - like shit -can happen, Kajunfun did not ask for this input, therefore he obviously does not wish to embark on this voyage, now.
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