Nice Guy Syndrome?

[G-Lexington]

Because I'm often nice, I'm occasionally overlooked for someone "badder". I'm cool with that. I may not have many guys come my way, but the ones that do end up being high quality indeed.

Lex

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I don't think I've ever met a nice gay guy. They've all been mean and pretty into themselves. Or cynical pricks. Or, as a friend of mine put it, a bunch of catty bitches.

Do you fit the profile, too? Or are you the exception that (dis)proves the rule?

Lex

 

[Corny]

definitely not

 

[G-Lexington]

Well, my mother didn't die in a car accident (bad or otherwise), but I've had some bad times as of late. I had a friend die, I had my grandmother die, I had a pretty bad depression hit. And through it all, my friends came through in the pinch. And some of them are, in fact, homosexual men. They were there with hugs and sympathy. They listened to my ramblings when I needed to ramble, and helped take my mind off things when I asked for that, too.

I dunno. Maybe, as I suggest above, I attract a "higher class" of gay man. And I don't mean they dress nicer, or they're hotter. Some dress as bad as I do, and a lot of them are like me in that they wouldn't make people turn heads (except perhaps so they could look at something more attractive). But they're great, three-dimensional, caring people who I'm honored and humbled to have in my life. For this exact reason. They ARE friends. Not hotties that look good in my Top 8, or make my table at the gay club look more attractive. They're honest-to-God friends.

Lex

 

[Lukeee]

Despite what you may think, I can be quite nice. I try my best not to offend people and I am normally in a happy mood. I do have my off days though...

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Which is exactically the reason why everybody hates me......

Friend A: Nobody likes a smartass, Paul.
Paul: *I* like a smartass.
Me: So do I.



Lex

 

[BlueD]

do you get annoyed easily Piggy?

In replying to the topic,yes, I do suffer that when interacting with people most of the time... but there are always some jerks around and they are unfortunate enough to get on my bad side... And I promise you, my bad side is BAD. (at least I think it is )

 

[Wajdan]

I am nice to friends and strangers but not so with my family (I live with my super conservative parents). The reason being the continuous taunting and issues I face on a daily basis.

 

[neruda]

Ummm - without meaning to stir up the pot (unduly)
Is being a nice guy a particularly gay characteristic?
Goes with the lack of aggression in our supposedly sissy side?

[BTW Happy Paddy's Day all )

 

[Lukeee]

Why do you only come here on your off days?

Oh, I thought I was quite nice on here, maybe not? I come on JUB everyday.

 

[LatinoSTAR]

no, i can be though. i just like to speak my mind, and that pisses people off i guess..

 

[trawler69]

I only appear nice.

We have hidden shallows!

 

[Lukeee]

Haha, I was only kidding, Luke. From most of what I've read from you on these forums I'd have to say that Mariah Carey-esque butterfly avatar is probably reflective of your character.

I drew that Well, I coloured it in.

 

[BlueD]

I drew that Well, I coloured it in.

You are so gay!

 

[hopnung]

Apparently being nice is a bad thing... everyone likes the bad boys.

It's fun to be bad by watching the bad boys go at it though

 

[MidnightPrism]

I used to be that guy.

Now I'm too honest and quite often rude.

 

[GL]

i can't help but be a nice guy.

sadly it hasn't earned me any favors.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

I'm polite, cordial, and have a generally friendly disposition that I'm working on. I can be judgemental at times, and even a little sarcastic--but I always feel guilty afterwards, so I guess that shows I have a conscience. I'm familiar with the kind of catty, bitchy behavior that's been discussed here, but it's not much of a problem for me to deal with, because I don't stand for it. I will freeze a bitch on the spot, dress him up, down, and sideways until he knows how to treat people with respect and consideration. But I do it with a sweetness. And I often become friends with some ho's I've have to set straight. Let there be "honor among thieves."

 

[willsboy84]

i always used to think i was a nice guy, but lately i'm realizing that it's been more about caring FAR too much what people think of me, than actually BEING nice. unfortunately i think alot of people are like that. fake bitches.

 

[chatolandia]

I am nice, for the most part


But I can be an asshole sometimes, and I hate it!


I don't believe that being nice precludes being assertive.


and that is the problem nowadays, people think that someone is nice=wimp.


Well, that's just not true, I am trying to learn to be more assertive without being rude.



and I have a few nice friends that are assertive, so I am trying to learn from them