Obssesed with Straight guys

[texan_slant]

I feel everyone else's pain here, though contrary to the attraction that ljhotboy and alabama79 both have to the "hyper-masculinity" in straight men, that is not what I'm usually drawn to.

I've fallen for nothing but straight and none of them have necessarily been jocks or muscle-bound, but really sensitive, smart, and confident individuals at the same time. Go figure!

 

[willsboy84]

Yeah, straight guys know what to do.
I've been with enough of them over the years.
The attraction is always that they are very masculine, and that women see them as studs. There's something about the thrill of you being the one to turn them.

It's the appeal of sites like Corbin Fisher and Sean Cody and why they do everything they can to perpetuate the illusion that the guys on there are straight. (Though, to be fair, I suspect a lot of the guys who appear on those sites truly believe that they are straight too, even as they're getting fucked up the ass for the 10th time)

Problem with seducing straight guys is that once they cum, most of them freak out. Bad news if they're your friends. Potentially dangerous if they're strangers.

If you want to satisfy your curiosity though, the #1 trick is to never admit you are gay. Bi, at best, but curious is better. A straight guy will think that if he messes around with another "straight" guy then what they've done isn't really gay. Twisted logic, sure. He also figures that if you're straight too, you're not going to out him. If you were gay, you might.

i've never had a guy actually "freak out" but one str8 guy i was with was so into it as i was doing him--grabbing my head, very vocal and all that, but afterwards as he's doing up his pants and stuff i tell him it was fun. he gets all nervous and twitchy and says "Yeah, but i don't really like to talk about it afterwards" when is this guy gonna realize he's nowhere near as str8 as he'd like to think?

 

[sixthson]

I dont know why but straight guys are such a turn on for me , its like a course!!!!!

Some might even call it a curse.

 

[a little edgy]

I dont know why but straight guys are such a turn on for me , its like a course!!!!!

Some might even call it a curse

Oh, how disappointing! I thought there was a course in straight men I could take. Or even teach ...

Seriously, I agree that unattainability is part of the attraction to straight men, and it's also a kind of defense mechanism: You know from the start they're never going to be emotionally involved, so you don't expect emotional commitment. And if they reject you, it isn't personal. (In other words, if they don't feel desire for you, it's not because you're undesirable - it's because you don't have a vagina.)

However, I think the perception of greater masculinity is the biggest factor, and the mere fact of their being straight contributes to that. Having sex with women is an inherently masculine thing to do - or so nature and our culture tell us - so straight men have a big advantage in that regard. Of course everybody's different, but I confess that finding out that a guy I thought was 100% gay occasionally fucks women adds a little to his sex appeal for me.

 

[breatheH20]

The whole not "gay" logic is true...

It's weird, I've been wanting my roommate for a while now, but I'm out, and he knows I used to have a crush on him...

But I see the punches and hits he gives my other roommate, which totally looks like he's getting off on contact with another guy..

Like someone said earlier, I'm gay, so if he did that sort of thing with me, it would register as gay in his mind...

Sort... I gotta come up with Plan B..

 

[drinksinme]

It's not easy being the average goodlooking straight guy either. Just waiting for a wandering hand or...

 

[BikerStud]

I agree that the unattainability is a big part of the turn on. But another has been the thrill when the "str8 guy" initiates it. I've encountered it quite often recently. My gf and i are in the swinging lifestyle. I'm openly bi (which for such an alternative lifestyle still has an enormous predjudice in it) but we do swing often with couples with a "str8" male. Its not all the time, but its definately not a rarity that the other guy might initiate something. Usually touching or giving/recieving a blowjob. I've yet to have one of the str8 guys go directly to "fuck me in the ass" lol But when its happens its a hottttt experience!

 

[dahighest]

I feel everyone else's pain here, though contrary to the attraction that ljhotboy and alabama79 both have to the "hyper-masculinity" in straight men, that is not what I'm usually drawn to.

I've fallen for nothing but straight and none of them have necessarily been jocks or muscle-bound, but really sensitive, smart, and confident individuals at the same time. Go figure!

I can reason with this. It is true that we are attracted to hyper-masculinity. However, there are some guys that are attracted to sensitive (or even feminine) men. I know some guys who consider themselves (down-low) DL who are obsessed with both straight guys and gay guys. Regardless of sexual preference, they are quick to point out their attraction to guys that they feel are less masculine than themselves. And what about all the slightly effiminate men who proclaim that they are straight? We all know guys who fit into that category.

 

[filipbong]

You are not alone...
There are many of us who are afflicted with this painful obsession...
In my case, I don't want to over-psyche-analyze it...I just find a str8 guy's manliness (his gait, bearing, scent, voice, confidence, toughness and roughness, etc. ,etc) irresistably sexy.

 

[prepular]

You are not alone...
There are many of us who are afflicted with this painful obsession...
In my case, I don't want to over-psyche-analyze it...I just find a str8 guy's manliness (his gait, bearing, scent, voice, confidence, toughness and roughness, etc. ,etc) irresistably sexy.

If a gay guy has all that (i.e. gait, bearing, scent etc), would you find him just as hot as a straight guy? Or would you consider that as fake butchness?

Just curious.

 

[dahighest]

I don't understand why so many of us are obsessed with straight guys. They are unattainable for the most part, except for when they are under the influence of alcohol. I personally would prefer a homosexual guy who had all the attributes of a straight guy because they know for one that they are into guys.

I've had one particular experience with a curious guy. Even though he was hot and straight-acting, we ultimately had a huge fight because of his confusion over his sexual urges. I suppose he may be gay/bi today since our fight was 2 years ago and we haven't spoken since. However, I would never want to go through that again.

A huge dream of mine though is to have a close straight friend who knows about my sexuality but isn't threatened by it. And most importantly, we wouldn't fool around with each other. Now THAT would be the life.

 

[filipbong]

If a gay guy has all that (i.e. gait, bearing, scent etc), would you find him just as hot as a straight guy? Or would you consider that as fake butchness?

Just curious.

It's hard to answer the first ? truthfully as I haven't met someone like that. But it would probably help to know that he is not a 'bottom'...
And I wouldn't consider it fake butchness because there are gay guys who are naturally straight-acting and everything.

 

[eoinfc18]

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[davo73]

i've been trying to get my straight buddy in the sack for about 5 years now. i think i'm wearing him away slowly. all we talk about is sex when we're together and usually we act "gay" together when it's just us, grabbing each other and rubbing each other. i love it. hopefully we will get there soon.

 

[filipbong]

i've been trying to get my straight buddy in the sack for about 5 years now. i think i'm wearing him away slowly. all we talk about is sex when we're together and usually we act "gay" together when it's just us, grabbing each other and rubbing each other. i love it. hopefully we will get there soon.

Curiosity (his) is on your side...
Good luck

On a sidenote- notorious womanizers Marlon Brando and Richard Burton both had admitted dabbling in experimental homo-sex in their youth.
Str8 men are only human...

 

[afwyoguy]

It truly is that hyper-masculinity that guys want. They want a tough guy who doesn't remind them that they themselves are not the toughest guy on the planet. They want a guy like they see in the movies with the leading ladies, a guy who's just laid back, carefree, and emotionally unavailable most of the time, though game for sex all of the time.
But most of all they want what is unattainable. That hot jock that they saw walking the halls in high school but was more likely to address them as fag or ignore them altogether than to say "what's up". They love the challange of finally getting that recongnition perhaps through a blowjob well done. Demeaning yes, but all a part of the cheap thrill that I suspect at least nearly 50% of the guys on this site go for.

Personally I'm not obsessed with straight guys because I prefer to steer clear of too much masculinity. I find hyper-masculinity is often associated with very low emotional intelligence. That's why women often find themselves bored and lonely with their ultra masculine husbands a number of years into the relationship. It occurs to them that while they have snagged the tough, scruffy, doesn't give a damn jock they'd been hoping for, when it comes right down to it he doesn't have much to offer beyond his looks and steely demeanor. He's just a guy's guy. A man who is as concerned about being mr. macho as a gay guy might be about how he looks in the mirror. Either way he's stuck on himself and hard to talk to.
That isn't all straight guys by any means and it even covers some gay/bisexual men pretty well to be honest.

Not that any of this matters to most of the gay men who pursue sex with straight men. After all, it's really all about the fucking then, not relationships. Getting a straight guys dick in your mouth is the important thing because he's a REAL man, not a femmy fag or, dare I say, a slight reflection of yourself.
When considering all this it makes me wonder if perhaps straight guys have been right all along in being scared of homosexuals. I've noticed some of the guys on this site are very predatory when it comes to snagging them a straight.

I agree with this one hundred percent. I know my obsession with straight guys is directly related to my own self loathing being gay.

As far as wanting what is unattainable, I don't get that. I've seen many hot gay guys I'd like to be with. But once again, alot of them are not the picture of masculinity that a lot of straight guys are.

 

[JDonetothree]

This is an interesting read. I don't know that str8 guys really know how some gay men may be interested in them. I have gotten along with some gay guys but I really didn't really think that they may be interested in me in a sexual way. It isn't like I really know who is gay and who isn't. It isn't good to follow all the stereotypes and assume somebody is gay.

 

[SundaySweat]

Men typically want and lust for things they cannot have - thus the desire of a straight man.

 

[MeDarrin]

It truly is that hyper-masculinity that guys want. They want a tough guy who doesn't remind them that they themselves are not the toughest guy on the planet. They want a guy like they see in the movies with the leading ladies, a guy who's just laid back, carefree, and emotionally unavailable most of the time, though game for sex all of the time.
But most of all they want what is unattainable. That hot jock that they saw walking the halls in high school but was more likely to address them as fag or ignore them altogether than to say "what's up". They love the challange of finally getting that recongnition perhaps through a blowjob well done. Demeaning yes, but all a part of the cheap thrill that I suspect at least nearly 50% of the guys on this site go for.

Personally I'm not obsessed with straight guys because I prefer to steer clear of too much masculinity. I find hyper-masculinity is often associated with very low emotional intelligence. That's why women often find themselves bored and lonely with their ultra masculine husbands a number of years into the relationship. It occurs to them that while they have snagged the tough, scruffy, doesn't give a damn jock they'd been hoping for, when it comes right down to it he doesn't have much to offer beyond his looks and steely demeanor. He's just a guy's guy. A man who is as concerned about being mr. macho as a gay guy might be about how he looks in the mirror. Either way he's stuck on himself and hard to talk to.
That isn't all straight guys by any means and it even covers some gay/bisexual men pretty well to be honest.

Not that any of this matters to most of the gay men who pursue sex with straight men. After all, it's really all about the fucking then, not relationships. Getting a straight guys dick in your mouth is the important thing because he's a REAL man, not a femmy fag or, dare I say, a slight reflection of yourself.
When considering all this it makes me wonder if perhaps straight guys have been right all along in being scared of homosexuals. I've noticed some of the guys on this site are very predatory when it comes to snagging them a straight.

This is a brilliant and insightful essay. Great observations!

I have a friend who when he was in high school was voted Best Looking and Best Dressed. All the girls liked him and he was a popular guy, even if he was one of the head cases.

Okay, cut to now... He has admitted that he has never read a book in his entire life! How fucking pathetic is that?

He doesn't seem to have any real interests or accomplishments, other than doing what he was doing in high school--getting fucked up and fucking women. His life is a mess, he's divorced, has a criminal record.

And it all started with him being so popular. Maybe these popular types get spoiled early and have no incentive to push for success. He's a loser, sad to say.

I've been guilty in the past of trying for people I could not have. I believe it's partly recreation of childhood. Humans recreate what they know. There's a comfort in what we know even if that comfort was painful! That's why women who've been beaten by men wind up marrying the same type of man over and over.

A gay guy in junior high and high school is in a situation where he is "the only one" and "everybody else" is straight. He's the odd man out who can't have what he wants.

Cut to later on as an adult, he will repeat that same pattern to bring up the old feelings and scenarios and old drama. Why? Because it's what he KNOWS. He knows what it's like to be the only one, the one longing for what he can't have.

When I came to that insight, my life got WAYYYY better. I realized I was sabotaging my happiness for the sake of replicating that old scenario from Junior and Senior High.

Today I don't do that. I still like me some masculine men! LOL But I don't throw myself at them. I don't put myself in a position where I'm longing for what I cannot have. That's self-destruction. That's pain. And pain is unfortunately what most gays know early on and seek to repeat the old times. Pain is "home."

 

[chace1617]

i like str8 guys since i remember myself, well i had a huge crash, i mean HUGE in two str8 guys(not at the same time) and decided to tell the one guy i liked him and stuff. He was a total ass and really hurt my feelings, i never made him feel bad or insulted him and he was just so mean to me... the other guy figured it out but pretended nothing was happening and then just ignored me... i never let myself fall in love after that...

now i go to a club or just walking in the city and there are sooo many hot str8 guys i'd like to blow and i know it's never gonna happen. then i talk with my female friends and they are like''oh i'm braking up with him he watches football and ignores me'' or ''he was staring at another woman when we were out together what an ass'' or ''i am breaking up with him cause someone else likes me but i really want a third guy'' i mean com' om! they have it all and still are not happy with them! i see str8 guys that would do anything in order to find a vagina, i see them how excited they look at hot women and buy them drinks in order to meet them... then i am thinking ''i am never gonna have that'' and i feel so miserable.

when i was 14 i had 2 chances to have sex with str8 guys just because they wanted to experiment and i feel so sad that i turned them down. i so wanted to suck my str8 friend, we were friends for 5 years and hang out all the time, when i told him he started ignoring me...

i've never met a masculine gay guy so i don't know if i'd like him, i guess i would, i love masculine str8 guys and that essay above is so true...