Obssesed with Straight guys

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Many good comments . Hyper-masculinity is a joke, whether from a straight or gay guy. It's fake, stiff, excessive, rigid. That cannot be attractive. Just like effeminacy is the other (ugly) extreme, these gender affectations are to be discouraged and guys should ideally be more gender balanced, everyone having their own unique character. I just find so many guys are like silly caricatures and not genuine. Authenticity IS attractive.
Furthermore, I find straight guys a turn off because they are not attracted to me. They often display the very evils I can't stand from typical males: rude, rough, hostile, arrogant,etc. My same-sex desire does not relish evil, so I seek not to emulate what I don't find good. Lastly, I would say when it comes to straight guys, mostly forget it. It's just not worth your integrity to have your heart broken by unrequited love, demeaned and possibly gay-bashed. Experimenting is one thing, but to make a life goal to pursue only straight guys must be a constant lesson in frustration and despair.

 

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They often display the very evils I can't stand from typical males: rude, rough, hostile, arrogant,etc. My same-sex desire does not relish evil, so I seek not to emulate what I don't find good.

I could make a list of stereotypes about gay men that I find just as unattractive. Straight men vary in their personalities as much as gay men do. That said, not everyone is seeking a sweet, gentle, passive, highly emotional man. We all like something different, so those who prefer qualities found more often in straight men than in gay men are not "wrong" any more than you are wrong to prefer the qualities that you seek.

Experimenting is one thing, but to make a life goal to pursue only straight guys must be a constant lesson in frustration and despair.

It depends on what you want in life and what you are pursuing at any given moment. Some of the comments in this thread seem to assume that everyone is always seeking a life partner ... but sometimes it's just about sex, and what you find hot in a purely sexual way is largely out of your control.

 

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But ultimately the session usually just is some variation of getting them off.

Absolutely right, but what if you get off on getting him off? Some people really do prefer to "serve" sexually. Their own orgasm is secondary. In that case, the fact that the straight guy is not going to get you off doesn't matter.

You're right, though, that it definitely won't be a long love-making session. Gays who pursue straights with the hope of having the same type of sexual and emotional experience they would have with a gay or bisexual man are doomed to disappointment.

It's all a matter of expectations, and what you want from that particular sexual experience.

 

[MeDarrin]

It's just not worth your integrity to have your heart broken by unrequited love. Experimenting is one thing, but to make a life goal to pursue only straight guys must be a constant lesson in frustration and despair

Excellent!

 

[Sgt Pepper]

Some people are being unusually honest in this thread, which is appreciated, since this is a topic fraught with political correctness and sensitive mine-field like nuances. I will just add one philosophical musing: desire has a vested interest in NOT being completely satiated, because the moment desire is satisfied, then desire ceases to be.

 

[chace1617]

desire has a vested interest in NOT being completely satiated, because the moment desire is satisfied, then desire ceases to be.

what you just said is amazing... (respect)

 

[clicker]

Some people are being unusually honest in this thread, which is appreciated, since this is a topic fraught with political correctness and sensitive mine-field like nuances. I will just add one philosophical musing: desire has a vested interest in NOT being completely satiated, because the moment desire is satisfied, then desire ceases to be.

Excellent! Oooh, I like that(and agree,too!)!!!

 

[stevexxx]

you may be obsessed with straight men but the straight men are not obsessed with you. society sees this obsession as a problem, meaning society thinks that gay men are hungry animals chasing men straight or gay because they are sex crazed

 

[jamiekelz]

"I'd rather hang out with straight guys and not have sex than hang out with gay guys and have sex. And, hey, sometimes I get lucky."- Gus Van Sant

Words to live by.

 

[Sgt Pepper]

what you just said is amazing... (respect)

Excellent! Oooh, I like that(and agree,too!)!!!

Thanks guys!

 

[MeDarrin]

"I'd rather hang out with straight guys and not have sex than hang out with gay guys and have sex. And, hey, sometimes I get lucky."- Gus Van Sant

Words to live by.

I like Gus Van Sant's movies. Did he really say this?

It sounds very pathetic and desperate. So do your words.

On the other hand, I'm not sexually attracted to most gay men. Well I'm not attracted to most straight men, either. I like a very masculine, rugged man. And of those, most of them happen to be straight, but sometimes I find an exclusively gay man who fits the bill.

As far as the endlessly stated position of "If they're letting a guy blow them they're not straight," it gets tiresome arguing with those people. They just don't get it. I'm gay but I fucked a woman once. Does that make me bisexual? Get real. I'm 100% gay.

 

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It sounds very pathetic and desperate. So do your words.

It sounds to me like Van Sant knows what he wants and has come to terms with it, including the limitations and consequences of his preferences. That's not pathetic; it's mature and self-aware.

What is pathetic is when gay men chase straight men expecting to have long-term, loving relationships with them and never learn that that will not happen.

As far as the endlessly stated position of "If they're letting a guy blow them they're not straight," it gets tiresome arguing with those people. They just don't get it. I'm gay but I fucked a woman once. Does that make me bisexual? Get real. I'm 100% gay.

Well, but gay men are under more pressure to try to be straight than vice versa, so more are likely to have experimented with women than straight men have experimented with men. That said, I agree with you. Within reasonable boundaries, what matters is how the person identifies himself, not what occasional experimentation he may do. If he thinks of himself as straight, has romantic feelings for women but not for men, strongly desires sex with women, and identifies with the heterosexual majority, then an occasional BJ from a guy will not make him gay. I guess you could say he was functionally bisexual, but what difference does that make if his entire non-sexual, and most of his sexual, orientation is toward heterosexuality?