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Old and single, what will you do?

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Riverrick said:
It will never happen to me because "old" is always about 10 - 20 years older than I currently am. :gogirl:

When I'm 80, I'll be looking at those old geezers who are 100 and thinking about how young and vibrant I am and how pitiful they look. :rolleyes:
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thats cool,
if you are 50 look at the people who are 70.

if you are dieing look at the people who are dead.
 
I'm struggling with being young and single. I don't even want to think of what I'll do if I'm old and alone.
 
Re: Old and sigle, what will you do?

Telstra said:
thats cool,
if you are 50 look at the people who are 70.

if you are dieing look at the people who are dead.
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But what happens when I'm Dead and Single??? :confused:
 
Re: Old and sigle, what will you do?

I can't stand being single enough but I know a really sweet and hot guy will come into my life soon and spend the rest of his life with me.

I am not worried too much about being an old and lonely gay man living with a terrier to keep me company. Please...I am just 22. LOL.
 
Ankh said:
http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9A03E5DC1039F932A15753C1A96F958260

I just read this article (see link above) that deals with gays and lesbians growing old while still being single.

Have you ever thought about it? Sure, you can say, I have my BF, he'll be by my side, I don't need to worry about it. But what happens when the BF dies, or you split up, and you don't get coupled again?

Have you guys thought about growing old, hopefully more healthy than not, single and without much family around? It can be a terrifying thought. :(
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Ankh,
This is a thought provoking article. Of course we all think about it some. I keep busy and try not to obsess about things like this, but I was surprised that I missed this fine thread. You sir, are still so young, and I do understand where you come from on this. Lex's post right after you started the thread is simple, straightforward and powerful.

Many of us still have our extended families, if we have not pushed them away or believe they have pushed us away. I advise bridge building so that the fear is at least mitigated. But in truth many of you know there have been times even while I am posting at JUB when my partner did not return home on time or call that I would literally worry and begin to unravel emotionally.

It is most likely that one of us will experience this. The whole thought is not a pleasant one, and at my age, nearly twice yours, it is a nearer reality, probably.

Ankh, this is a powerful thread and post, and I thank you for helping many of us to honestly address its content. You deserve a kiss from me and many others as well. Thanks.

After looking at all the posts here, I decided on this addendum to my post. Gentleman and a few ladies. None of us spends a lot of time thinking we are old unless we are constantly standing looking in a mirror. When that old geezer comes to stand in front of me, I look back at him and tell him, "Step aside, Dude. I am much younger than that."

When I look at those over eighty now, I know I am one of them, but I do not feel pity for them, for they are the lucky who have gotten to live and often in great health for so very long. The woody still needs wanking, and the sight of an arse still turns them on, and they will look at life for its satisfactions as well. I know this is true.

Shep+ (*8*):kiss:!oops!
 
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The_Pianist said:
Oh please, I've been on that train for a few years now.

What do you do? You carry on.
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I agree with Pianist here. You carry on. Your not the first person to be alone in his life and you won't be the last either. You just make due with the cards your dealt with. I haven't had a partner since the end of college and I live in a small rural town that I enjoy living and working in, so I know my odds are near improbable that I will ever find love again. But that my sacrifice I had to make to live the good life I have now.

Like they said...the truly good things in live are worth dying for.
 
Holy shit! I haven't thought about this at all. Well I don't even have someone right now so I guess if I end up alone, I'll have to get a few good friends, a body pillow, and a bunch of love movies lol
 
You probably want me to do your college homework.^^^
I am a graduate of Yale, top student.

Are you prepared to negotiate for my needs in return?+
I am not cheap, but the fact it is Tampa, helps.

Shep+
 
I'm not worried about being old and single. Assuming we're both around the same age and have similar medical problems, there's really little benefit to having a partner. He won't be able to get around any better than I will so he couldn't take care of me and I couldn't take care of him.

My fear is growing old w/o children. I don't want to give birth to, take care of, financially support, or deal w/ a child, but I do think from time to time, "Who will take care of me when I can't take care of myself?" I realize that not all children are generous w/ their parents but I still think there'd better odds of staying out of the nursing home in that situation.
 
Alpha1851 said:
I'm not worried about being old and single. Assuming we're both around the same age and have similar medical problems, there's really little benefit to having a partner. He won't be able to get around any better than I will so he couldn't take care of me and I couldn't take care of him.

My fear is growing old w/o children. I don't want to give birth to, take care of, financially support, or deal w/ a child, but I do think from time to time, "Who will take care of me when I can't take care of myself?" I realize that not all children are generous w/ their parents but I still think there'd better odds of staying out of the nursing home in that situation.
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create 3 children because you can.
 
wow i don't want to even think about that. Especially when i been single all my life and just had a few fuck buddies. I would most likely be the most depressed person on the face of the earth . I probably wouldn't want any friends also because they would get in relationships and i would be jealous of them



But i do want to lose this weight work out and move to a gay friendlier city maybe it will help the chances of me finding a guy.

I know that it might take me longer to find someone since im not into over rated stuff younger people do Drinking,Smoking weed,Tattoos im not picky about looks i just don't like guys with there body covered in tattoos and that drinks and smokes weed.
 
It can be a scary thought, so it would be a good idea to create some get together groups. I'm 42, and I'm fine with being single, at least for now. When my son is older, it might be a different story, who knows. But reaching out to other people, taking classes and joining groups will help you not get so lonely, and being here on JUB also helps.
 
Ankh said:
Excellent point of view. One I had not thought of, but yes, I agree with you.

About kids, I know of people that have like 3-5 kids, and once they're gone, they forget completely about their parents, so I think it's better to plan for ourselves about what we want to do (and how) when we are old.
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That's very true. However a lot of our parents and grandparents didn't plan out or save enough money for their golden years and thus, the progeny end up having to pay for it. How on earth can I save for my own retirement and long term health care when I'm having to pay for theirs. I believe that many of us have faced this same situation. Also, in the U.S. we do have Social Security but the legislature keeps raising the age for when we can draw it and the amount of money allotted really isn't enough to support anyone. In the meanwhile, health care costs continue to sky rocket. It's a scary reality. Maybe I should stop eating so much fast food and consuming so much Coke--you know, to prolong my health.
 
Cubanboi said:
I'm struggling with being young and single. I don't even want to think of what I'll do if I'm old and alone.
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Basically. And I don't even necessarily have a problem with being single, I just have a problem with being alone. I'm entering my last year of college, I've moved out of the dorms, and before this, so did all of my friends. Basically my entire group of friends has disbanded and I've kind of gotta start all over again, which is really difficult.

I have a passion for my career so that'll keep me going, but honestly I don't want to imagine my life at 45 without someone in it. If it's this difficult for me to find someone at 21, I'm certain I'd be screwed 20 years from now.
 
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