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Older guy coming out to family: so far, so good!

Lube, I can't believe I missed this thread on the first go-around, so let me express my congratulations too--tardy as they are!

I'm glad to also get the updates about your mother's reaction. So far, so good!

Thanks for sharing this with us. It's made my day and probably countless others' too. Way to go and congratulations again! I'm so happy for you! ..|
(*8*)
 
Congratulations, Lube ! I can relate to the cancer comment. After I told my brother and and his wife, my sister-in-law said she was relieved - she had feared I was going to tell them I have cancer. I hope everything went well with your siblings today. I bet you'll be glad when it's all over with and everybody knows. It may take a few days to digest everything that's happened. You did the right thing.
 
I'm so happy for you LUBE!! Congrats on telling your mom, and so happy that she is ok with you. I bet its a great relief!! Many happy returns for the future for you!!
 
It's Official: Everyone Knows!

OK, well, everyone knows now! I told my two brothers and my other sister.

As someone put it to me in a PM last night, I'm officially Gay now. ;)

Things went really, really well, I'm happy to say. Everyone said I'm still their brother and they'll always love me no matter what. (*8*) The conversations were fairly short, but I figured I need to give them time to digest what I've been digesting for 6 months. I'll probably call them all back within a week or two and talk about it some more.

The one Evil Sister started out all lovey-dovey like everyone else, but within 5 minutes was probing and poking for weak spots. I just know she's going to bring the topic up at some inconvenient time and try to embarass me; but then she's been doing that for 43 years, so it's something I've learned to live with. :rolleyes:

But all the other siblings really gave me the impression they were behind me 100%. A little surprised, perhaps, at the suddenness of it all, and the fact that I was so direct about it. I'm not normally so direct, but my fellow JUBbers have helped me with the confidence I needed to feel good about myself. I love you all! (*8*) :kiss:

Lube
 
There are more posts and PMs that I want to make, but my notebook battery is dying and I'm not at home. Hopefully in the next 24 hours I can respond...
 
AWESOME JOB!

Don't worry about all the dramatics with your mom, I did that too. It's going to be so cool that you can finally be yourself and be happy and a big homo(!) ​
 
Hey Lube! :D

Welcome to the Band! (*8*)

I know exactly what you're feeling! You can actually breath now! (!)

I waited until I was 27 to "come out" to myself. I had always known, but I didn't want to be gay. Then a good friend of my coaxed me out. I'm glad he did.

The first member of my family that I came out to was my sister. She was really cool about it, but she latter told me that in her head she was saying, "Oh my God, Oh my God, Oh my God." :D

I never came out to my folks. They found out.

They dropped by the house unannounced one day when my boyfriend and I were doing some spring cleaning. Usually we had this routine where we would "straighten" up the place whenever there was an unexpected knock on the door.

That day, whe didn't know where we had put all of the "gay stuff," magazines, local gay newspapers, pictures of us at parties kissing, and having a good time.

It didn't take Dad long to find it. #-o

My sister was the first one to get questioned, and her response was, "What about it? Too each their own right Dad?"

I think that they left skid marks in the street in front of the house.

My sister called me later and said, "The cat's out of the bag, and so are you!"

My sister was the "liason" about anything gay for the next three years. Whenever I was around my being gay was "off-topic."

But the silly ass shit that they would say to my sister for her to say to me was more than worth the wait for them to finally come around:

Mom: "We can send a man to the moon, but we can't make a pill to cure gay." :eek:

Mom: "I just knew that Dianne (my ex-fiance) was the one who turned him gay."

Dad: "Huh? What somebody talking to me?"

:D

I figured it took me twenty-seven years to accept that I am gay, and it only took them three. So, I'm pretty proud of them.

You're doing GREAT! (*8*) :kiss:

Just remember that coming out is also a process.

I'll be by latter with your official "gay card," a "rainbow flag," and your toaster oven!

(*8*) :kiss: (!)
 
Doesn't it feel great to just walk naked down the hallway and not care what the others think?

I'm so proud of you.
 
What can I say? You're the man!

I like Jake's big homo line. :lol:

Good luck with the Evil Sister. If she gets out of hand, try dumping a bucket of water over her head. I hear it does wonders. :rolleyes:
 
I just got your PM and....GOOD 4 U!!!:=D:

It's just such a relief isn't it?!..|

Living a lie made me feel sick inside.
It's amazing how usually no one seems to care. I told my Mom to sit down too when I came out and even brought some articles about parents of gays or some nonsense. She of course cried but we're an emotional family.

She gained a new son 11 years ago (mu hub) and my family and his are just one big extended family!:=D:

That is great to hear!(*8*)
 
Lube, I'm so happy for you! I know you're on cloud nine right now! From the day we met and discovered our almost mirrored lives, I knew then I had a real friend. Like Soilwork said "you can walk around naked now!". You know, we've both been taking these steps almost together, but you just past me by leaps and bounds! Enjoy your newfound freedom and all the happiness that comes with it!
 
Thanks for all the feedback, everyone.

It's funny how, a day later, you can feel both completely unchanged and utterly transformed at the same time.

I'm completely unchanged in the sense that I'm the same person I was yesterday: I have the same likes and dislikes, the same basic personality. I'm the same son/brother/uncle/friend that I was before.

Yet I'm utterly transformed in that a significant--but by no means all-encompassing--part of my life can now be revealed. I no longer have to hide things: books, magazines, feelings, photos, conversations.

I can finally be me instead of a façade.

To anyone who's thinking about coming out: If there's one piece of advice I can give you, it's to wait until you're comfortable with who you are. I wanted desperately to come out earlier, but I would not have come out as forcefully or self-confidently. I think that made a big difference. And it's something I learned here at JUB.
 
Oooo! You remembered the 'ç'!

Anyhoo, I'm so glad things have gone well for you.

I think we all need to get together & celebrate!

Come in, come in, fine shampanya! ;)
 
Lube said:
I can finally be me instead of a façade.
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That's what it's all about.

I'm so glad you've done this--glad for you, because you've wanted to and felt the time was right.

Congratulations, again! You've had a busy couple of weeks, and now you can relax and enjoy the new, open you. Yeah!

..| :wave: (*8*)
 
Lube said:
...To anyone who's thinking about coming out: If there's one piece of advice I can give you, it's to wait until you're comfortable with who you are. I wanted desperately to come out earlier, but I would not have come out as forcefully or self-confidently. I think that made a big difference. And it's something I learned here at JUB.
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Excellent advice. We each come out to our own timetable. You have to listen to that inner voice, and it will tell you when the time is right.(*8*)
 
Wow, I know how you are feeling, isn't it great!! You have bigger balls then me I have not told the parental units I am not sure if I am going to. Congratulations once again!!
 
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