Hey I totally understand you and respect that conclusion...and you know you are correct..well certainly bi guys like me. Don't go for me...go for the openly gay guys who can give you what you want and openly so, to live your dream...buy a place, have careers, even children now...be openly gay in the gay world which is respected and acknowledged and generally accepted (yes I know there are acceptions). I don't want your open sexuality, I want the secret side to a guy who values his main life and respects genuinely his desires for a woman in all the ways that she can give, but also desires something he can only get in secret from a guy - and yes...it is physical. Do we feel guilt...sure..does the drive to meet someone we think we trust be curtailed sometimes by the overwhelming realisation of what we could lose....yes absolutely ...but when it works out, when crossing that line happens in total trust and mutual understanding, with both guys totally in tune with the situation then wow...the sex is amazing, a total physical release which satisfies the mind as well as the body in a way that is heightened BECAUSE or our situation. I'm telling you, gay guys used to go through this before homosexuality was legalised. You hid in dark corners....chased the shadows, seeking out someone who gave you the eye and then, believing the coast was clear took the risk and satified totally a need. Well there is a new group...guys like me who HAVE to keep it secret because thats the only way we can have what is inherent in our sexual makeup. And that is...to keep the world that means so much to us, absolutely, unequivocally, our nuclear family that we are proud of and want to sustain. And yet occasionally we want to experience a part of our sexuality that can only be realised and released with a like minded person in a similar situation. There is nothing wrong with that. Its a life choice, and something we have to live with in our secret erotic world. Societies have always dictated sexuality and what is acceptable, based on religion and social values. The latter have always been adapted in one way of another...but for me....there is nothing that can be made legal that allows me to live the sexual live I want to. But that is ok...I accept that and actually quite enjoy the cloak and dagger sexuality that my other sexual half requires.
Hey I'm glad I started this thread, because there is a huge group of people who feel the same way, and sure....just like the gays in decades before, we needed to be heard and needed to be understood, well...we do also.
Also...just to remind people...I started this in the bisexual/ straight thread....so its appropriate isn't it....?