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First of all, first post :gogirl:

Anyway just some quick background knowledge, I just turned eighteen this week and decided to join the forum!
So, I haven't had a boyfriend, nor have I even had my first kiss yet. I despise it, I want someone, who doesn't? I go to college and I'm in my last year, coursework's heavy and I don't have a job, just wouldn't have the time for it. I'm out to everyone, but I'm still thinking my parents keep hoping I'll turn round and tell them I'm straight.

Anyway, my problem, it's a guy.
He's a first year, I saw him in the canteen and just thought, "you're cute."
And, we just looked straight at each other, for a while, eye contact and all that.
From that day I saw him around more and more, every time we'd walk past one another we'd just stare at each other.
After a few weeks I found him on facebook and added him, he accepted and we started talking, for a few hours. From real conversation to just smiley faces, every time the conversation did die, one of us would say something and start it up again.

After days of talking, him telling me to say hello if I saw him and all that, he randomly got into a relationship with some guy. We stopped talking, I was pretty upset.
But I promised to go see his panto, and I got the tickets, the week I was going to see it, we started talking loads again.
The night of the panto, he saw me and just grinned and raised his eyebrows at me, the "I know you, but don't know what to say" expression.
Well, when he got home from it, he inboxed me on facebook straight away asking what I thought of the panto.
We talked a lot again, every day. He told me that it was good to have me, that he can talk to me about stuff that he can't with other people. I told him I was there for him and he said he was there for me.
We talked about relationships, and he told me he wanted a boyfriend, I realized he was now single.
A few days later, he asked me to a party, but I already had plans, so he asked me if I wanted to go have a meal and watch a film. I said yes and we planned it.
Unfortunately, I was ill and he didn't have much money, so we re-scheduled it to his next payday (Around Jan 23rd).
I gave him my number and we progressed to texting in the morning everyday, apart from a handful, boxing day and today so far.

But we haven't talked about going out again, and I just don't know where I stand with him. Sometimes I'm certain he likes me, other times I just don't know. I don't know what to do, it'd be so good if this progressed into something. But I just don't know.
What do you guys think?
Thanks :-)
 
Sounds like you're both really nervous. Maybe try just getting a coffee or something a little more informal to start, and leave the big organised dates till you guys are more comfortable

PS, I'm no relationship expert so I'm just trying to put myself in your shoes and saying what I'd do
 
^ Good advice. Find something that isn't a real "date" where you can be in the same place without the pressure and expense. Plus, I don't know much about how it works with guys, but could there be a problem of both of you wanting the other one to make the decisions?
 
Thanks for the advice guys!
Well, we're both really busy so it'd be hard to find a time, but I'll see what we can do.

EJ - Well, when he asked me out, he wanted me to chose the place and the day, he said he chooses all the time and he wanted me to do it this time, he likes spontaneous things too.
I dunno, maybe he's waiting for me? And being the guy I am, I'm waiting for him. Gah!
 
But we haven't talked about going out again, and I just don't know where I stand with him. Sometimes I'm certain he likes me, other times I just don't know. I don't know what to do, it'd be so good if this progressed into something. But I just don't know.
What do you guys think?

Welcome to JUB. Congrats on your first post.

In situations like this, it is best not to go in with any preconceptions. There are friends that you will have online. There are friends that you will have in real life. Sometimes you'll meet someone online and you'll want to make them a real life friend.

After the two of you have met and gotten to know each other in real life, you'll have a better idea of whether there's potential for more than just a friendship. But always keep in mind- boyfriends come and go, but friends stick around.
 
Thank you.

I know, but, I guess it's just because I like him and he did ask me out I started to think he liked me, before that, I just kept it as a whole friend thing you know?

Some great advice, thank you.
 
... he did ask me out I started to think he liked me, before that, I just kept it as a whole friend thing you know?

It's not clear whether he asked you out as a friend or as a date.

What is clear is that by making the effort to be at his show and support him in the audience, you sent the message, "I want you to be a real life friend".
 
Yeah it wasn't clear, he asked if I wanted to "hang out" over the holidays then it was his idea for a meal and a film, but to me, that sounds a bit like a date, doesn't it?

I promised him I'd go, I didn't want to break that.

Oh and something I totally forgot to mention, before he asked me out, he talked about how he wanted to go Lakeside (A shopping centre) and he told me how he didn't want to go alone and that if anyone wanted to go with him, they'd only need to ask, do you guy think that in any way that might have been directed at me?
 
Yes of course its directed at you. You both keep stop starting on who should make the next move. Be brave you're both interested in each other. So try and hang out with him as much as possible
 
You think so?
I'm just so unsure on all this!
I've always waited for everyone else to make the first move!
 
Oh and something I totally forgot to mention, before he asked me out, he talked about how he wanted to go Lakeside (A shopping centre) and he told me how he didn't want to go alone and that if anyone wanted to go with him, they'd only need to ask, do you guys think that in any way that might have been directed at me?

Hi Electricchapel,

Welcome to JUB and feel free to ask as much questions as you have. I fully underline the opinion that this was directed to you. Ofcourse, you only need to say something like 'So maybe I can join you at your next visit to Lakeside?' Getting / having a boyfriend / maintaining a friendship also needs some action (at least now and then).

But take your time, and try to spend time together in real time. Don't be too pushy. I would not bother too much what's a 'date' or not. You have a nice time with this gay guy, and that's the thing what's counting.

So how about your parents? How comes they "keep hoping I'll turn round and tell them I'm straight." Do you think (or hope) that they will soon 'turn around' and accept you as a gay?

Anyway, best wishes, and feel free to ask additional questions.

Take care

( panto :confused::confused: )
 
There are no rules about this. Lead with your heart, not your mind. You're going to find him in another relationship soon. Take the lead. It's either going to go somewhere or it won't, but, in the end, you'll know you tried. Good luck and welcome to the forum.
 
MOVE ON IT !!!
Do something before someone else does !
 
Thanks for all your kind words and advice guys, I'm so sorry I haven't replied, hoping you all had a brilliant new years eve!

I'm just... I dunno.
I'll keep talking, bring up the topic of relationships or something and see if that leads me to anything!
 
Awww ... Young nerves and butterflies (*8*) Treasure these moments you're going to miss them one day trust me. Bravery is believing in yourself, and that nobody can teach you. We're all scared of rejection and we're all scared of putting ourselves out there in a potentially hurtfull situation. But you have to ask yourself, is this something you really want if you believe it is then you owe it to yourself to ask him out. Like I said it doesn't have to be anything great, I can't be there is person to offer you support (just a tad far away :lol:), but I'll send you my best of luck. Now go get him tiger.
 
Gah I'm scared

hi Electricchapel,

First of all, happy 2012 and I hope this will become a good and a nice your for you. So you told us:
We talked about relationships, and he told me he wanted a boyfriend, I realized he was now single.

I would like to advise you to wish him a happy 2012, and right after that moment ask him if he still wants to have a boyfriend, and, in case he answers with 'yes', tell him that you are available & highly interested.

So why so scared? He man, you have spend hours and hours talking online, and you have met each other several time in real life. So please, please do something and tell him the things you would like to tell him.

Best wishes, and good luck.
 
Thank you Racer Dave, you're extremely kind!
I'm going to do my best, we were talking earlier, he text me (Since I know when he's going to text me and not now) this morning and we started talking and we eventually got onto the topic of me and him, but only how much me talk to each other;

Me - "I've never actually realised how much we talk!"
Him - "Really? It's a lot!"
Me - "Yeah it is, I probably talk to you more than antone else!"
Him - "Awwww :) haha I'm honoured"
Me - "Lmaoo you should be!
Him - ";) haha"

That's as much as I got, I sent him a wink back, and he went for a nap.

Ganoderma - Hello! Happy 2012 to you and everyone else on this forum too!
Right, well, we haven't actually met properly, we've only done mostly talking online, for hours and days.
Constantly. For example, if we walk past each other, we mug each other off, or we'd both do the same thing, the "raise my eyebrows and grin at you" face.
 
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