Overweight gay guys might as well be dead

[Nelson]

Just got home from the (Gay) beach. I loved swimming in the ocean and sitting on the beach and enjoyed the sun on my skin.

A couple I used to know from the gym walked past a few times - until they came to me and say hi. "We were not sure it was you"? Are you not going to the gym any more (I do! .... but do not live there 20 hours every week - more like 6) and of course it shows! Are you eating enough protein one of them asked with this worried look? I looked at my flat stomach - my six pack showing, in spite the fact I had gotten a little softer (Bodyfat percentage 11). I asked why? They told me I looked different and had gained a little fat - thats all. The guy asked why I did not wax my chest to get rid of those few chest hair it looked unsightly in his opinion.
Well they had to go - one gave me a hug and said it was good to see that I was not totally dead like the fatties over there. I looked at the men they referred to rolling their eyes - average nice guys and men - some with a little potbelly, but nice and wellgroomed. "What do you mean"? I asked - and one of the guys said "You know Overweight gay guys might as well be dead" - I don´t know why they even bother coming here"!!! Annoyed I told him to get lost. When I walked to my bike I wondered when I would be considered a goner ... I better start running longer, before I read my own obituary in the eyes of some gay men.

 

[Dolmance]

I'd rather be bloated to Jabba the Hutt proportions than pander to such preening, superficial imbeciles, quite frankly. I imagine the concept of the sexy mind would be lost on them.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>before I read my own obituary in the eyes of some gay men.

Look, a flat stomach is nice. Sixpack abs are great. But they're extremely, woefully inadequate. I've chatted with some guys with amazing bodies who I couldn't get away from fast enough. I need a fun personality. I need a good sense of humor. What am I gonna do - tell him to shut up all day while I stare at his abs?

I've probably been dead to these guys since the day I came out (and before). And thank God for that, because it means I don't have to listen to their petty bitchy attitudes, and I can talk to people who actually have something intelligent to contribute. And I can guarantee those "fat" guys were enjoying themselves - a lot more than Bitchie and Queenie.

Lex

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Yes yes...

 

[Blatino]

Guys like them do nothing but give us a bad name. We're not all like that...

 

[wastingmymind]

They don't fucking own the beach. If they don't like what they see, they can go back to their house and jerk off in front of their mirrors.

 

[rareboy]

^ What the Gargoyle wrote.

While I hate struggling with weight like everyone else, I have to say that almost all my favourite people have a few or more extra pounds on them.

While my fittest days might be behind me, I don't look back with much regret on not having those rockhard abs or heroin thin physique anymore.

 

[Blatino]

I agree with your beach friends. Fat People absolutely disgust me! And I loathe Gay Fats even more! I don't know why I feel this way - I just do..

Yes and Im pretty sure they feel the exact same way about gay black guys as well...

How can you loathe and be disgusted by someone or people you dont even know.

 

[wastingmymind]

^ No he won't. He will go to the gym six times a week, and that's what his empty life will revolve around. But in his reality, the youngs and the olds not sleeping with him because he would be well...old.

On that note, I will go shower and and go to my work.

 

[syoBsUtsuJ]

When I was attending university in San Diego, there was an insanely sexy hottie that used to frequent my coffee shop of choice, and I'd see him occasionally out at the bars. Mind you, I am usually quite the extrovert and am more than outgoing, but his stunning handsomeness intimidated me, and I couldn't think of a way to introduce myself.

I had a few early afternoon drinks with some classmates after a grueling exam and stopped at said coffee shop before going home. With having imbued some liquid courage, I finally approached ADONIS with some light-hearted banter and asked him to exchange phone numbers. Much to my admonishment, he replied, "sorry, but you're at least 50lbs. underweight, as I'm a chubby-chaser."

I saw him many times later, and most of the time he was indeed on the arm of someone that the general public would label as being obese.

 

[Blatino]

...why do they give us a bad name?

I will never get the logic of a few idiots with no power at all seemingly speaking for everyone in a group.

I will never understand people who can't read between the lines and realize the underlying meaning of what has been said.
Superficial bitches like those guys who automatically judge others when they know nothing about them other than the way they look, in my opinion, DO give us bad name. It can turn into just another sterotype that we're all superficial. So before you go around calling someone "an idot with no power at all seemingly speaking for everyone in a group" think before your speak. Im not trying to speak for anyone but I am allowed to give my opinion, dont get it twisted.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

They don't fucking own the beach. If they don't like what they see, they can go back to their house and jerk off in front of their mirrors.

They probably do.

 

[kayman23]

I agree with your beach friends. Fat People absolutely disgust me! And I loathe Gay Fats even more! I don't know why I feel this way - I just do..

Neo, is that so? I guess you wouldn't like me during the cooler months of the year because I usually range 180 lbs with a 5'10'' frame because I don't have as much time as I do during the spring and summer to be in the gym more than twice a week. I'm just a solidly-built guy naturally that just maintains an athletic body...

Let me tell you, I used to be a fat kid. However, it seems these days everybody has a "fat" period in their lives, so if you put on some weight don't be surprised if somebody with a shallow mindset disses you. Having an open mind will do you quite a bit of good.

 

[ibill1]

I agree with your beach friends. Fat People absolutely disgust me! And I loathe Gay Fats even more! I don't know why I feel this way - I just do..

I hope, as usual, you say these things to get a reaction from others. If not, I truly feel sorry for you. What a horrible exsistence to go through life feeling this way. I'm in my 50's, and not overweight, but if I had to go through life with this attitude at a young age, I think I would rather be dead!

 

[DBSKIsMine]

Much to my admonishment, he replied, "sorry, but you're at least 50lbs. underweight, as I'm a chubby-chaser."

I saw him many times later, and most of the time he was indeed on the arm of someone that the general public would label as being obese.

Yeah unfortunately this is more the exception than the rule. While chubby chasers may not be overweight, I've rarely met one I would refer to as an "adonis" either. In fact, many of them would be considered just as unattractive in the eyes of the men from the OP's post.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I agree with your beach friends. Fat People absolutely disgust me! And I loathe Gay Fats even more! I don't know why I feel this way - I just do..

Ah, I see. A member of the gay mafia.

Lex

 

[wastingmymind]

^ Noes. Elton John is the God...Mother? of the gay mafia and he'll have none of that abs-Nazi shit.

 

[undisclosed1234]

Just got home from the (Gay) beach. I loved swimming in the ocean and sitting on the beach and enjoyed the sun on my skin.

A couple I used to know from the gym walked past a few times - until they came to me and say hi. "We were not sure it was you"? Are you not going to the gym any more (I do! .... but do not live there 20 hours every week - more like 6) and of course it shows! Are you eating enough protein one of them asked with this worried look? I looked at my flat stomach - my six pack showing, in spite the fact I had gotten a little softer (Bodyfat percentage 11). I asked why? They told me I looked different and had gained a little fat - thats all. The guy asked why I did not wax my chest to get rid of those few chest hair it looked unsightly in his opinion.
Well they had to go - one gave me a hug and said it was good to see that I was not totally dead like the fatties over there. I looked at the men they referred to rolling their eyes - average nice guys and men - some with a little potbelly, but nice and wellgroomed. "What do you mean"? I asked - and one of the guys said "You know Overweight gay guys might as well be dead" - I don´t know why they even bother coming here"!!! Annoyed I told him to get lost. When I walked to my bike I wondered when I would be considered a goner ... I better start running longer, before I read my own obituary in the eyes of some gay men.

Stop hanging out with gay guys who are 14-year old girls inside.

I'm not into fat people, male or female, but that's just ridiculous as sports and health are extremely important to me. They can do whatever they want, anywhere they want.

Personality wise they're usually leaps over guys who's prime topic of conversation is their routine split.

 

[undisclosed1234]

I agree with your beach friends. Fat People absolutely disgust me! And I loathe Gay Fats even more! I don't know why I feel this way - I just do..

Reading this, it bums me out that people out there would lump us together just because we're both gay.

 

[Lawnmowerman]

While I probably wouldn't be considered overweight, I have a slight gut on me, and as I don't work out, I certainly will never be considered an adonis either. Throw in some excess body hair, and I'm far from the perceived ideal in the media's eyes of a gay man (or the bitchy queens as well).

Yet I'll bet there's someone out there who will find my body attractive, and better yet will probably enjoy my sense of humor and other qualities. As long as I find someone like that, then we'll both be happy, overweight, and hairy together.

And yes, eventually, we'll die.


It really IS a shame that people think that way, and even worse that they live their life believing they're correct. They can be judgemental and bitchy. I'll be out enjoying myself .