Personal Goals for Next Summer

[Zildjian]

In a quest to be aesthetically pleasing, I have some personal goals of mine that I'm setting for Summer 2008:

I have a pretty toned body, but at [5'7", 140 lbs], I'd like to set the bar higher with a much more toned body. This includes getting some significant abs, building my pecs, and arms. I don't wear shorts outside of the house, so building my upper body will be the focus.

My teenage acne is pretty much over at 22 years of age, but I'd like to set the bar higher with even more smoothness and even skin tone. I'd like to lighten a couple of darker spots on my face [they are not really visible]. And I need to take care of those hideous spots on my backside.

I might get one of those cool Japanese-looking tatoos if I can get some nice looking arms. One on each.

I'm completely overthrowing my wardrobe and investing in the likes of AE, Hollister, etc. I want to shoot for the tight shirt, low rise jeans look to complement my new built, toned body.

Piercing - maybe. I have mixed feelings about it. Plus it would freak my family out.

Oh yeah, I have an 'outtie' so I'll get a doctor to take care of this with light cosmetic surgery.
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Any comments and/or further input is greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

 

[kevbo]

Good for you (seriously)

The only thing I'd advise against is the cosmetic surgery for your belly button. Are outies really that displeasing?

 

[Zildjian]

Good for you (seriously)

The only thing I'd advise against is the cosmetic surgery for your belly button. Are outies really that displeasing?

It is for me (lol). It me feel like a weirdo especially when I look at pics of hot guys.

Who knows, it may alter when I work on my abs.

 

[kevbo]

Since outies are in the minority, I say embrace it. It makes you unique

And having 'perfect' skin, body, clothes, etc, I think you need something that shows some uniqueness

 

[rareboy]

I'd also focus on improving my intellectual and spiritual existence at the same time.

Otherwise, you'll just have a new chassis but the same old untuned engine.

 

[CanadianGuy]

It is always good to want to get in shape but I agree with the other posters. You really don't need surgury to 'fix' an outtie. Who really cares?

 

[Zildjian]

You really don't need surgury to 'fix' an outtie. Who really cares?

If you guys say so. I've just never personally really liked it.

 

[G-Lexington]

If you really feel that these things will make you a happier individual, then more power to you.

Lex

 

[Zildjian]

If you really feel that these things will make you a happier individual, then more power to you.

Lex

Well, going to the gym will be a great confidence as well as physically building experience. And I may meet someone...

Apparently you don't think so, right?

 

[G-Lexington]

If you're looking for a confidence boost but already have a toned body, I really don't see going to the gym being the best solution. It's like a college graduate feeling he'd have more confidence if he took more classes, y'know?

If you actually DO want to be more muscular, to have these tattoos on your arms, to poke your outie into an innie, then yes - by all means, do so. But if you're doing them simply because you think that'll make you more confident, there are better ways.

Lex

 

[Zildjian]

If you're looking for a confidence boost but already have a toned body, I really don't see going to the gym being the best solution. It's like a college graduate feeling he'd have more confidence if he took more classes, y'know?

Well, what I should have said is that I want a 'ripped' body. Yes, I am toned - meaning I have very little body fat and somewhat of a definition, but I'm still 'scrawny' and I feel out of shape.

I was advised sometime ago to start working out regularly - it's great for building self-confidence, physical fitness, and it has social benefits [which I could really use now that I'm single and living at home with 'Dad'].

If you actually DO want to be more muscular, to have these tattoos on your arms, to poke your outie into an innie, then yes - by all means, do so. But if you're doing them simply because you think that'll make you more confident, there are better ways.

I thought about the tattoos and piercings - I probably won't do them since I am too chicken because of the major pain associated with getting them.

I just to feel confident and not be ashamed of my looks. I want other guys to be attracted to me. Is that too much to ask, G?

 

[jai_se7en]

or you could go donate all that money you're spending on this new, typical "look" to a charity.

and/or volunteer.

does wonders; believe me.

 

[strataboy19]

They're great goals if you ask me. As for the confidence though, I don't know if you need to be so ripped, toned and polished just for a confidence boost. Before you head off for the gym, mall & cosmetic surgeon, make sure you try to get comfortable with who you are and your flaws...we all have them.

And please keep the outie. Outies are rare and believe it or not many people find them sexy.

 

[backpacker]

They all sound like good things to do, with the exception of the tattoo. Getting is better shape is good for your health. I wouldn't skip working on the legs. Remember working you legs will give you a better ass, plus you may want to go to the beach sometime.

Just remember, remaking the outside isn't going to change who you are on the inside. If you have insecurities, an exterior remake probably isn't going to change that. I have met many guys with a ripped body who are insecure.

 

[Dejajb]

good luck and hope you can accomplish all of them!

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I just to feel confident and not be ashamed of my looks. I want other guys to be attracted to me. Is that too much to ask, G?

No, not at all. But perhaps you've noticed that it isn't just the hot ripped guys who have guys attracted to them. I've certainly never been anywhere CLOSE to ripped, and I've had guys attracted to me.

>>>it has social benefits [which I could really use now that I'm single and living at home with 'Dad'.]

This, methinks, is something that would be more worth you working on.

Lex

 

[boy0boy]

Good for you. Goals are important.

good luck

 

[Zildjian]

They all sound like good things to do, with the exception of the tattoo. Getting is better shape is good for your health. I wouldn't skip working on the legs. Remember working you legs will give you a better ass, plus you may want to go to the beach sometime.

Yeah, I'll be working on those legs of mine. I want a hot ass...lol.

Seriously, I'm doing it for health and to give myself a positive regular activity to partake of. And I'd really like to show my bod off at the beach or something.

 

[Zildjian]

No, not at all. But perhaps you've noticed that it isn't just the hot ripped guys who have guys attracted to them. I've certainly never been anywhere CLOSE to ripped, and I've had guys attracted to me.

Y'know, I've wondered about this. I've wondered why I felt guys were not attracted to me. It wasn't because I'm was not attractive, but I really don't go out - so no one sees me. You can't be attracted to something or someone you don't see, right?

So this is the reason for wanting to improve on my looks. I can then post my improved body and new clothing on dating sites and get some prospects!

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>So this is the reason for wanting to improve on my looks. I can then post my improved body and new clothing on dating sites and get some prospects!

Who's to say if you posted yourself on dating sites NOW, you wouldn't get prospects? In fact, I can guarantee you WOULD have some. And what will you say to these prospects when they show interest - either now or later?

And yes, being hotter will get you noticed more. But that won't necessarily get you hit on more. The guys who get hit on the most tend to not be the hotties, necessarily, but those that seem to be approachable. The friendly comfortable ones. And while your new body might make you hotter, and perhaps even make you more self-confident, it may not make you more approachable, if you understand.

I really don't want to dissuade you from doing any or all of the things you list. If you want to go work out, then do so! I've started working out a bit each day - 30 minutes - but not to lose weight (not that I'd mind) or to "get me a man" (already got one). I do it just because it makes me me feel more energetic each day. I like the feeling, that's all.

I just don't want you to think that "current me = not a chance" and "potential future me = extremely popular". There's nothing wrong with you, per se, and it's certainly not as if you fix what you percieve as your problem areas, that everything will be sunshine, lollipops and rainbows. People who go through life feeling that "if only Problem X will be solved, then everything will be wonderful" quite often run into some major disappointment along the way.

>>>Y'know, I've wondered about this. I've wondered why I felt guys were not attracted to me.

Who's to say they're not? Because a guy doesn't follow you home every night to climb into your bed? If you're not being proactive about things - if you're not getting out there, not making an effort to meet new people, not going up to people and being the first one to say "hello" - it's doubtful that guys will flock to you in any event.

If you post the "new you" on a dating site, you WILL get responses. But that will be less due to your new body (although that might help) and more due to the sheer fact that you posted a profile on a dating site! You made the first move! Guys hate doing that. In bars, they wait for guys to approach them...and so there ends up being a bunch of guys sitting around looking nervous. The one guy who gets up and starts introducing himself? He's the one who's almost certain to hook up. Maybe not with the first guy he meets, but with somebody. And he doesn't have to be a hottie to do it.

Lex