Pictures in underwear drawer...

[Kyanimal]

The OP's honesty is one thing that most people lack these days; the fact that there's admittance of guilt on his side shows how sensitive he is when it comes to violating other people's personal space. He never denied the fact that he did something wrong--he actually was too hard on himself when most people could simply just pass the blame on the other person for not being "too private" with their possessions.

SB, you're a great guy because you're willing to admit your shortcomings, and you always know what to do to avoid making mistakes again. People here can say whatever bad things about you, but just remember that you're a great person inside and out, and don't let anyone negatively affect your postive attitude in life.

BINGO!!!

Keep smilin'!! And ... WELCOME to JUB, resilientme!
Chaz

 

[StlKj]

The OP's honesty is one thing that most people lack these days; the fact that there's admittance of guilt on his side shows how sensitive he is when it comes to violating other people's personal space. He never denied the fact that he did something wrong--he actually was too hard on himself when most people could simply just pass the blame on the other person for not being "too private" with their possessions.

SB, you're a great guy because you're willing to admit your shortcomings, and you always know what to do to avoid making mistakes again. People here can say whatever bad things about you, but just remember that you're a great person inside and out, and don't let anyone negatively affect your postive attitude in life.

No one here said he isn't a great guy, nor attacked him. They pointed out the wrongness of his actions. And in case you missed SB's post a few steps back, he DID make the same mistake again. He may not have jerked off this time, but he went back and looked again, even after he knew his friend was a little freaked about him just having his underwear.

Good people do "bad" things all the time. SB should not beat himself up to the point of making himself sick over this, but at the same time, he needs to feel the weight of his actions, and ask himself why he couldn't resist doing what he now knows his friend probably wouldn't appreciate.

 

[StlKj]

I disagree; there are "know-it-all" people here who are fond of making others feel inferior for their own personal agenda. I've seen many members here cancel their memberships because instead of getting the help they needed, they were made to feel so unwelcomed and were humiliated by the trolls who lurk around waiting for their next prey.

Going back to SB's situation, only he would know what his true intention is when he looked again to see if the pictures were still there. I probably would have done the same thing knowing that I've done something to violate the privacy of my friend; guilt imprisons us until after we get certain clues that we've been forgiven whether directly or indirectly. SB must have felt a sense of relief knowing that his friend trust him enough to keep those pictures in the same drawer. He's man enough to admit that he might have committed another mistake, but the truth is that he was simply motivated by his guilt to correct what most people think is a wrongdoing.

Wrong. You're enabling and defending the behavior, just as another poster was. He didn't look again to correct anything. He said himself that he did it out of curiosity. He knew it was wrong, but he was curious, so he looked. Hell, many people would have--that does NOT make it okay.

And trolls attacking is not what is happening here, so there's no need to bring that into it. No one is attacking him. He brought this here to discuss the behavior, and people are discussing the behavior. He's a big boy, and he deserves more credit than you give him by treating him like some pretty thing that can do no real wrong. He's a horny man, and when he's trying to own his actions and admit wrong doing, he should be reinforced that it was wrong.

 

[JarodA]

Hey James, are we to brace ourselves for another epic thread?

 

[KaraBulut]

I disagree; there are "know-it-all" people here who are fond of making others feel inferior for their own personal agenda. I've seen many members here cancel their memberships because instead of getting the help they needed, they were made to feel so unwelcomed and were humiliated by the trolls who lurk around waiting for their next prey.

Interesting observation for a member who joined on 21-Aug-2009 and has 2 posts.

Just a reminder that in the no-flame zone, the primary purpose is to provide advice to the OP. If you disagree with the advice that is given, then you can argue the opposing view. But under no circumstances is it acceptable to make a personal attack against another member- even under the guise of commentary on "what you've seen".

Back on topic, please.

 

[Timmy11]

Whenever i do something like this, and if ur anything like me it plays on my mind to no end, i always find that being honest is really the only way that i can forget about it.

You seem to be the honest type, so why dont u just tell him u saw them and that ur sorry u invaded his privacy and it wont happen again. Also you could maybe suggest he puts the pics somewhere else so it doesnt accidentally happen again.

just my two cents!

 

[NW007]

Welcum back!!!

How about resolving this issue, by inviting the roommate and his gilfriend over and take pictures of all three of you having sex !!!

Just kidding, but 3 ways can be fun

 

[rareboy]

Oh shucks, Resilient.

We barely got to know you in this incarnation.

Oh well, we'll just wait till the next time you bounce back...

Hey James, are we to brace ourselves for another epic thread?

I'm not sure how much mileage snooping in someone's drawers has. It won't pick up again until the roommate leaves pics of himself jerking off (without the girlfriend) lying around waiting to be 'found'.

 

[Kyanimal]

I'm not sure how much mileage snooping in someone's drawers has. It won't pick up again until the roommate leaves pics of himself jerking off (without the girlfriend) lying around waiting to be 'found'.

Unless of course Superboy swaps the naked pics in the frames with his own jerking off photos as to amp the situation up.

That's gotta be good for a least 5 or 6 pages of replies, no?

O.K. I was going to be quiet, but I'll bite, anyway.

Care to spell out what is trying to be insinuated here?

Sb83's motivations, for posting, can't be being brought into skeptical question, can they??

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[KaraBulut]

I'm not sure how much mileage snooping in someone's drawers has. It won't pick up again until the roommate leaves pics of himself jerking off (without the girlfriend) lying around waiting to be 'found'.

Oh, rareone. You're so naive and old-fashioned. It's all about video files these days. It's just a matter of time before the roommates leaves mp4 files in flagrante delicto.

 

[mydrew1]

Lol, you could be really bold and ask him out anyway. He might indulge you