Private Messaging

[Lefty]

Sometimes comments warrant acknowledgement, some times if the sender had wanted an ack he/she would have sent a p/m.

p/m is a more formal and theoretically Private (From all incl mgmt). Some are one way...like thank you notes and the conversation is complete albeit one way. Most are posers and warrant a response.

Sadly there are some from poseurs (not to be confused with the posers above) and are to be deleted, discarded buried or thrown out with the trash that they are.

Simple EH?

 

[wareagleboy]

I've never not responded, yet.

 

[codeerror]

About the only pm's I haven't responded to are the ones from random users with single-digit posts, wanting nude pics.

Other than that, if you pm me, I'll respond. It may not go past that single pm from either of us, but I won't ignore it.

I'm like that too. I'm happy to respond to pm's that are well thought out and friendly. Mr.1post sending me "Send nude pics to my e-mail"? Flattering, but nah.

I don't own a webcam, i don't want a webcam, i don't want to see you jerk off on your cam.

F***, there goes next friday night.

 

[Lukeee]

I don't get many but I try to respond to the few I do get. Sometimes I forget about them though. I don't often reply to comments. I like reading them but not all of them need a response.

 

[frankfrank]

I respond to MOST of my PMs. If I responded to all of them, and they responded back, we'd be stuck in an endless loop.

I don't respond if the PM is a quick sort of "thanks" or "good job" sort of PM. I'll sometimes write back "you're welcome" or "thanks", but it hardly seems worth it. If there's something to chat about in addition to that, I'll write back, though.

Lex

I'm the type of guy who ALWAYS responds to PMs and e-mails if i'm having a conversation with someone, or they want to ask me something.

^ As they said.

Not all PM's, though, imply that the conversation is continuing, and invariably answering every PM could indeed cause an endless loop. I have to know how to tell the difference.

I don't respond to PM's asking for my email unless you're an established friend or person on the forum.

i do respond to most PMs.

Sometimes I'll ask for an email if the conversastion happens while I'm traveling and perhaps hoping to meet somebody for coffee or talk, and there's some timeliness to getting a reply. When I'm on the road, there's never a guarantee I'll have access to JUB because libraries, etc. often have "porno" sites blocked, and I may have no way to reply or acknowledge. It's also becoming more and more difficult to find what I call unsecured (no password) "WiFi-in-the-wild" which allows my laptop unfettered internet access, so that's not always an option for quick JUB-based communications either. My settings allow me to see the reply in my email, but I can reply only via JUB, and that's what might be blocked. (So, on Sunday afternoon, I might not be able to tell somebody I'll meet them at Harold's Bar and Grill at 5:30 PM Monday.) I've never found an internet connection which blocked me from my email. I don't feel ready or committed enough to spring for the über-expensive iPhone (or its ilk) and its $1,000-per-year fees yet.

Instead of PM's, I will mostly post comments instead.

I can understand BrioHazard's point though - I can think of four occasions right now, where I've asked different JUBbers a question by leaving a comment, and have never gotten a response.

I can understand that. If my response is something extremely casual and something not requiring or expecting a reply, I may leave a PM. Of course it also has to be something not at all complex, because Comments are, by their nature, almost always under 100 characters. However, anytime I want to say something complex, or any kind of reply is hoped for, I'll invariably use PM. I will always assume that the Comment may never be seen, because checking them is a pro-active activity - the JUB software isn't set up to tell us we have a new comment. There are some JUBbers who don't even know that the Comments exist.

 

[BeMused]

I almost always respond to them. I don't get a whole lot though, so it's not much of an issue.

 

[Lefty]

I don't know how true it is but

I have heard

that to get,

you have to give.

My gosh, interesting concept that.

 

[PerpetuallyHard312]

I always respond to PMs. I love chatting with new people. Most of the time I'm the one initiating conversation and most of the people I msg are nice enough to respond....but you can't expect everyone to respond and you get over it pretty quickly.

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

Can't imagine the need for PM's

of all the responses here, this is the most perplexing (to me!)
I don't get why peeps would wanna come to a forum like this, write opinions, respond to issues people have, etc., and then NOT feel there is a need to actually communicate with someone directly. Why is that? is it because it make it personal? and some people don't want to actually "know" anything about anyone.
It's like a guy I know - I left him a voice message ---yes--on his phone-- and he claims he doesn't get them - if they're voice mail - - he really doesn't want to TALK to me - only leave TEXT messages - and he knows I don't text. (anybody, ever) .

Is it tha PM's link two people too closely? to close to what? I've talked to people for over a year who won't even tell me their first name !!

good grief.

any way - - YES - I ALWAYS ALWAYS respond to PM'S -- especially when it's to aplogize for some misconstrued comment.. I write them to show appreciation, ageement for points of view, dissention as well - and i relish every reply.

Every time I sign on - I can't wait to see if I have any new PM's - some of the JUBBERS i talk to do not have IM -- OR not one that's compatible with mine - so it's the only way we can talk at the moment.
and i get all depressed when i sign on and there are NOT new PM'S --

i also know someone - who is very nice -and flat out told me - i don't (hardly ever) respond to PM's - so i repsect that - I'd love to say hi to him more often, and find out more about him - but it ain't gonna happen -- so Im okay with that. If i do have a reason to say - hey -- I do it - without being pesky - and pretty much know that he ain't gonna respond. **heavy sigh**

but on the whole - -I respond to all - and 99% of the people I PM for whatever reason reply back - and nude pics ain't got nuthin to do with any of it !!

Speaking of pics - ELVIN ??? how long is a guy supposed to wait - -i mean seriously ?
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[G-Lexington]

>>>I don't respond if the PM is a quick sort of "thanks" or "good job" sort of PM. I'll sometimes write back "you're welcome" or "thanks", but it hardly seems worth it.

I in fact got a fairly nice "thanks - your post made me laugh" PM today...and didn't respond. "You're welcome" doesn't seem right.

>>>There are some I haven't opened yet and I do apologize.

THIS one I don't get. I mean, I sometimes don't RESPOND right away, but I ALWAYS open them right away. Even when it's something I'm not looking forward to, or I can tell immediately it's a negative/pissy PM. I've never let one sit in the in-box waiting to be read. Maybe I'm too curious.

Lex

 

[Críostóir]

I generally respond to PMs, unless at the end of a long chain (SOMEone has to stop, after all). But this juxtaposition struck me:

i think it's proper to respond to a person who has taken the time to write a PM to a person. I always respond. I don't always respond to comments, especially when they come from nasty, arrogant know it all forum members. i say funk them.....

Instead of PM's, I will mostly post comments instead.

I can understand BrioHazard's point though - I can think of four occasions right now, where I've asked different JUBbers a question by leaving a comment, and have never gotten a response.

I sometimes respond to comments, but they're a very low priority and I feel free not to. One reason for this: commenting is easy for you, but for me to respond I have to create a new PM and paste in your name. With an actual PM I can hit Reply to respond to you.

This is a small difference in practical terms, but huge in terms of courtesy. By sending a comment and expecting a reply, you're saying that your time is more important than mine; by sending a PM you're saying the opposite.

I comment only when I don't care if the person replies or not. Don't assume I'll reply to comments. Generally I will, to a PM, because you've gone to the trouble of sending one.

 

[alley]

I'll get around to it...eventually.

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

I'll get around to it...eventually.

That's NOT what you said last nite !

 

[alley]

That's NOT what you said last nite !

I DID NOT!!!



Pretty sure my mouth was full for a good portion of the evening...it was the last night of our vacation...

 

[omminc]

If it's worth replying too, I'll reply. Then, I leave it up to the recipient to pm back... Though, I do hate waiting if I am expecting one back, but, normally I don't worry about it. :/

Side note, I normally write weird things... Like I'll just start wondering off subject. XD So if you pm me and that happens, just take it with a grain of salt.

 

[Darkflower]

One more thing...Sometimes I feel like I am intruding or just don't know when to stop when I am replying. I feel like I am tagging people and if they don't reply back, I feel like an ass. i don't know when it's time to stop. Is there a way to stop a convo so that no ones feels weird?

If you ever find out the answer to this, please let me know!

 

[blackbeltninja]

^Once it winds down, you end off with something like "Oh well, that was cool. See you around on the forums."

And a few smileys so the recipient doesn't feel cold-shouldered.

Like I'll just start wondering off subject. XD So if you pm me and that happens, just take it with a grain of salt.

I'm also very good at this .

-d-

 

[Lefty]

Blackie and Ommie,
I could give lessons to you both on how to drift off course...course you mean like the back nine at pebble beach..

no, no not the nude beach til I'VE LOST TEN MORE ways to leave your lover...oh yeah coarse. black pepper is always best when ground like like a like a virgin and lady gag is the new madonna of course.

 

[rareboy]

I always do.

 

[Elwood]

That reminds me I have a PM to reply to from last week . I always reply to a PM's I am usually pretty prompt at replying but it has been a busy week. No one ever ask for my naked pictures AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA..........