Queerty article: Bisexual and down low men talk gay sex sad about hurting female partners

[luckynumbah7]

"Nobody talks about this why? If a woman says she is bisexual nobody cares."

And that myth needs to die a sudden and inexplicable death. They care immensely, particularly straight men. There's a difference between 'exhibitionism at straight man's command' and actually being bisexual. And if you'd like to argue that point you're going to need to do a hell of a lot more research than the 0% you've obviously done.

 

[Elwood]

Well I read this story and I call bullshit!!! Been there, done that, have the t-shirt!! But you know what, in the end I did what was right, I got divorced moved out and came out of the closet!! And ya know what, I did not loose one friend, I have a good relationship with my ex and my kids and I feel much better about myself.

The guys in the story maybe bisexual, but what the really are, are cheaters using bisexuality as an excuse!! And that gives all bisexuals a bad name!!

 

[LeicsDom]

The men in this article stress they are not gay and do not want romantic relationships with other men. They just want to have sex with other guys.

I think that an awful lot of the time these are just selfish guys (and is usually guys) who want more sex
If they want to play the field (and there is no reason why they shouldn't) then they should not be in relationships

 

[LeicsDom]

lots of women also blame their men for their infidelity. Still a breach of ethics no matter which way you slice it. It sounds no better blaming it on bisexuality.

Indeed.
If you aren't getting what you want/need from a relationship, then get out of it. Don't bitch and whine and sleep around

 

[Telstra]

Just read a very sad article on queerty about bisexual and down low men who have sex with men. If only society was more open minded that these down low and bisexual guys would not have to feel the need to hide their sexual desires. The men in this article stress they are not gay and do not want romantic relationships with other men. They just want to have sex with other guys. I wish these kinds of articles got more mainstream attention or were on CNN or something. This is fascinating stuff to read these stories of how these men view their sexuality. I admit, I have in the past had sex with married men or guys who have girlfriends. Just wondering if other gay men have done the same thing? I don't actively seek married men but if I have a hook up I am bound to meet one of these type of guys. Here is the link to the article: http://www.queerty.com/on-the-dl-st...-sexual-relationships-with-other-men-20160319

I have met a lot of guys who have kids .... and into man on man sex
No surprise really. Maybe bi sexuals should come out more and proud of it.

 

[jbrown329]

Oh yeah, not gay or bi. Found on my local Craigslist.

Sraight Slut - m4m
I am 5' 7 155 lbs brown hair hazel eyes straight...............I'll suck your cock and then get on all fours

 

[peeonme]

I think that most women have a suspicion when their husband is cheating, their first clue is that they aren't putting out for their husbands.
I can't tell you how many guys I have known that don't hide the fact that they get no sex at home, it is far more common than people think.
It's treated as a common joke, "what kills a woman's sex drive?...wedding cake." Most guys could rationalize and justify in their minds if they got some on the side.

After a few years of marriage sex in many marriages is a once a week event... if the guy is lucky. Then after 10 or 15 years maybe once a month, I quit trying to get some back in the '90's. I found it easier to just j/o. There is no worse feeling than to be turned down.

None of what I have said really justifies a guy getting sex from another person, be it a guy or a woman, it just explains it.

What I don't understand is how a cheater lives with it, life is complex enough as it is.

 

[Telstra]

I think that most women have a suspicion when their husband is cheating, their first clue is that they aren't putting out for their husbands.
I can't tell you how many guys I have known that don't hide the fact that they get no sex at home, it is far more common than people think.
It's treated as a common joke, "what kills a woman's sex drive?...wedding cake." Most guys could rationalize and justify in their minds if they got some on the side.

After a few years of marriage sex in many marriages is a once a week event... if the guy is lucky. Then after 10 or 15 years maybe once a month, I quit trying to get some back in the '90's. I found it easier to just j/o. There is no worse feeling than to be turned down.

None of what I have said really justifies a guy getting sex from another person, be it a guy or a woman, it just explains it.

What I don't understand is how a cheater lives with it, life is complex enough as it is.

Its like homosexuals in the closets really.
They hide and hide long enough until getting a divorce ....

 

[nycguydowntown]

Oh yeah, not gay or bi. Found on my local Craigslist.

Sraight Slut - m4m
I am 5' 7 155 lbs brown hair hazel eyes straight...............I'll suck your cock and then get on all fours

Lol--yeah these are all over CL all the time---what makes them straight is they don't kiss.

 

[refujiunderground]

Why mess with guys like that though if you're not willing to accept their situations and their demons? I think people need to stop being judgmental to those in the closet especially if you yourself have been there at some point. I hate when I see openly gay men talking shit about those who haven't gotten to that place yet. They forget the struggle once they come out, they have a safety net and etc then they think others can suddenly change their situations overnight in.a snap of a finger when it takes time. You can be proud and secure with yourself without dissing the less fortunate or someone who is struggling with issues especially if someone is making an active effort. It's not all about you. I cringe when I hear... "come out the closet for me". It's not about you. The narcissism that some gay guys have where they turn situations that don't involve them into it being mainly about them. Shit is lame. If you are not gonna be supportive or help someone or be respectful at least then stfu. Half of these dudes don't realize that they are a part of the problem because they are on some "I'll catch you when you fall if you come out for me" but chances are they'll dip on your ass and won't accept you for who you are like a homophobe would for whatevet reason. A closeted guy who wants to come out doesn't.need someone like that in their circle.

 

[kallipolis]

I think people need to stop being judgmental to those in the closet especially if you yourself have been there at some point. I hate when I see openly gay men talking shit about those who haven't gotten to that place yet. They forget the struggle once they come out, they have a safety net and etc then they think others can suddenly change their situations overnight in.a snap of a finger when it takes time. You can be proud and secure with yourself without dissing the less fortunate or someone who is struggling with issues especially if someone is making an active effort.

Well noted, for your words speak volumes on the need of the out brigade to be patient, and understanding.

 

[refujiunderground]

Well noted, for your words speak volumes on the need of the out brigade to be patient, and understanding.

Thank you. As much as people say that coming out is easy nowadays. It's usually the people who are out already and haven't been in the closet for like years
Saying that shit.. It's a distant memory to them. Them and straight people. Coming out is not easy at least for me. It's not. Even living out as a gay man is tough especially when there's a lot of pressure to conform to the norms of gay society where your self confidence,beliefs, and etc are tested. Other gay guys expecting you to be a certain way when you're not such as a slut It's like you gotta build a strong mind without becoming narcissistic and being willing to allow yourself to be humble, go through shit and etc to become a better person or be happy with yourself. Coming out of the closet without a strong mind is not good.

 

[jbrown329]

Thank you. As much as people say that coming out is easy nowadays. It's usually the people who are out already and haven't been in the closet for like years
Saying that shit.. It's a distant memory to them. Them and straight people. Coming out is not easy at least for me. It's not. Even living out as a gay man is tough especially when there's a lot of pressure to conform to the norms of gay society where your self confidence,beliefs, and etc are tested. Other gay guys expecting you to be a certain way when you're not such as a slut It's like you gotta build a strong mind without becoming narcissistic and being willing to allow yourself to be humble, go through shit and etc to become a better person or be happy with yourself. Coming out of the closet without a strong mind is not good.

Fuck society. I am what I am.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Oh yeah, not gay or bi. Found on my local Craigslist.

Sraight Slut - m4m
I am 5' 7 155 lbs brown hair hazel eyes straight...............I'll suck your cock and then get on all fours

Possibly the straightest thing I ever read.

 

[jbrown329]

Possibly the straightest thing I ever read.

Yeah, the straightest denial.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

It's a bit much to assert that every man who dislikes femmes or prefers masculinity is insecure. That simply isn't true.

Eh. Not being attracted to femme guys are one thing. The man who has to announce "NO FEMS!!" instead of simply listing that he'd like a masculine guy, the man who has to insist that he is "masc" in his profile instead of allowing his masculinity to speak for itself, is definitely insecure.

It's funny to say the least. I don't come across as feminine to most gay men I encounter, so a lot of these insecure "masc 4 masc" types tend to be into me, but their insecurity, attempted hyper masculinity, and internalized misogyny couldn't be bigger of a turnoff.

 

[alphacentauri]

I'm bisexual and have been out for decades, and I'm not closeted, on the DL, etc.

I know a lot of gay men who instead of divorcing their male husband/partner or sitting down and actually communicating and saying how they want an open marriage or want to try an open relationship go out and cheat and lie to someone who they supposedly love and care about.

 

[eastofeden]

If you are not gonna be supportive or help someone or be respectful at least then stfu. .

Agreed...which is why I never even listen to anyone who has coming out angst..and I have nothing at all to offer them. The second someone would drone on about it I directed them to the other bartender...it just isn't my thing.

To be fair..I listen to and help people with alot more interesting problems that other people won't even touch.

I TRULY don't give a fuck what anyone else thinks about my sexuality..and to take it even further.. I find alot of freedom when certain people don't accept me....because I don't want them to. Their "acceptance" BARF comes with a huge price tag. If I want to be sterilized and homogenized...I will do it myself.

Also..I sometimes wish a few of these people would stay in the closet anyway because when they come out they decide to speak on behalf of everyone else.....forgetting we are individuals...

 

[Biggijstar]

I don't believe in men being bisexual unless he romantic and sexually attracted to both. Majority of bi men are married men who has dead bedrooms and porn addiction. Once you get rid of these you'll see if they truly bisexual

 

[rareboy]

mmmmkay.