Questions for bisexuals....

[ChickenGuy]

....which have probably been asked before on here somewhere, so just humour me.



Would you say your gender attraction is 50/50 down the line, or is it more like 60/40 or 75/25? Has it varied over time since you were in school, say, and does it vary slightly depending on the season, or perhaps on your mood? Has your attraction to either gender ever wavered or disappeared?

Do you watch as much straight porn as you do gay porn? Do you find a difference between what you are sexually attracted to vs what you are emotionally attracted to, in other words, are you more likely to have sex with one gender but more likely to fall in love with the other?

Did you always realise you were bisexual, or did you once think you were either gay or straight? Do you find people's reactions to be negative, even more so than if you were gay?

Was there more pressure on you from your community/religion/family/society to deny your homosexual side because you already found women attractive? Is it more common or less common for bisexuals to be 'out' to everyone?

Is bisexuality more common in women than in men? Is it perhaps easier for women to admit to than men? If so, do you think that far more straight men are bisexual than they let on?

That's about it.

This is a LOT more questions than I was intending to ask, lol, but most occurred to me as I was typing.

And thanks in advance to those who take the time to respond. Much appreciated.

 

[Logic3]

Probably more toward women (70-ish)
Hasn't really varied ever other then when I see someone really attractive. See someone hot and it gets my motor going.

I don't watch that much porn, sex is great with both genders but there is no emotional attatchment to men.

I was always confused because I never realised it was alright to be attracted to both women and men. Once acceptted I could sleep with whoever the fun times havn't stopped.

I'm not overlly religious and I live in a pretty liberal country. Its not like official but i think people know i get around. When I seeked advice online there were plenty of people saying "bury the gay" ect.
But who takes advice off the internet seriously?

I wouldn't know if its more common in women or men. I think it is alot easier for a woman to be gay or bisexual. I think the majority of people would have sex with somone of the same gender and of the opposite they just need the right person.

 

[Tadaa]

Yeah, how do you bisexuals do it. All the choices

 

[Piquechampion]

....which have probably been asked before on here somewhere, so just humour me.



Would you say your gender attraction is 50/50 down the line, or is it more like 60/40 or 75/25? Has it varied over time since you were in school, say, and does it vary slightly depending on the season, or perhaps on your mood? Has your attraction to either gender ever wavered or disappeared?

Do you watch as much straight porn as you do gay porn? Do you find a difference between what you are sexually attracted to vs what you are emotionally attracted to, in other words, are you more likely to have sex with one gender but more likely to fall in love with the other?

Did you always realise you were bisexual, or did you once think you were either gay or straight? Do you find people's reactions to be negative, even more so than if you were gay?

Was there more pressure on you from your community/religion/family/society to deny your homosexual side because you already found women attractive? Is it more common or less common for bisexuals to be 'out' to everyone?

Is bisexuality more common in women than in men? Is it perhaps easier for women to admit to than men? If so, do you think that far more straight men are bisexual than they let on?

That's about it.

This is a LOT more questions than I was intending to ask, lol, but most occurred to me as I was typing.

And thanks in advance to those who take the time to respond. Much appreciated.

I wonder why they always seem cheat thier wives/gfs with men

Also, I bet they do watch more gay porn than straight.

PS: Just ask Rekers and Haggard

 

[azzficker]

I've never quite understood how bisexuality works, either. I'm curious at to the answers.

 

[CumAlong]

Would you say your gender attraction is 50/50 down the line, or is it more like 60/40 or 75/25? Has it varied over time since you were in school, say, and does it vary slightly depending on the season, or perhaps on your mood? Has your attraction to either gender ever wavered or disappeared?

I have slowly gained more and more attraction towards guys. I'm not sure if it is because I have had women, and they fail at pleasing me now, and I want to try what I have not had yet, or if I am slowly going to the 'dark side' and becoming gay (jk) ANYWAYS! I am bi, and I would say right now, its about 70% gay, 30% straight(based on how many guys and girls I notice as sexy). A lot of dudes are really hot to me, and there are many times I turn my head to follow a damn good looking chick.

Do you watch as much straight porn as you do gay porn? Do you find a difference between what you are sexually attracted to vs what you are emotionally attracted to, in other words, are you more likely to have sex with one gender but more likely to fall in love with the other?

I have not watched straight porn in over a year....I've had sex with women, so I don't need to watch straight porn. Have not satisfied my lust for a man though so I guess that's partly why I tend to watch more gay porn now.

As far as the love part, I want to have a family of my own, with a son of my own. Mind you, a gay couple can have that too, I want my son to know his mother very well, and for her to a part of both of our lives. Ideally it would be a three-way relationship with my wife and hunky husband, but thats just plain fairytales right there!

Did you always realise you were bisexual, or did you once think you were either gay or straight? Do you find people's reactions to be negative, even more so than if you were gay?

At first I thought I was straight. I even disliked gays when I was too young to know better (yes, I am ashamed to admit it...). I was afraid, in denial, and under the influence of my family (who dislikes gays). I watched a lot of straight porn, and one day watched a porn of a guy jerking off... I told myself it was normal and that I was still staight. I then watched gay pornos of full on sex between two guys. Of course, only 'hot, muscular' guys because I wanted to look like them, not that I was actually gay. (I told myself that for a while..)

Eventually I reached the age of reason and decided, hey, I like guys, that's cool. I also like chicks, and have had many relationships with women.

I've had plenty of gay guys tell me off for trying to call myself bisexual. They accuse me of trying to betray myself and the gay community by still trying to associate and fit in with the straight crowd. Most people though are pretty open minded and understanding, at least until they think you have a crush on them and they decide your no longer worthy of friendship...but that's another story.

Was there more pressure on you from your community/religion/family/society to deny your homosexual side because you already found women attractive? Is it more common or less common for bisexuals to be 'out' to everyone?

My family does not know, and they do not like gays. maybe being bisexual will help if/when I tell them, maybe not. They know I have had plenty of girlfriends and have had sex with girls, so maybe that will help..

I would like to think it is easy to be out to all my friends at least because I'm 'only' bisexual, but its all the same to people who don't understand. A lot of my friends know, a lot don't. When I feel someone deserved to know, or can handle it, I may tell them. Otherwise its not there business what I do in my personal life.

Is bisexuality more common in women than in men? Is it perhaps easier for women to admit to than men? If so, do you think that far more straight men are bisexual than they let on?

I don't know if it is more common, but it is certainly more acceptable for a girl to be bisexual or a lesbian than it is for a guy. When girls do it, its hot, when guys do it, apparently god kills many kittens... As my roommate put it for Human Sexuality Class, "Two girls, its OK, its just hot. Two guys though is just not right."

 

[CumAlong]

Yeah, how do you bisexuals do it. All the choices

My ex-gf mentioned the same thing about all the choices I have. She said there were twice as many people now I could cheat on her with...

In my experience, I don't have twice as many people, because now I am much more picky about who I like. My selection for both sexes has shrunk, and so overall, I have about the same selection of attractive people as I did when I only liked girls...

 

[Piquechampion]

As my roommate put it for Human Sexuality Class, "Two girls, its OK, its just hot. Two guys though is just not right."

Your roommate is an imbecile.

 

[CumAlong]

Your roommate is an imbecile.

My thought exactly...Oh the things he said about gays, and he had no idea I was bisexual!

I love hearing people talk about gay people when they have no idea I am gay/bi

 

[Piquechampion]

I do think that the worst enemies the Gay Community have (as regarding their rights) are the down low bisexuals.

They sure want for the status quo to stay as it is (they having a wife and kids as a public face, and then having seedy gay sex on the down low).

When the day comes for gay relationships to be regarded as normal, then, they would not have the excuse they have now. And that's what they fear the most.

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

I thought this was all figured out.
Chickens have BREASTS -- and there are COCKS - yup , it's all covered.

In the real world - I'd prolly be 90/10 men/women.
I've done chicks - it worked for me - but I've always wanted a MAN ..

I'm very seriously emotionally invested in my "woman" - and because of that - would never cross the road - but that doesn't mean I'm not seriously attracted to men.
Str8 porn is okay - I 'm fixated on the guy -- Gay porn is better.

I always knew guys gave me a boner= but i was SUPPOSED to like chicks - so i found the occasional one attractive -- at a time when i was still curious about the difference in bits and pieces.

I assumed there was plenty of pressure to NOT be GAY - and even declaring a BI status would be very wrong.. Hey - there was Woodstock- but it was the 60's and words like "homo" were whispered in the dark - at least in my life -

I agree that if girls wanna play together - they make light of it - and the str8 boys luv it - and they too can just blame the jello shots - or whatever -- but 2 guys kissing - WHOA BABY ! no no no.

 

[fetaby]

I'm 85% gay. Meaning I could find a beard and impregnate her if I tried hard enough.


And I think it's kind of shitty to cast aspersions on the character of people you've never met.

 

[JayJEz]

My thought exactly...Oh the things he said about gays, and he had no idea I was bisexual!

I love hearing people talk about gay people when they have no idea I am gay/bi

Awesome right? Everyone's as bigoted as the idiot mouthing off...yeah right. I think I'm going to open my big mouth one day-probably regret it, but how the eff are people going to learn that not everyone around them is a bigot?

Anyway.

The snide remarks toward bisexuals amuses me to no end. Um, I like sex period. Man or woman. Giving head, or gettin'. In my bum, or in your puss. I'm fucked in the head and have been repressed for a while, so pardon me for "playin' both sides of the field"... I've only begun to explore my "gay" side, perhaps one day I'll straigten up (or gay up) and fly right. Not countin' on it tho.

As for the bis with kids/wife going gay on the side, kind of sad, really pathetic. Carry on the ruse so far, with so much at risk? WTF? Gotta be fucked in the head. I wouldn't label them as bi, they're cheaters and got caught up in conforming to society to the point that they HAVE to do some batshit stunts (repub politicos anyone?). If I wasn't born in today's world, I might have ended up miserable as hell as well, and hiding from myself and everyone around me. Hell, I'm doing the second part to a degree, but thankfully I've figured out myself enough and the world around me not to engage others in my own tomfoolery...

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

They sure want for the status quo to stay as it is (they having a wife and kids as a public face, and then having seedy gay sex on the down low).QUOTE]

Not to trash Chicken's thread - but you've accused "married" guys of this before - me included - and it just ain't so-- you shouldn't GENERALIZE to that degree - there are plenty of married guys - who might wear a "bi" label- yet they don't "act" on their feelings. I know several who even have "Permission" to go out with guys -and they still don't do it.. just as many Gay couples have agreements for Open relationships - but don't play the card -- - for some - it's enuff to know that they CAN - they don't HAVE TO..

 

[CumAlong]

And I think it's kind of shitty to cast aspersions on the character of people you've never met.

haven't you heard the latest scientific study? Bisexuals are here to destroy all LGTA rights!(apparently the B was removed, due to conspiracy and terrorism) We're a bunch of crazed fucked up loonies that want to trick everyone we're normal while really at night, "you can see a young American family, sitting down for their evening meal. And those bisexuals... put on their masks and their festive colored robes, and sneak slowly into the house... and begin to FUCK EACH OTHER IN THE ASS! And another American family is destroyed!!"



yup, thats right folks. I'm your worst enemy to equality, and I'm here destroying your forums, now what the fuck you gonna do about it?

Disclaimer: if you cannot recognize the irony and sarcasm in the above post...gtfo

 

[azzficker]

I don't think he was being this serious, guys. It is definite that in at least SOME situations there are married men who sneak off for gay sex, who might keep that on the down low, but in no way did he say every bisexual was like that. Now we're just putting words in his mouth and making a bit of a scene out of one sentence.

(Please don't come after me, now. I'm not making accusations, I'm just asking y'all to stop turning a simple conversational thread into an attack. I'm genuinely curious about bisexuals and would like to know what you guys have to say to these questions.)

 

[CumAlong]

Ok, fine. Some bisexual men have a wife and kids, and will sneak around for gay sex. I can't say I know of any myself, but I can sure as hell tell you there's thousands more of straight people who are married and sneaking around for sex. Same with gay people. Just because someone is straight, gay, or bisexual doesn't mean they can or cannot sneak around their partners and have sex on the side...

regardless of the sex your cheating with, YOUR CHEATING, and just as much scum as the next cheater. Just because a bisexual is just as human as everyone else, i don't see why it would matter...

 

[fetaby]

I don't doubt there are bisexual men who cower in the face of heteronormative society and buckle under the pressure of

community/religion/family/society

.

Between their own internal struggles and the effects it has on the people they choose to inflict their existence upon, these individuals need guidance and therapy more than they need spite spewed by a anonymous hater.

 

[JayJEz]

I don't think he was being this serious, guys. It is definite that in at least SOME situations there are married men who sneak off for gay sex, who might keep that on the down low, but in no way did he say every bisexual was like that. Now we're just putting words in his mouth and making a bit of a scene out of one sentence.

(Please don't come after me, now. I'm not making accusations, I'm just asking y'all to stop turning a simple conversational thread into an attack. I'm genuinely curious about bisexuals and would like to know what you guys have to say to these questions.)

I'm known for not "getting" things, a lot in fact, but this ain't one sentence, it's a diatribe. Now, if he was up for cannibalizing children, I'd be up for it! I don't see a modest proposal here tho, but maybe I'm blind.

I do think that the worst enemies the Gay Community have (as regarding their rights) are the down low bisexuals.

They sure want for the status quo to stay as it is (they having a wife and kids as a public face, and then having seedy gay sex on the down low).

When the day comes for gay relationships to be regarded as normal, then, they would not have the excuse they have now. And that's what they fear the most.

 

[walkingonsnow]

- 50/50
- Attraction to particular genders may lower or increase over time but it never completely vanishes. Has little or nothing to do with the time of year. It's just my emotions and such.
- I always knew I was bisexual because I always used to check out the guy and the girl while watching porn and sometimes got pissed off when in straight porn they never showed the guy's face or anything. Haven't come out to anyone but my boyfriend.
- Can't answer your last question. I'm not out of the closet. I do see some straight guys checking me out from time to time but I have no idea if they're gay or bisexual or just bi-curious.

This was a fun survey