Questions for bisexuals....

[CorporalAris]

I'm confused by this topic. Labels, labels, labels.

I'm gay, but I wouldn't say that my gender attraction is 100/0.


More like 90/10.

 

[movieguy22]

....which have probably been asked before on here somewhere, so just humour me.



Would you say your gender attraction is 50/50 down the line, or is it more like 60/40 or 75/25? Has it varied over time since you were in school, say, and does it vary slightly depending on the season, or perhaps on your mood? Has your attraction to either gender ever wavered or disappeared?

Do you watch as much straight porn as you do gay porn? Do you find a difference between what you are sexually attracted to vs what you are emotionally attracted to, in other words, are you more likely to have sex with one gender but more likely to fall in love with the other?

Did you always realise you were bisexual, or did you once think you were either gay or straight? Do you find people's reactions to be negative, even more so than if you were gay?

Was there more pressure on you from your community/religion/family/society to deny your homosexual side because you already found women attractive? Is it more common or less common for bisexuals to be 'out' to everyone?

Is bisexuality more common in women than in men? Is it perhaps easier for women to admit to than men? If so, do you think that far more straight men are bisexual than they let on?

That's about it.

This is a LOT more questions than I was intending to ask, lol, but most occurred to me as I was typing.

And thanks in advance to those who take the time to respond. Much appreciated.

1) For me, I'd have to say it wavers between 60/40 and 70/30 men to women. Here's the thing. I'm really only attracted to men sexually. That is to say I'd be more likely to have a one night stand with a man than a woman. There is the odd guy I meet every now and then that I would consider a more serious relationship, but that is rare. With women, I want to get to know them more than just physically. To put it simply, I'm more romantically interested in women than with men. There's something animalistic to sex with a man where to me sex with women is more emotional and passionate. So I'm not really sure if 60/40 is even accurate, but it's what I'll say for the sake of the question

2) I kinda answered the second part in the first answer. So as to the first part, I watch mainly gay porn. Straight porn from time to time, but usually I just stick to my straight fantasies instead of porn (usually involving girls I know).

3) I didn't always realize I was bisexual. In high school, I knew I was attracted to men and that really concerned me. It took up so much of my consciousness, I didn't really address my crushes on some of the girls in my classes. I knew they existed, but the feelings I had for a couple of the guys was foremost in my mind. It actually wasn't until first year university when I moved to a new town and my life changed when I was able to realize that I was attracted to both men and women. However, I was still uncomfortable with the fact. I remained in the closet until halfway through my first year of college (which took place after graduating from Uni). When I did come out, I found everyone I told weren't bothered by it. Everyone was caught completely off-guard by it (except my best friend, but that's cuz I had a huge crush on him so he had a feeling...) They were proud of me really. But I have a feeling film students are more accepting of people's difference than the average shmuck anyway. I should stop before I ramble for too long. lol

4) The most pressure, which is one I still feel is from my family. None of them know, and I happy with them not knowing. I'm just afraid of how they may react to it. It's probably all in my head, but I just can't bring myself to tell them. Don't think I ever will.

5) While I'm not sure if women are more likely to be bisexual than men, I do think its more socially acceptable for a women to be bisexual, simply because straight men find girl-girl action hot (I'll admit, I got turned on by it more than once ). However, guy-guy action is more "Let's leave that behind closed doors" or "That's just wrong, dawg". But I do get a sense that more guys could potentially be bi than they let on. Though I'm not sure why. I just get this feeling telling me "You know, if he told me he was bi, I really wouldn't be surprised."


Great questions ChickenGuy! I enjoyed answering them, though I did kinda go on and on for a bit, hopefully I didn't bore anyone!

 

[boiseboy]

I'd say about 60/40. Men being 60, women being 40.
I can look at a hot man and get an instant boner. Fully clothed and even in a snuggie.
I can see a hot girl, but i only get a boner if she's wearing something skimpy or is doing something provocative.

I look at straight porn when i want a quick wank.
I look at gay porn when i have a lot of time to go through a lot of vids. IDK why, i just do.

 

[LemonSquare]

....which have probably been asked before on here somewhere, so just humour me.



Would you say your gender attraction is 50/50 down the line, or is it more like 60/40 or 75/25? Has it varied over time since you were in school, say, and does it vary slightly depending on the season, or perhaps on your mood? Has your attraction to either gender ever wavered or disappeared?

Do you watch as much straight porn as you do gay porn? Do you find a difference between what you are sexually attracted to vs what you are emotionally attracted to, in other words, are you more likely to have sex with one gender but more likely to fall in love with the other?

Did you always realise you were bisexual, or did you once think you were either gay or straight? Do you find people's reactions to be negative, even more so than if you were gay?

Was there more pressure on you from your community/religion/family/society to deny your homosexual side because you already found women attractive? Is it more common or less common for bisexuals to be 'out' to everyone?

Is bisexuality more common in women than in men? Is it perhaps easier for women to admit to than men? If so, do you think that far more straight men are bisexual than they let on?

That's about it.

This is a LOT more questions than I was intending to ask, lol, but most occurred to me as I was typing.

And thanks in advance to those who take the time to respond. Much appreciated.

1) 80/20 for men.
2) Varies on mood, but I rarely watch straight porn.
3) Not really. Sometimes I can go a long time without seeing a female I find attractive, but that's life.
4) Way more gay porn
5) Other than a "crush" on a male, I haven't had any emotional connections with a male. I have had an emotional connection with a female- but little to no sexual connection with that same female.
6) I always thought of myself as gay. I came out as gay, to those I told (few). It's easier than explaining I also have a slight interest in women too.
7) I haven't had any negative reactions, but then again I've only told..5 people, who I knew would be supportive.
8) In my experience, it's more common in women.


Hope I was of some sort of help .

 

[degrandm]

Ok, fine. Some bisexual men have a wife and kids, and will sneak around for gay sex. I can't say I know of any myself, but I can sure as hell tell you there's thousands more of straight people who are married and sneaking around for sex. Same with gay people. Just because someone is straight, gay, or bisexual doesn't mean they can or cannot sneak around their partners and have sex on the side...

regardless of the sex your cheating with, YOUR CHEATING, and just as much scum as the next cheater. Just because a bisexual is just as human as everyone else, i don't see why it would matter...

you are so right it dont matter if your gay,straight or bisexual cheating is cheating

 

[DividedMind]

Apologies in advance for any breech of web etiquette with this extended post I really don't reply in forums often but I couldn't resist answering this slew of questions.

Would you say your gender attraction is 50/50 down the line, or is it more like 60/40 or 75/25?

No, I find it varies with my mood. I would have to say it is currently 60/40 women/men due to a girl I am currently admiring at my school. This does not however mean I have not noticed some of the guys walking the halls as well.

Has it varied over time since you were in school, say, and does it vary slightly depending on the season, or perhaps on your mood?

Yes, It has varied in middle school, high school, and again in college. It also changes with moods as like anything else, sometimes you just have a craving for whatever flavor you haven't had lately. I can't say it changes with the seasons though.

Has your attraction to either gender ever wavered or disappeared?

After a three year relationship ended with a girl friend I found my interest in females dropped slightly.

Do you watch as much straight porn as you do gay porn?

I find I watch both about the same sometimes more gay than straight but I find that websites that offer both such as a MMF threesome usually get more attention.

Do you find a difference between what you are sexually attracted to vs what you are emotionally attracted to, in other words, are you more likely to have sex with one gender but more likely to fall in love with the other?

Yes, I find that I am more likely to fall in love with women and just have sex with men. I also find it difficult to see myself growing old with a man, but I would like to think that if presented with a boyfriend I thought to be ready for a lifetime commitment I would accept it.

Did you always realise you were bisexual, or did you once think you were either gay or straight?

I identified as straight in middle school up to about the end of sophomore year highschool. I then started having moments where other guys started to catch my eye but quickly learned to put that aside till I was out of high school due to the fact I was in an all boys catholic High school. After, I took some time to think about it and decided both sexes were free game and it didn't really matter.

Do you find people's reactions to be negative, even more so than if you were gay?

I can say my parents don't really mind either way. They always say as long as I am happy they are happy. My mom has taken to asking if I want to/plan to have kids lately though. As far as friends and others I have always been guarded about my private life and of the mind it would be called "Public life" if i wanted to share with everyone. A few friends know but most are content to think I rarely date and just hang out with many different people. The fact that I act a bit childish and still play video games seems to tell people I am not thinking of relationships for some reason? Go figure eh?

Was there more pressure on you from your community/religion/family/society to deny your homosexual side because you already found women attractive?

I cannot really answer this because as I stated before I manged to keep extended family and all but my closest friends out of my private life.

Is it more common or less common for bisexuals to be 'out' to everyone?

I think it is less common actually depending. I can see a case being made either way cause if they still have hetero relationships than there is a chance they could be "Normal" and get over the "phase" of homo relationships? But I also can see how some people would not want to relate to being bi as most gay/lesbian parties believe that bi is just a short transition in making the full conversion over. I found this very annoying when one of my gay friends found out I had a boyfriend.

Is bisexuality more common in women than in men?

I think it is more acceptable for woman but I am not sure if it is more common in them.

Is it perhaps easier for women to admit to than men?

I think it difficult for either sex as there are always people who will find this offensive in some way. I know one girl told me there was an awkward period between her and her friends because of their religion and how they were raised but once they noticed she still held the same values they did just thought other girls were attractive as well most of them warmed up to her again. she did lose two friends from the group though.

If so, do you think that far more straight men are bisexual than they let on?

Probably, I know of a few guys that will mess around when drunk and the next day think nothing of it. I also wonder why so many hetero men can act amazingly gay around each other yet say they have no inclination of attraction to others? This is often very confusing to me and I tend to avoid making any comments once this type of behavior starts. If I had a dollar for every joke/tease that involved butt sex or insertion of penis into some bodily orifice between my hetero friends. I could probably pay off a few credit cards and a good portion of school loans.

I hope these answers are enlightening and/or helpful to others.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Okay, I'll bite.

Would you say your gender attraction is 50/50 down the line, or is it more like 60/40 or 75/25? Has it varied over time since you were in school, say, and does it vary slightly depending on the season, or perhaps on your mood? Has your attraction to either gender ever wavered or disappeared?

Mine varies according to the person I'm interested in as opposed to seasons or the phases of the moon or anything.

Do you watch as much straight porn as you do gay porn?

No, for the reasons mentioned by others - women in porn are frequently annoying. I will make exceptions for some, of course, but the women too often look bored and/or unhappy. Perhaps I just have acquired shitty straight porn - I'll concede that.

Do you find a difference between what you are sexually attracted to vs what you are emotionally attracted to, in other words, are you more likely to have sex with one gender but more likely to fall in love with the other?

I am as likely to have sex with both, but thus far have yet to really make an intimate mental connection with a guy. I connect better with guys in terms of making friends, but I have not ever made the leap to anything approaching love, or even the beginnings of love.

Did you always realise you were bisexual, or did you once think you were either gay or straight? Do you find people's reactions to be negative, even more so than if you were gay?

Reactions thus far have been positive, to the comparatively few people I have told or who know. In school I was straight, I thought, the guy thing just a phase; it was at varsity that I finally started accepting that it wasn't just a phase and began to really think about it.

Was there more pressure on you from your community/religion/family/society to deny your homosexual side because you already found women attractive? Is it more common or less common for bisexuals to be 'out' to everyone?

I think it's less common because we frequently get shot down. You see it in here all the time - bi guys are cheaters, bi guys are liars and in denial, there's no such thing etc etc and frankly I don't have the energy or the willpower to engage everyone I meet in this over-done discussion, so I keep quiet. People who NEED to know, know. People who don't need to know but whom I want to know, know. Those who don't can find out later.

Is bisexuality more common in women than in men? Is it perhaps easier for women to admit to than men? If so, do you think that far more straight men are bisexual than they let on?

I think it's about the same between sexes. The difference is the average (younger) straight guy finds bi girls intriguing; it's a big plus to be a bi girl in the world at the moment. Perhaps the bi guy thing is gaining a bit of momentum; unfortunately, I think it's still a largely negative connotation. Maybe too many of those who do identify as bi - Mika, David Bowie, REM's Michael Stipe, Pete Burns from Dead or Alive - come across as weird guys, unlike the ladies who identify as bi - Lady Gaga, Christina Aguilera, Goldfrapp.

-d-

 

[evanrick]

lets boil this down to...if you had to pick/choose for the rest of your life?

would you be comfortable with a coin flip? if you say yes then you are bi probably....

 

[alli-berri]

lets boil this down to...if you had to pick/choose for the rest of your life?

would you be comfortable with a coin flip? if you say yes then you are bi probably....

These aren't questions I can answer very seriously, because being bi isn't something I can just flop around with. I'm bi because I CAN'T choose between M or F, and thusly settle contentedly with both.

Right now, I have no intention of ever being married/ committed. Of course anything could happen. But specifically selecting which sex I'd "choose" in the end is really impossible. That's why I'm bi! Because for now I need BOTH. My future is unknown.

Can you explain your reasoning as to why you think agreeing to a coin flip would probably mean I'm bi? I mean, OK. Lemme think outloud here. Let's say (in the most absurd of circumstances) I'm kidnapped by a sorcerer and held captive in his mountain cave until I flip the coin of fate. Heads, I go back to the real world as a straight man. Tails, I'm gay. If I refuse, I'm doomed to captivity. In this scenario, I could only imagine the most stringent of homo/heterophobes refusing to accept this challenge, and that being only a small number of people.

I would be OK with the flipping, but I have a feeling that many non-"bi" people would flippit to save their lives, as well.

 

[LiveForLove]

I hate how so many gay people say they're bisexual when they're not. OK coming out can be difficult, but don't you realize how you're damaging society's view of bisexuality?

 

[Telstra]

I do think that the worst enemies the Gay Community have (as regarding their rights) are the down low bisexuals.

They sure want for the status quo to stay as it is (they having a wife and kids as a public face, and then having seedy gay sex on the down low).

When the day comes for gay relationships to be regarded as normal, then, they would not have the excuse they have now. And that's what they fear the most.

You are wrong. As long as they don't hurt anyone, they are not your enemy.
The worst enemies are the people who spent alot of time preaching that gay sex is sin !!

I think CumAlong answered all the questions in post 6.

 

[mcsteamy]

When I was in high school it was definitely 100% attraction to women. Maybe 3 years ago I started getting curious and started watching gay porn, now that's the only porn I watch.

It's hard to put a number on what the attraction is like now, I'll find more women I'm attracted to when I'm out in public, when it comes to men it's mostly just the porn I watch and the few I've had sex with. And I'd say I'm more emotionally attracted to women (i haven't had a serious relationship with a man).

 

[CumAlong]

^ Welcome to the boards mcsteamy

 

[mcsteamy]

^ Welcome to the boards mcsteamy

thanks! since only one of my friends knows I'm bi I figure it will be fun to be able to talk openly about some of these topics

 

[tbj6789]

i am 19 years old and have been fascinated with dicks since a young age. i have jerked off to gay porn since i can begin to jerk off. but i have also started to jerk off to straight porn. they both used to do it for me. i have had sex with straight girls many times. and i have also have loved to BE fucked by other guys. lately straight porn dosent even get me hard. when i try to have sex with girls my penis wont even get hard. but when im with a guy im always hard. even jsut thinking about it. but the PROBLEM is when im with a guy and i cum i just run away right after like im not intrested anymore. can anyone help me with this problem? and also am i gay or straight? HELP haha

 

[Dolmance]

I find it impossible to attach specific percentage values to my attraction towards one gender or another, as gender simply doesn't factor when i find another human being attractive. I find myself gravitating towards particular individuals for whatever reason; there is no distincton in my mind between those attractions based on said individual's gender.

 

[Blaze2010]

....which have probably been asked before on here somewhere, so just humour me.



Would you say your gender attraction is 50/50 down the line, or is it more like 60/40 or 75/25? Has it varied over time since you were in school, say, and does it vary slightly depending on the season, or perhaps on your mood? Has your attraction to either gender ever wavered or disappeared?

Do you watch as much straight porn as you do gay porn? Do you find a difference between what you are sexually attracted to vs what you are emotionally attracted to, in other words, are you more likely to have sex with one gender but more likely to fall in love with the other?

Did you always realise you were bisexual, or did you once think you were either gay or straight? Do you find people's reactions to be negative, even more so than if you were gay?

Was there more pressure on you from your community/religion/family/society to deny your homosexual side because you already found women attractive? Is it more common or less common for bisexuals to be 'out' to everyone?

Is bisexuality more common in women than in men? Is it perhaps easier for women to admit to than men? If so, do you think that far more straight men are bisexual than they let on?

That's about it.

This is a LOT more questions than I was intending to ask, lol, but most occurred to me as I was typing.

And thanks in advance to those who take the time to respond. Much appreciated.

Well i have a 50/50 attraction to both sexes. Although it can depend on my mood too! I at one time only thought of girls like this because i was taught it was wrong. Yet i've always known i liked boys because of my being attracted to them like i am to girls.

I watch about the same of amount of both gay and straight porn. I am just as attracted to a girls tits and pussy as i am to a guys dick and ass. As for love and sex well i can see it with either one i could love a guy as much as i can a girl. I just have the problem of wanting kids and not because i think i am expected to but because i want them. I wanna know how it is to hold a new born baby that is mine in my arms! I wanna feel that connection between a father and his child. So i guess you could say i'm more likely to fall in love with a woman.

I have kinda always known that i was Bi just tried to suppress or deny it because of how i was taught. I have known ever since i first found a girl attractive that i was bi because i also found myself looking at other boys and wanting to see their dicks.

Yes i'd say i had the pressure of my family expecting me to be straight, also religion played a role. I'd have to say it's less common for Bi guys to come out. Well i say that because i didn't wanna come out to my family because of their beliefs. My mom ended up finding out anyways cause i left my computer on JUB website and logged on She is in a sense ok with it now but she don't like it! So i guess i'm more prone to come out than other bi guys are. All my friends know, mom , grandma, and a few people at work. I'm trying to think how i should tell dad. Very hard for me.

I'd have to say men are more likely than women to be bi! I don't really know about if it's any easier for a woman or a man. Yes i'd say straight guys are at least more curious than they let on. Or they may just be bi all together and never tell a soul and that's why most people think they are straight. I will tell you this that i believe there isn't a guy out there who hasn't at least thought about another guy in that way once!

 

[Blaze2010]

I do think that the worst enemies the Gay Community have (as regarding their rights) are the down low bisexuals.

They sure want for the status quo to stay as it is (they having a wife and kids as a public face, and then having seedy gay sex on the down low).

When the day comes for gay relationships to be regarded as normal, then, they would not have the excuse they have now. And that's what they fear the most.

Dude i resent that statement! If i was to ever fall in love with a guy i would not mind holding hands kissing or whatever in public! I say fuck anyone who doesn't like me and the way i am! Mind you there are a lot of Bisexuals that do exactly what you said! I am not one of them! Also not all Bisexuals are the same way! Don't let what some of us may do influence your thoughts on all of us! That's like me saying all gay guys walk funny and talk all feminine (which is a load of bullshit)! Not being mean here just letting you know not all bisexuals are as you say they are!