Racism?

[Soilwork]

Ummm not exactly. What would be odd is if any of their boyfriends were physically attractive. Asian men only dating whites (usually ones older and less attractive) is not odd at all.

Well, one of the Asian men himself is about 50, and so is his BF.. they've both kinda got that "spread" thing going on.

The other two white men, however, are both babes. One is a very statuesque 6-foot-5 blond man with big blue eyes and the other is a very manly, rugged guy with dark hair and a body to die for.

I dont' know, maybe it's a California thing but in Toronto it was no different... inter-racial couples were everywhere and nobody batted an eyelash. My (Philipino) friend Max has never dated an Asian guy but he's always got some babe on his arm.. usually white but once he dated a black guy and he's dated two middle eastern men.. go figure.

 

[mascbiguy]

date who you want! if others have a problem with who you are attracted to, then thats their issue.

i dated a white guy who was only into Latins, i could point out a smoking white guy and he would go "he's gross" so i guess that makes him racist against his own people? no, just what turns him on.

not every person is going to turn you on. there are white guys who i wouldn't touch with Soilworks dick. but im attracted to bigger white guys. smaller guys dont do it for me. so that means i hate all smaller guys? nope. just means they dont turn me on in the bed. there are good looking guys who i wouldn't have sex with cause they dont turn me on that way.

 

[tommyj]

I've even had guys turn on the light and examine my features, closely, to determine if I'm the "right" ethnicity for them have sex with, because visual observation isn't always good enough for these color-struck queens.

And they have the nerve to tell you to your face: "Man, I don't do any kind of Blacks or Negros or whatever you people want to call yourselves."

WTF!?!?! I never would imagine!!! Damn dude, I would be like "get the fuk outta here" How rude!!!! I'm a white guy but I can't even conjure that. I'm so sorry you have to experience that sh*t.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

This is not about being offended because because of rejection from Whites. Quite the contrary: I am regularly innundated with overtures from Whites, male and female, who pursue me incessantly because they are fixated on Black tops.

I have slept with only two White men in the last seven years. One was an accident and the other a mistake.

When I look at the quality offered in the Black and Asian camps these days, there's no comparison.

White men have grown complacent (and flabby) because they were preferred for so long. They've let corruption overtake them. They're asleep at the switch and many run the risk of aging prematurely as they overdose on that smug sense of White entitlement. The old ways are drawing to a close.

My current lover is a beautiful Chinese boy with an exquisite face and body. And he loves me for who I am, not the color I am. He has a pure, sweet spirit and he's not jaded or cynical.

Oh Happy Day! Let love reign in whatever hue!

 

[tommyj]

White men have grown complacent (and flabby) because they were preferred for so long. They've let corruption overtake them. They're asleep at the switch and many run the risk of aging prematurely as they overdose on that smug sense of White entitlement. The old ways are drawing to a close.

UGGGH! You totally denigrated your previous posts with this. Damnit all to hell, I was like "he's cruising good" reading your posts. Then, to make a complete generalization when you railed against such. BGP, I certainly don't fit into this NOR do I have this perspective. I have been with all races (and mixture thereof) and they have found me quite attractive that the come-ons, usually by them. Why you go in this direction? Disappointed me.

 

[mascbiguy]

I have slept with only two White men in the last seven years. One was an accident and the other a mistake.

how do you accidentally sleep with some one? were you walking down the street, tripped and your dick landed in his ass??

sorry to say man, but you sound bitter and jaded towards a whole group of guys because you have had some bad experiences with a few

 

[Soilwork]

I have slept with only two White men in the last seven years. One was an accident and the other a mistake.

When I look at the quality offered in the Black and Asian camps these days, there's no comparison.

White men have grown complacent (and flabby) because they were preferred for so long. They've let corruption overtake them. They're asleep at the switch and many run the risk of aging prematurely as they overdose on that smug sense of White entitlement. The old ways are drawing to a close.

Got it.

It's ok for you to [STRIKE]be a racist pig[/STRIKE] have a type of man you're into, it's just not ok for anyone else.

Thanks for making that abundantly clear.

 

[pizzaprof]

Your rationale for finding one race superior in attractiveness than others but not considering it racist is simply that you exhibit it? "Give you attitude"; you deserve attitude. How do you even look yourself in the mirror, knowing that as a black person used to being dismissed and discriminated against, you would do the same to yourself if you were a third person?

 

[tommyj]

Welcome to JUB Musicman-bflat...

 

[tommyj]

I have gotten crap for only being interested in White men.........

You shouldnt! You like what u like. P.S. Youre hot!

 

[KentuckyPython]

I have gotten crap for only being interested in White men.........

I never yuck another's yum. That goes for you too Soilwork.

 

[ICEMAN_3121]

Wow...I am Black, and I am very proud of my heritage. I can find someone attractive or sexy regardless of their race. I've never just singled just any one race, to just have a little fun. I am attracted to masculine men, and feminine women, regardless of their race.
Do I think it's racist if someone is not attracted to me?....HELL NO! It is their loss. I'm attracted to people who are comfortable in their own skin, and that are not trying to be something that they are not. I feel that excluding anyone just based on race is wrong, for example I'm Black, so that I'll only date Blacks, or even worse to me would be.....I'm Black, and I'll only date Whites. But who am I to judge, because, I guess that is a personal choice.

 

[daddy kaine]

Sure you are.

Why? I dont get it. So you're saying if you do not find the majority of a race attractive and will not date/sex them, you're racist? I personally will only fuck dudes I'm attracted to but I can say race isnt important. One thing I cant stand though is when someone praises their race infinitely and put down other races, it seems babigaypimp is doin this. I'm blk/cuban btw.

 

[jackoroe]

In one way, I'm kind of happy that real racists are starting to become somewhat rare. We are seeing less and less of an endangered species that I won't miss.

In another, I'm not happy with assigning a racist label to proclivities that aren't. Preferring a particular type of man for a bed partner is certainly discrimination. We all discriminate and that's not a bad thing. Otherwise we'd all simply sleep with the first person we came across. I know some of us do, but not all of us.

Anyway, this Asian friend of your was trying to force you to do something that you didn't want to. Then he tried to besmirch your reputation by calling you a racist. He was essentially blackmailing you. He was never your friend, if this is how he acts.

 

[kayman23]

Racism goes beyond text book definitions of immediate feelings of icy-hearted "superiority" and "malice." It's a largely a gray area with many variables that Websters does not define.

People tend to think of racism in terms of automatic disdain and hatred, only, but it is not. It doesn't matter if a person regularly smiles at, waves to, and/or makes conversation with their next door neighbor...who is of a different race. It doesn't matter if they even invite them over to dinner. "Closet racists," who are perfectly nice, reasonable people who are gracious to all humans, decide that they don't HATE other races, and this gives them justification to pretend they are not racist. But racism is, among other things, the belief that people should be treated in ways based on the color of their skin...good or bad.

Yes, I must agree. I had a conversion with a friend about female friend I have that seems to suffer from this complex. She is a black female that seems to "tolerate" and "have" friends of other races, but doesn't seems to treat them differently because of their skin color. It is a puzzling idea.

 

[kayman23]

Wow...I am Black, and I am very proud of my heritage. I can find someone attractive or sexy regardless of their race. I've never just singled just any one race, to just have a little fun. I am attracted to masculine men, and feminine women, regardless of their race.
Do I think it's racist if someone is not attracted to me?....HELL NO! It is their loss. I'm attracted to people who are comfortable in their own skin, and that are not trying to be something that they are not. I feel that excluding anyone just based on race is wrong, for example I'm Black, so that I'll only date Blacks, or even worse to me would be.....I'm Black, and I'll only date Whites. But who am I to judge, because, I guess that is a personal choice.

That's how I feel. I have a multiracial heritage, but I stick to calling myself just "black" to keep it simple. I'm just attracted to the person not their race. I'm currently in a precarious situation with a guy who happens to be of white and Italian heritage, but in the past I have had feelings for guys and girls that are black, white, Asian, and Latino. I just have a very open-minded attitude when it comes to attractions.

However, it does seem that amongst many homosexual and bisexual men that race and ethnicities seems to be the "be-all-end-all". I must say that the prevalance of "self-hatred" amongst non-white ethnicities are just haphazardous as it seems that if you don't at least some attraction towards those of similar backgrounds as yourself it does reck of self-hatred.

I just try to avoid people with such attitudes because it seems to only breed problems down the road.

 

[Appleseedpie]

People are usually attracted to what they feel familiar to....or what the media says is attractive.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

So, how DOES it feel to be stereotyped, marginalized and evaluated based on unsubstantiated assumptions about YOUR race?

It's hurtful, degrading and inflicts a deeper kind of wound than an individual insult or criticism might.

Yet, many here have expressed the opinion that racially prejudicial behavior in dating is perfectly acceptable, even desirable. Until someone does it to you, that is.

I don't believe that all white men are fat, lazy and corrupt, or any other such rampant generalization. That runs counter to my core principles.

Yet many of you have agreed with various unproven observations and generalizations about blacks and asians.

I wanted to illustrate this point in stark terms:

A giant "X" placed across an entire race based on bias and prejudice is not an encouraging attitude to encounter. And I think it involves something more malignant than just "personal preference," which like "freedom of association," seems like an excuse to discriminate.

Many of us are prepared to condone this practice when it is directed against some other race or group outside our circle.

The walk feels somewhat little less comfortable when the shoe is on the other foot, huh?

Concerning the "accidental" sexual encounter I referenced, I can only say that alcohol and dim lighting WERE involved. It's just a memory now.

 

[Soilwork]

So, how DOES it feel to be stereotyped, marginalized and evaluated based on unsubstantiated assumptions about YOUR race?

It's hurtful, degrading and inflicts a deeper kind of wound than an individual insult or criticism might.

So stop doing it.

Yet, many here have expressed the opinion that racially prejudicial behavior in dating is perfectly acceptable, even desirable. Until someone does it to you, that is.

To be honest, I dont' have any problems if anyone does it to me at all. There's PLENTY of guys out there who think I'm hot and those who want something else are welcome to go get what they want. I'm good.

A giant "X" placed across an entire race based on bias and prejudice is not an encouraging attitude to encounter.

So... cut it out.

Concerning the "accidental" sexual encounter I referenced, I can only say that alcohol and dim lighting WERE involved. It's just a memory now.

Wow. It's like talking to both of your multiple personalities.

Date you who want.. none of us give two shits. but dont' act like it's ok for YOU to pick and choose based on race but not anyone else.

 

[tboy34]

I'm also called Racist because I don't date African American men, such as myself. Like you It's preference thing. I'm just not attracted to Black men any longer. Mostly I think because of what happened to me when I was a kid. My current long time love is German, Welsh, American Indian.