I didn’t want to write a really long post talking about how we met and how we got to know each other because, frankly, I don’t like it when others write pages as an OP. But, I guess, I should elaborate now.
First off, I am not attracted to gay/bisexual men my age or around my age. Most of them are into Britney Spears, Gaga, piercings, pink hair, and are totally hairless. They only hang out with girls and are completely feminized. I know there are exceptions, but this is the majority. Sadly, all these PRIDE parades, LGBTQ groups, and even gay magazines just perpetuate this sad stereotype and I feel really alone and “odd” because of it. Seriously though, nothing pisses me off more than PRIDE parades. Maybe I’ll write a rant about those in another thread.
Anyway, I really wanted another man’s company, so I went where everyone else goes these days. We met online, on okcupid. We talked for months online, but never met up with each other because we lived about 2.5 hours away. After some pressuring on his side, I visited him one day. It took me 2 subways and a bus to get to his house. It was a casual date. We did it twice again. They all went off really well. Then I stayed the night over on our 4th date. It was amazing. He has the body of a body builder and, despite his age, can keep up with me really well. It was the first time I slept with a man and it was amazing. The sex proved that we had both an emotional and physical connection. I’ve slept with him another four more times and it is just getting better. I love sleeping in his bed overnight and he puts his hairy arm over my naked hips and pulls me closer to his crotch. I wake him up by pulling off the covers at 5AM and giving him a wet bj. When I get to his place after the long subway and bus rides, he carries me to his bed, throws me down, and begins to lick the sweat off my body. He also gave me a
dildo as a gift last time and that has been a ton of fun too. It’s just pure ecstasy to be with him.
I know, for a fact, the conversations about life, politics, economics, and social issues, I could never replicate with someone my age or around my age. I mean, I travel 3 hours to see him and he knows it.
The reality is, nothing lasts for ever. I know I’m going to move in the very near future for grad school. I also know that he is getting old and aged. But, right now, he fills in that void inside of me for companionship and passion and I hope that I somehow make him just a little happier or sexually satisfied. We have a really fun and safe time together.
Some of you said how I won’t mature if I am with him or how he will change me to be who he wants (Did I mention submission turns me on, haha). I guess I have a fetish for older men. Would you guys go to a gay that likes BDSM and tell them “Hey, you should stop BDSM because it’s not natural and it damages you, etc,etc.”
Also, I love how me referring to myself as a “boy” has caused such a ruckus. I’m 22 years old, weigh 130 lbs, and have a 18 inch waist. I think in the gay community, I would be considered a boy, just like a 60 year old man that weighs 260 lbs, with a ton of body hair would be considered a bear. I actually study linguistics at a very prestigious school in Massachusetts and am actually writing my senior dissertation on how the KKK and other oppressive groups in history (the Nazis, Turks, Cuba, etc) have used the forced changing of language as a tool to control people’s perceptions of oneself, but I digress.
Right now, we make each other happy and satisfied and, I think, that is all that’s important. I will speak to him about sexual monogamy next time I see him and I think he will be very excited about it. What happens tomorrow, will happen tomorrow and I will deal with it appropriately tomorrow. I’m not an idiot.
Finally, if you guys ever see a couple at a bar or at a bath or a club that have a large age gap like mine, please don’t discriminate against them. They are probably going through the same problems and joys as you and, as mature homosexuals, I hope we find the beauty in diversity and find it as a wonderful opportunity to talk about life and love in a new way.
If you guys have anything else to add, I would absolutely love to hear about it and, even if it’s critical, I would still love to hear it.
PS.: to the gentleman that said couples with large age gaps won’t enjoy what regular couples enjoy like running out for food at 3AM. We’ve actually gone to Ralphs at 4AM one time mid sex because we wanted to turn each other into ice cream sandwiches. It was very messy. I’ll leave it at that.
At what point would you call yourself a man?: 
: champ!
