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Reflections of a straight guy who started to bottom this year

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I am 28, married 7 years. My wife and I have been in the swing scene the past couple of years. We are in an area of the country that has a large lgbt community and the swing group we belong to allows people of all orientations. Over the past couple of years I became good friends with 4 gay guys from the swing group. They had in the past been asking me if I would ever consider bottoming for them and this past March I decided to give it a try. I spent about 2 hours letting them take turns having anal sex with me. I was left not really feeling one way or another about it. They discussed how I felt about it about a week later and they felt if it didn't really effect me that it would be ok to continue doing it. It worked out to about once a month them getting a hotel room for a night and having me over to bottom. It really never did anything for me sexually but I felt ok doing it for them just based on our friendship. I was handing this ok up until last month when it became known that I was doing this by more members of the swing group. Other gay men started wanting me to bottom for them as well. I wasn't feeling sure about it so I talked it over with the people I trust, my wife and my 4 gay friends. They all felt that it would be ok to proceed and start allowing others into this. After 2 months of this I am just at a point of feeling pretty lost. I do not feel the friend connection with the others and the whole experience is getting to my ego and self esteem. I am at a point I just don't know what to do, The swingers group feels I am making too much of it. I just don't feel anyone is really considering the issues I am having with it and feel under a lot of pressure. I would like to know what other people's opinion about this is. Maybe I just need a chance to vent about it.
 
Easy: don't do ANYTHING that makes you uncomfortable.
If your "friends" give you any heat tell them to go fuck themselves....... :D
 
str8guy28 said:
I am 28, married 7 years. My wife and I have been in the swing scene the past couple of years. We are in an area of the country that has a large lgbt community and the swing group we belong to allows people of all orientations. Over the past couple of years I became good friends with 4 gay guys from the swing group. They had in the past been asking me if I would ever consider bottoming for them and this past March I decided to give it a try. I spent about 2 hours letting them take turns having anal sex with me. I was left not really feeling one way or another about it. They discussed how I felt about it about a week later and they felt if it didn't really effect me that it would be ok to continue doing it. It worked out to about once a month them getting a hotel room for a night and having me over to bottom. It really never did anything for me sexually but I felt ok doing it for them just based on our friendship. I was handing this ok up until last month when it became known that I was doing this by more members of the swing group. Other gay men started wanting me to bottom for them as well. I wasn't feeling sure about it so I talked it over with the people I trust, my wife and my 4 gay friends. They all felt that it would be ok to proceed and start allowing others into this. After 2 months of this I am just at a point of feeling pretty lost. I do not feel the friend connection with the others and the whole experience is getting to my ego and self esteem. I am at a point I just don't know what to do, The swingers group feels I am making too much of it. I just don't feel anyone is really considering the issues I am having with it and feel under a lot of pressure. I would like to know what other people's opinion about this is. Maybe I just need a chance to vent about it.
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Wow... That is Hot. How was your first time? Did you like it? Were they HOT?
 
str8guy28 said:
I am 28, married 7 years. My wife and I have been in the swing scene the past couple of years. We are in an area of the country that has a large lgbt community and the swing group we belong to allows people of all orientations. Over the past couple of years I became good friends with 4 gay guys from the swing group. They had in the past been asking me if I would ever consider bottoming for them and this past March I decided to give it a try. I spent about 2 hours letting them take turns having anal sex with me. I was left not really feeling one way or another about it. They discussed how I felt about it about a week later and they felt if it didn't really effect me that it would be ok to continue doing it. It worked out to about once a month them getting a hotel room for a night and having me over to bottom. It really never did anything for me sexually but I felt ok doing it for them just based on our friendship. I was handing this ok up until last month when it became known that I was doing this by more members of the swing group. Other gay men started wanting me to bottom for them as well. I wasn't feeling sure about it so I talked it over with the people I trust, my wife and my 4 gay friends. They all felt that it would be ok to proceed and start allowing others into this. After 2 months of this I am just at a point of feeling pretty lost. I do not feel the friend connection with the others and the whole experience is getting to my ego and self esteem. I am at a point I just don't know what to do, The swingers group feels I am making too much of it. I just don't feel anyone is really considering the issues I am having with it and feel under a lot of pressure. I would like to know what other people's opinion about this is. Maybe I just need a chance to vent about it.
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And sorry to hear that.
 
Too many tops, not enough bottoms. This sounds realistic.
 
Sebazz said:
Too many tops, not enough bottoms. This sounds realistic.
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We've quite the opposite - "down under"

As a boy, I was a 100% top
But due to decades of diabetes induced erectile dysfunction - I am now a 100% bottom
There lies the advantage of being created gay - over being straight
I can often be found on m knees - thanking the good Lord
I've easily adjusted from spreading some dude's legs - to spreading my OWN

But back to str8guy28
If you can enjoy the pleasure and stimulation of being on the receiving end of anal sex, with a dude - and not take it as any threat to your masculinity and sexuality as a heterosexual - you've got it ALL

What doesn't often occur to the boys and girls, out there, is ...

Sexuality is all about attraction - and LOVE
Sexual acts are ENTIRELY about kinky pleasure and lust

PS. Has your wife been able to watch you "in action" ?
i think she'd probably ENJOY it
 
It sounds like you are comfortable with being around another guy such as your gay friends what does your wife think about this?
 
My wife is bi so she is ok with this. She does not watch however. I was just doing this for my friends benefit and didnt antipate others getting involved. I dont know much about the gay lifestyle or how common what is now going on. It just moved fast and now I am at a point where my ego and self esteem is being affected.
 
str8guy28 said:
My wife is bi so she is ok with this. She does not watch however. I was just doing this for my friends benefit and didnt antipate others getting involved. I dont know much about the gay lifestyle or how common what is now going on. It just moved fast and now I am at a point where my ego and self esteem is being affected.
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It's nice to know the wife is ok about your decision
 
I am just trying to resign myself to it for this Saturday. I am not feeling so sure about it anymore and a feeling peer pressure from the swing group
 
My boy
THIS GAY dude, thinks you just sound TOO nice for words - to TOO many top dudes - who aren't really being too nice to YOU
I might have said it earlier, but unless you're REALLY enjoying all this attention - not to mention a kind of sex, that you sound like you've tried to talk yourself in to - you'd be best to pull the plug on things, for the moment
I'd guess you feel a bit USED - but feel you've made a commitment - and don't feel to good about terminating the arrangement

But this MUST be good for YOU - not just good for every dude topping YOU
That 'special little place' is yours to offer up - but ALSO yours, to take BACK
Maybe you could limit things, to just your four buddies, one at a time, on special occasions - if you were happy with that ?
REMEMBER, you're under NO CONTRACT to anyone - and you're NO ONE'S "sex slave"

(I've tried to think this through - from the view of being a 100% straight, male swinger - despite being a 100% gay bottom - so I hope it helps.
GOOD LUCK)
 
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Daylesford_Nude_Dude said:
My boy
THIS GAY dude, thinks you just sound TOO nice for words - to TOO many top dudes - who aren't really being too nice to YOU
I might have said it earlier, but unless you're REALLY enjoying all this attention - not to mention a kind of sex, that you sound like you've tried to talk yourself in to - you'd be best to pull the plug on things, for the moment
I'd guess you feel a bit USED - but feel you've made a commitment - and don't feel to good about terminating the arrangement

But this MUST be good for YOU - not just good for every dude topping YOU
That 'special little place' is yours to offer up - but ALSO yours, to take BACK
Maybe you could limit things, to just your four buddies, one at a time, on special occasions - if you were happy with that ?
REMEMBER, you're under NO CONTRACT to anyone - and you're NO ONE'S "sex slave"

(I've tried to think this through - from the view of being a 100% straight, male swinger - despite being a 100% gay bottom - so I hope it helps.
GOOD LUCK)
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Thanks, I do feel like I have committed myself to this. I am trying to be open minded about things and my fear is if I renege on this that I will come of as looking homophobic
 
str8guy28 said:
Thanks, I do feel like I have committed myself to this. I am trying to be open minded about things and my fear is if I renege on this that I will come of as looking homophobic
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no you want look homophobic. it seem like that you are being used for the time being. you are the new kid on the block and everyone wants a go. when i first started bottoming for my roommate i thought that is was going to be just the two of us. He mention to some of his other friends that i was a bottom. They all wanted a go. I let a few but after a while i felt like that i was being used. so i stopped. its your body you call the shots.
 
str8guy28 said:
I am just trying to resign myself to it for this Saturday.
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HERE'S a new twist you coulud add in, for a bit of new spark to the meet-up

Let them know you'll be topping for a while - just to feel what it's like to be in a tag team - gang-banging a gay dude
The shortest straw gets to go bottom, for that lengthy session (no backing out now, dudes)

Same guidelines apply, NEXT TIME



* I gotta say, I can understand - as a straight dude - how this could become something of a traumatic dilemna
To have all those gristle guns - and only one holster - sounds like a wet dream come true - to all the bots on here
It sounds better than any porn I've seen - and I reckon I'd trade my left nut for the video
 
Daylesford_Nude_Dude said:
HERE'S a new twist you coulud add in, for a bit of new spark to the meet-up

Let them know you'll be topping for a while - just to feel what it's like to be in a tag team - gang-banging a gay dude
The shortest straw gets to go bottom, for that lengthy session (no backing out now, dudes)

Same guidelines apply, NEXT TIME



* I gotta say, I can understand - as a straight dude - how this could become something of a traumatic dilemna
To have all those gristle guns - and only one holster - sounds like a wet dream come true - to all the bots on here
It sounds better than any porn I've seen - and I reckon I'd trade my left nut for the video
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I have no idea in topping. In fact I dont even get an erection from the thought of it
 
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